A Cloud | Wen (Author of Fushu)
Only when things are not urgent, face them slowly, do not get angry and show their cultivation behavior, do not panic about major events, and calmly and calmly, can we walk steadily and far in the world.
I once saw a witty saying: Everyone is a sauerkraut fish, sour and superfluous.
After smiling, it is emotional. Walking in the rivers and lakes, tasting the taste of the world, experiencing the difficulties of the world, the bitterness in the heart, no one understands.
You and I in the red dust are always entangled in the mortal world, leaving us deeply trapped in the quagmire of anger, anxiety, and confusion, and unable to extricate ourselves.
And the true wise man has the most brilliant way of dealing with things: slow face, quiet voice, and peace of mind.
- The first thing to do is to "slow down"
The Maxim Lianbi says: "The more lenient it is to deal with difficult things, the more generous it is to deal with people in difficulty, and the more appropriate it is to deal with urgent things." ”
Urgent things will always confuse our minds and put pressure on us.
If we are restless and eager to make quick gains, we will often disrupt our positions.
When you adjust your emotions in advance, ease your mentality, and then carefully observe and sort out your mind, you will often have the effect of doubling your efforts with half the effort.
I once saw a story about a scholar who went to Beijing to take the exam, and a small bookboy followed with a large stack of books, all of which were tied with wooden planks.
By this time, it was nearly dusk, and the city gate could be seen in the distance. Shusheng couldn't help but be anxious in his heart, worried that the city gate would be closed and that he would not be able to enter the capital before dark.
So he urged the book boy to speed up and hurry.
At this time, an old man came in front of him and looked at them. Then he said, "If you go slowly, it will be too late; in such a hurry, the gates of the city will be closed." ”
After the student heard this, he was very annoyed in his heart, thinking, this old man, what about making fun of us?
As a result, not long after leaving, the book boy did not pay attention, fell down, not only broke the skin of his leg, but also broke the rope, and the book was scattered.
By the time they hurriedly rearranged their books, the city gate was already closed in a limping rush.
At this time, the scholar recalled the words of the old man, which was indeed reasonable.
Only a good mindset can determine good actions, and good actions will have good results.
The more urgent things are encountered, the more calm and relaxed the mentality, the more stable the action should be, and the result is naturally joyful.
Zeng Guofan said: "The world is often due to busy mistakes, and it is more relaxed. ”
Some people are always in a hurry to do things, but they often make mistakes in the panic; only when things are slow, calm down and slow, not in a hurry, and have a safe mentality, will they achieve more with less.
- Handling Things Wise in "Sound Quiet"
The ancients said: "There are many words from the restless, and there are few words from the Ji people." ”
Impatient people tend to talk more, while people who are wise enough tend to talk less.
There is an ABC rule in psychology. A stands for things, B stands for cognition, and C stands for emotions.
When many people encounter unhappiness, their first instinct is A's problem, and they will not think that it may be B, and they will not feel that it is caused by C.
A man was rowing a boat in the river when he was suddenly confronted by a boat. At that time, he was very annoyed in his heart, and he got up and was about to scold the other party.
Suddenly, it was found that there was no one on the opposite boat, just an empty boat. In an instant, his bad emotions were swept away, and there was no anger before.
This is the empty ship theory.
Do not complain when things happen, do not take the self-centered, control emotions, face life, this is a kind of "quiet" wisdom.
Weng Tonggong, the third-generation emperor of the Qing Dynasty, said: "There is calmness in every major event, and I do not believe that there are no ancient sages in this day." ”
Jing is not only the great wisdom of not being in danger, but also the most emblematic of one's cultivation behavior.
Lao Tzu, the founder of the Taoist school, was reading in the house one day.
At this time, a visitor came, who said that he had long admired lao tzu's great name, and had deliberately traveled thousands of miles to visit.
Who knew that just after the meeting, he saw the ordinary-looking Lao Tzu and the simple residence, and he was disappointed, and blurted out, Everyone praises you as a wise man, and I think you are not much better than a mouse.
Ordinary people must be indignant when they are so humiliated. Lao Tzu only looked at him once, and continued to look down and read quietly, not caring at all.
Afterwards, the person felt that he had gone too far and came to the door to apologize.
Lao Tzu said, it doesn't matter if you call me a mouse, a pig, or a dog, because these are all things you think, I am still me, and it cannot affect and change me.
"University" has clouds: "Quiet and then can be safe, safe and then can worry, worry and then can get." ”
Only when a person's mind is at peace will he be calm and thoughtful, and he will have a harvest.
Let our minds be at peace, so that we can not be disturbed by the complicated outside world, and can we hear our own hearts.
- In case of trouble, you are in the "peace of mind"
The ancients said that Mount Tai collapsed in front of it and the color did not change, and the Yellow River decided to be at the top and not to be alarmed.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Sima Yi, as the marshal of the State of Wei, went out to attack the Shu Kingdom Street Pavilion.
At that time, the guards were careless, resulting in the fall of the street pavilion, and Sima Yi took advantage of the victory to pursue and led a large army to the western city.
At this time, Zhuge Liang was right in Xicheng, facing a huge army led by Sima Yi. Zhuge Liang had no troops to stop him at all.
If the attack comes, there is no way to fight back.
Just when the people in Xicheng were restless, Zhuge Liang was calm and calm, and said to the crowd: "If Wei Bing arrives, don't move, I have my own plans." ”
Zhuge Liang was unusual, unlike others guarding the city gate tightly, but let his subordinates open the city gate widely, and put away the flag, and did not arrange for the garrison to defend.
And he himself alone took a child up to the city tower, let the child burn incense, and leisurely played the piano on the city tower.
The two armies faced each other, and the large army was about to suppress the situation, but there was no trace of panic in Zhuge Liang's body, and it was still this leisurely look.
This made Sima Yi, who had experienced hundreds of battles, feel confused in his heart, lest there be deception in the city. He never dared to bring his troops into the city without authorization, but turned around and withdrew his troops and stopped attacking.
Later, when Sima Yi learned that the Western City at that time was just an empty city, when he attacked again, Zhuge Liang's reinforcements had arrived, and finally won Sima Yi.
Master Hongyi said, "Don't be impatient when dealing with things, but if you are impatient, you don't have time to do it yourself, so why bother to deal with things?" ”
If we immediately lose our minds as soon as we encounter something, how can we face the problem rationally and deal with things. When things are flustered, it will only be easier to say the wrong thing and do the wrong thing.
In this life, people will encounter many things, and only when they are at ease in advance can they do things well in a safe manner, otherwise they will only fall in impatience.
- Write at the end
In the Mahabharata Sutra, it is said: "Everything moves, and there is no rest in circulation."
The world is changing, and everything is always changing.
May we be able to face things slowly, quietly, and at ease, and be wise people and encourage us with the King.
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