Sending children to kindergartens also leaves the protective circle of parents. So the anxiety arises: Will my child be bullied in kindergarten?
"Bullying" is really unavoidable! A few days ago, a parent posted such a screenshot in the circle of friends: the child was scratched by other children in the kindergarten, but in the face of such bullying, the child did not tell the teacher, nor told the parents.
Such a child is really heart-wrenching.
Do we think that only if a child is beaten, he is bullied?
Not really! Behaviors such as nicknames, social isolation, etc., are bullying and will cause psychological shadows to children.
But such bullying is extremely difficult for us to detect, if parents and teachers do not find out in time that the child is being bullied, the shadow of being bullied will continue to affect the child's life.
1, the child's sense of value becomes low: children who are bullied and grow up will naturally suffer from the endless blank eyes and depreciation of others. The heart will constantly question whether they are really bad, so that they are inferior, unconfident, sensitive and suspicious, and eventually lead to a decrease in their sense of self-existence!
2, the child gradually flattered personality: the friends who have seen Doraemon must be familiar with the role of "Little Husband", who is actually the same as big bear and has been bullied by fat tigers. However, in order not to be bullied by the fat tiger, the "little husband" gradually gave up the principle and joined the fat tiger team, all kinds of flattery and flattery. Therefore, if the child is bullied for a long time but is not valued by his parents, his self-help choice is: a flattering personality.
3, children will be more timid: circus elephants and tigers in front of people to perform a variety of movements that should not belong to animals, which is the result of a long period of beatings. The same is true of the child, in the face of long-term bullying, he will be like a frightened bird, detouring every day, lest he avoid it. Even if you see what you want, a sharp look from someone else directly scares off the child.
In order not to let the child be bullied and bullied, as a parent, we must do these two things in advance!
1. Be the strongest backing of children
I remember when I was a child in school, because I belonged to the youngest in the class, I was often excluded and isolated.
Once, on the way home from school, I was directly pushed to the ground by the naughty children in the class. When I got home, I was discouraged, but I didn't dare to tell my parents.
In the end, Dad went to the teacher to understand the situation and knew the truth of the matter. The next day he took me to school, and he directly asked my classmates to stand up in the class and say to me in front of me: "I'm sorry." ”
I still remember this scene vividly, and the little bully who was once flying and stumbling had to apologize to me in front of my father. Since then, I have never dared to have my classmates bully me again.
In fact, after bullying in school, many teachers will deal with the mud. The result of this is to apologize in person, and the subsequent beating is even worse.
Therefore, what I want to tell is: parents, we must give our children enough confidence, only to tell the children that no matter how much you are bullied, I will get justice for you, and I am the strongest backing! (Of course, we must understand the reason for the matter to seek justice Ha)
2. Recognize bullying
As we said at the beginning, it's not just physical attacks that are called school bullying. Children being isolated and nicknamed are also categories of bullying.
However, in the child's cognitive view, he does not even perceive that it is bullying, and will only feel that he has deficiencies and defects, which leads to everyone's dislike.
First: we can use the "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book" to tell children what kind of behavior belongs to bullying, what we need to do in the face of such bullying, we can't use this method to target other children.
Second: We must clearly tell children: it is not your fault to be bullied (bullied). In the face of bullying, we have to say loudly: No. If you don't dare to resist and then run away, it's no problem. When you encounter malicious bullying, you must first protect yourself.
Do these two things well, and the child will not worry about the child being bullied everywhere