The news that Big S and Korean singer Gu Junye announced their marriage dominated yesterday's entertainment headlines, and in the voice of netizens respecting blessings, Big S himself mentioned in his response: No longer have children, no longer do weddings.
Perhaps for her, who has experienced the twists and turns of marriage, it is not surprising that she does not hold a wedding, but in recent years, some young people have no longer been keen on wedding ceremonies.
I know that several popular questions and answers about "no wedding ceremony" have more than one million views. The Douban "Get Married Without Wedding" group has more than 3,000 members, who are here to discuss the feasibility of not having a wedding and give advice to strangers who have a deep resonance with themselves.
The wedding, which was originally the most valued ceremony of life, seems to be chilled out by some young people. What made them give up on the wedding? We've put together the following seven points.
Preparing for "The Most Important Day of My Life",
From romance to trouble
I don't know from what day onwards, weddings are packaged as "the most important day of life" in modern society. The exquisite and gorgeous hero and heroine stare at each other with tears under the loving gaze of relatives and friends, and such a romantic scene also stimulates the tear glands of the viewer.
It is not until someone has actually experienced a wedding that they can experience the hardships behind it.
Preparing for a wedding includes the following links: booking a wedding hotel, selecting a wedding dress to take wedding photos, planning the process, setting up the scene, booking a wedding car, camera and makeup artist, etc., each of which takes from two weeks to three months.
If you want to plan a wedding that's still visible, prepare at least a year in advance. A few days before the wedding, the couple also rehearses many times to avoid being ugly in the highlights of life. Not to mention that on the wedding day, the bride has to get up early to put on makeup, wear heavy wedding dresses, greet guests, and attend the banquet until the end of the day.
After going through this process, they found that tedious and tiring is the norm for a wedding.
Not only laborious but also expensive
Each of the above links that need to be carefully prepared also needs to be stacked with money. The money for a wedding usually consists of a wedding feast and a wedding celebration. According to the estimation of the wedding service platform Wedding Chronicle, in Shanghai, the price of an ordinary wedding banquet is 5,000-20,000 yuan per table.
The wedding money includes planning, wedding photo shooting, stage decoration, wedding car transfer, on-site follow-up, host, makeup artist, guest souvenirs, etc., which are not small expenses.
Among them, as an important project in the early stage of wedding preparation, wedding photos can not only characterize the overall style of the wedding, but also be preserved for a long time, so they are regarded as key preparatory projects by many young people. According to Ai Media Consulting, in the first-tier and new first-tier cities, the average wedding photography of newlyweds is more than 10,000 yuan.
In this way, the price of a wedding ranges from 150,000 to 2 million.
There is a kind of wedding,
Called "Your Parents Asked You to Have a Wedding"
More than young people pay attention to the sense of ceremony of the wedding, it is the parents of both sides. Chinese traditional weddings are loved by the elders, in 2021, 41.5% of the weddings are Chinese traditional weddings, and 33.8% are Chinese and Western weddings. At the wedding, the young people's eyes went through the formalities: worshiping the heavens and the earth, drinking a cup of wine, toasting tea and changing their mouths have become the real commitments in the hearts of their parents.
In addition to the obsession with the need for rituals for life events, there are also many elderly people who urge their children to do weddings with the idea of "taking back all the money they used to go out". After all, this is one of the very few occasions where many distant relatives can be gathered, and it is a good opportunity to recover the money that has been taken out of the past thirty or forty years in one go.
Not to mention whether it is really possible to return the money, this idea of using the child's wedding to recover part of the money also makes young people full of psychological burdens.
a variety of kissing customs,
An "Occasion for Civilized Monkey Watching"
Since it is a Chinese wedding, an awkward day usually begins with kissing. The traditional kissing ceremony is like a large monkey scene, and the groom has to pass five levels and cut six generals to end this social death.
Probably because I think the traditional door blocking, tacit understanding of the question and answer is not creative enough, in recent years, the kissing game has become more and more bizarre, such as mouth-to-mouth card, wearing pants with bare hands, using the face to break through the plastic film, etc., and finally undoubtedly ended with the groom and groomsmen group out of the grass.
Of course, this may be a preventive shot for the more embarrassing wedding scene later on.
Cookie-cutter wedding companies,
Create awkward stages in bulk
Sixty percent of young people will choose to find a professional wedding company to do wedding planning, and this is like any game between Party A and Party B, full of uncertainty and helplessness. When you and the planner spent more than two months talking about a dream wedding, only to find that they used the same process to perfunctory.
In the past two years, a large number of wedding service companies have emerged in China, but their scale is small, and the service category is relatively single, which is difficult to cover the needs of customers in planning, wedding hosting, dress, wedding car rental, wedding venue and makeup styling. At the same time, the lack of professional planning talents has led to the same process of modern weddings.
As a result, the most romantic day in your eyes has become standing under the shining ball of lights, listening to the emcee use the newly learned earthy love words, clumsily creating a sensational atmosphere in the field.
Rich people's competition,
A high-end wedding in exchange for the anxiety of the circle of friends
The real rich people are constantly challenging more complex and fancy weddings, and also refreshing people's imagination of ordinary people's luxurious weddings.
From private customized wedding dresses, luxury cars to kiss, pigeon egg diamond rings, to elaborate invitations and souvenirs, they can become touching moments "unintentionally" posted on social platforms. Millions of wedding offers create anxiety while also making young people lose interest in the show.
Entertain guests from all over the world, ignoring true affection
The interpersonal relationships that need to be considered when planning a wedding are also a headache for many people. Young people pay more attention to gatherings with close friends and family, but in reality, they are faced with wedding banquets with as many as twenty or thirty tables, inviting some colleagues who are not familiar with each other, as well as distant relatives and old classmates of both parents in various places.
The newcomers had to toast from table to table, and in the midst of a table of discussion, they could only have a brief conversation with their truly close family and friends, and in the blink of an eye, they were drowned in more people who did not know each other at all
In the end, the wedding that obviously featured you became a large gathering of middle-aged and elderly students.
Young people are taking back the initiative in the wedding
In this context, more and more young people have abandoned the romantic, dreamy, fairytale imagination of weddings, and only the weariness of formalistic weddings.
Blocking out all outside distractions, some young people have regained their right to choose. In 2021, about 18.5% of people chose a walk-and-go travel wedding, without the red tape of preparing for the wedding, only the bride and groom, wearing wedding dresses in a foreign country, receiving blessings from strangers around them.
Young people choose to abandon the wedding, perhaps because they pay more attention to the marriage itself. They know that even a million-dollar wedding of a celebrity is just a formality, and the marriage problem they really need to face is just starting on that day.
Author: Grapefruit
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