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A good word is a blessing, and a bad word is a curse.
Thousands of words, it is better to be silent.
The heart is straight and fast, and it is painful for a while, but it bothers you and hurts others.
The more mature a person is, the more he will understand that if he manages his mouth, there will be less misfortune and more blessing.
02
Too much mouth is a curse.
My friend Hua Hua told me about a thing in the unit.
There is an old employee who thinks that he has worked hard and does not pay attention to the new employee. In addition, the boss promised to promote him, which was even more proud of the spring breeze.
One day, a new employee, because the business was not skilled enough, modified a few sentences on the contract, but a typo appeared. The old employee knew, and scolded with a split head and a face cover.
The new employee bows his head and admits his mistake and takes the initiative to take responsibility. However, the old employee still had to be unforgiving: "If I become a manager, the first one will brush you, and your best roll will leave." ”
Last month, the personnel of the unit changed, several people were promoted, the old employees were not in the list, and the new employees were listed instead.
People who have been scolded fiercely have become their bosses, and old employees are very embarrassed to go or stay. If you leave, it will be difficult to find a job, stay, and you can't hang on to your face.
Hua Hua said: "The more you have to spare people and spare people, the more powerful your mouth is, the worse your popularity is, and you also block the back road of life." ”
In society, there are traps everywhere, you don't pay attention to the color, you still open your mouth and shut your mouth to fight against people, talk behind your back, you will fall into the trap.
"Thirty years of Hedong and thirty years of Hexi", you will not know what will happen tomorrow. But your mouth can't be controlled, and tomorrow you will be very sad.
Talk about others, provoke right and wrong. Things that have nothing to do with yourself, you have to mix, indicating that you are a person, your curiosity is particularly strong, and there is a suspicion of making it difficult for others.
Talking about others in person is equivalent to giving others a slap; talking about others behind their backs is spreading rumors, which is extremely hypocritical.
Blame your family and increase your conflict. As soon as you open your mouth, you say how bad your family is, and your family is very bad. Then family conflicts will continue to increase.
Families get along, they should comfort each other, rely on each other, if you always think that they can't do it, it will be chilling, it seems to be breaking up the family.
Let's say to your child, "I'm disappointed that I'm disappointed" and you're going to be a "useless person." When your child grows up, he will resent you.
Complain about life and cause pain. If you complain to yourself and say that you are bitter, then the pain will be multiplied. Life is sunny, but you turn your back on the sun and expose the dark side.
The mouth is two skins, saying too much, that is, the upper and lower skins are fighting, think about it seriously, and are very afraid.
03
Less talk is cultivation.
I like such a sentence: "Life is in the world, and what supports you to the end must be character and cultivation." ”
What is the cultivation of the mouth? As the ancients said: "Meditation is always thinking about oneself, and gossip is nothing but wrong." ”
Not revealing people short. Even perfect people have shortcomings. For example, the mink cicada, one of the four beauties of ancient times, had large feet and a loud voice when walking. She often used long skirts to cover her, and she hung ornaments around her waist that could make a crisp sound.
There is a saying in the "Disciple Rules": "People are short, do not reveal." ”
To unmask the short is actually to hold on to other people's scars, which is equivalent to pouring salt on the wound. Therefore, smart people, know, but will not say it.
Don't talk about personal interests. As the saying goes: "No one behind anyone says, and no one says behind anyone's back." "Speaking behind the back of others, although it does not directly produce conflict, but it embodies the evil in words.
Privacy is like the corner of a house, rarely patronized by the spring breeze. But you often go to the corner and flip around, which looks very different. The right thing to do is to sweep the dust out of the corner every once in a while and keep it clean and tidy.
I don't remember anyone. The things of the past, when spoken out, are to turn over old accounts, and although everything is transparent, it will make people uncomfortable.
Let the past pass, talk about the present things, feel the happiness of the present, and really shine.
Once, a friend of Socrates went to the temple and asked the oracle, Who is the smartest in this world? God said, it is Socrates.
So the friend was very excited to relay God's Word to Socrates.
I thought Socrates would be happy, but he said, "The only thing I know is that I don't know anything." ”
Everyone is self-aware and doesn't need to "comment on it" in vain.
When you get along with others, it is enough to say a few words of praise occasionally, find out the strengths of others, and help a bunch when it is critical. Fewer words, but more sincere.
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Silence is wisdom.
There is a saying in the Tao Te Ching: "The sound of the great sound is loud, and the elephant is invisible." ”
For those who really have great wisdom, words are rare and precious.
Silence is a force that can silence those who talk a lot. For example, when others talk about you, you keep quiet, and then treat him with a smile, and he is naturally interested and walks away in a gray manner.
Silence is to give up entanglement and let the trouble keep a distance from yourself. No matter what's going on around you, if you don't look around, if you don't talk and evaluate, then things have nothing to do with you.
Silence is humility and putting one's own achievements at the lowest. Only by abandoning the aura above our heads will we find our own deficiencies, continue to be with the masses, and feel the beauty of life.
Silence, in fact, is "great wisdom and foolishness", the surface is very confused, do not pay attention to anything, in fact, the heart is very clear.
The earth is low into the sea, and the people are low into kings. Take the initiative to stand on the side, stand back, your posture is very low, but you have become the most sober bystander, further can restrain others, step back can save everything you have.
05
Conclusion.
Seen an intriguing story.
One day a student hurried up to Socrates and said, "There is good news."
Socrates asked rhetorically, did these messages go through three sieves?
The first sieve is truth; the second sieve is goodness; the third sieve is important.
The student stood to the side and stopped talking. His "news" comes from the street, does not know good and evil, and is as light as a feather.
If you don't know how to speak, then use these "three sieves" to filter out the excess words.
If the sieve isn't enough, you just shut up and don't say a word.
The best life is just to be alone in a corner, and silence is gold.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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