There is no photocopier in life, and since you can't copy the lives of others, live the moment and be yourself.
Now people often say: TV dramas come from life, and life is far more exciting than TV dramas. This statement really makes sense. Sometimes some of the plots seem unimaginable, but in real life they really happen.
Each era has its own specific era background, and when encountering the impact of the times, the generation that grew up in the present can always summarize some life principles from its own growth trajectory.
With the passage of time, these truths slowly emerge and reveal the light of their true knowledge.
"Blood Romance", a TV series that once resonated with the post-60s and post-70s, I believe that many post-80s did not have much enthusiasm for this TV series at that time.
However, as I grew older that year, if I had time, I would brush this drama again, and I might still see my own shadow in it.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="4" >01 Life is always imperfect</h1>
In fact, as a period drama, the social changes after the 1960s are strange and familiar to the post-80s generation.
We say strange because we did not grow up in that era after all, many real situations we do not understand, and we say familiar because we can understand the stories that happened in that era in many literary and television drama works.
The portrayal of each character in "Blood Romance" is a true portrayal of different classes of people in the social background at that time.
In contrast, the male protagonist of the text, Zhong Yuemin, is actually more illusory, as if he were a fictional character created by the author in order to complete his dream.
In the play, Zhong Yuemin is a jumping second-generation official, and the identity of the cadre's son makes him a tide of the times.
Zhong Yuemin has been outstanding since he was a child, handsome and compelling, but he always runs into trouble and causes trouble, and there is a group of supporters to support, coupled with the relationship between his father, Zhong Yuemin, even if he has many mistakes, finally he will not be able to do it.
These faults look more like the kan'er who helped him grow up, and in adulthood, Zhong Yuemin is still debauched, the people who love him are still around him, and he can wander the world for freedom without worrying about livelihood problems.
If you want to read "Blood Romance", the first level should read Zhong Yuemin's personality.
After many people understand it, they will be much more comfortable with their own lives, you know, people who have a smooth life really don't, and there must always be some imperfections in life in order to live to make people love and hate.
No matter what era, we all hope to become a person like Zhong Yuemin, who can have just the right social status, be respected, be followed, and have enough connections.
Even if you accidentally hit a hurdle and fall to the bottom, there are people who help themselves, and there is no more and no less money, so that they do not have to do what they do not like to do in order to survive.
However, people will soberly understand after middle age that these are all out of reach, and our reality is not so much just right. The moon has clouds and sunshine, people have bad luck, and the missing circle is the real circle.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="9" >02 Chinese-style relationship</h1>
Relationships have been a delicate interpersonal relationship in our country since ancient times. Chinese values feelings, but also pays attention to the growth and development of families.
"Own people" is the three words that Chinese like to say the most, because these three words may bring great help to themselves invisibly.
People with relationships may easily get some benefits as a result, and people who have no relationships, toiling and turning all their lives, may still be unremarkable. But most people still have no relationship, such as Li Kuiyong.
The name "Blood Romance" has a very deep meaning, originally it may tell a romantic love and youth story, plus blood color, it gives people a cruel idea, yes, reality is also very cruel.
Unlike Zhong Yuemin, Zhou Xiaobai and others, Li Kuiyong has nothing to do with the children of cadres and is also a very ordinary member in life.
His father was a bather, and originally he and Zhong Yuemin did not have any intersection, but because of Li Kuiyong's personality of Geng Zhi and righteousness, the two people met.
Perhaps in Li Kuiyong's heart, he and Zhong Yuemin's acquaintance and fellowship are happy, judging from the later plot development, although Li Kuiyong did not get substantial benefits from Zhong Yuemin.
But what I have to say is that with a friend like Zhong Yuemin, and back in his own alley, how many of those dare not show Li Kuiyong three points of weakness? This is the embodiment of the nature of a relationship interest.
Turning back to reality, doesn't this situation often occur in our lives?
In real life, most of us are ordinary and ordinary, and we don't have the kind of background relationship that shocks people a little bit at first hearing.
So we like to connect with people who have "relationships", even if it is a class reunion, we like to surround those who have successful careers.
It seems that the relationship between them is very close, so that their ordinary people's identity is blessed with a special aura.
Doesn't Zhong Yuemin understand what Li Kuiyong means?
Obviously not, but Li Kuiyong and his friends around him are completely different from ordinary and vulnerable, and indeed brought Zhong Yuemin a certain sense of superiority, so the two maintained a good friendship.
The reality is also the same, no matter what kind of relationship, can bring a little psychological compensation to both sides, in order to maintain the continuation of the relationship.
Because Zhong Yuemin had the experience of helping each other before, Li Kuiyong's subsequent life was to help Zhong Yuemin, and this relationship may have been the most unexpected for Zhong Yuemin.
When the facts are unpredictable and there is a fault, it is this most "humble" partner who was previously in the eyes of Zhong Yuemin who gave him help, and such a sincere relationship has brought the two all the way to the end of Li Kuiyong's life.
In the "Thirty Only" TV series, the friendship between Gu Jia and Wang Manni has this mutually beneficial relationship.
Gu Jia entered the circle of rich wives, and her cleverness helped Wang Manni resolve some embarrassment.
Although Wang Manni is only a cabinet sister, the luxury resources she has helped Gu Jia open the way to enter the circle of rich wives, and the deep friendship between the two is precious and long under this mutually beneficial relationship.
Many post-80s sigh that after entering the society, it is difficult to have a simple friendship like classmates, which is true.
If there is no "relationship" that can be maintained, the friendship in society will only drift apart, and it is a cruel reality that has to be faced.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="13" >03 Half a student read Li Kuiyong</h1>
The TV series is far better than life, but in "Blood Romance", Li Kuiyong's life is described quite desolately.
At first, I felt sad, but when I watched this drama in middle age, I realized that the screenwriter at that time also came out of life.
Everyone strives to live like Li Kuiyong, but happiness does not necessarily come because of this.
Li Kuiyong did not have Zhong Yuemin's background, and all the relationship chains were broken with the sudden death of his father.
In order to support the whole family, Li Kuiyong was sent to the countryside and returned to the city again, facing a hometown that was already strange, and Li Kuiyong, who had no roots, had to make twelve points of effort to survive here.
Is there any difference between such a Li Kuiyong and us at present? Thousands of us condensed into such a Li Kuiyong on the screen.
Today's post-80s have entered middle age, conscientious, down-to-earth efforts, may not be able to exchange for a house in the city, raise children and daughters to support themselves, under the burden, do not dare to get sick.
Tiredness is everyone's most direct experience of life.
Once upon a time, there were friends who agreed to wander to Daocheng without any worries, to go to the no-man's land of the Taklamakan Desert to cross the desert and feel the desert.
But these agreements are slowly placed, we all have our own jobs, have our own responsibilities, and how many people can be desperate?
When he was young, he would feel that the screenwriter targeted Li Kuiyong and put all his bad luck on him, setting off Zhong Yuemin's bumpy romance for a few points.
When I exchanged half a lifetime of experience for a sense of life, I understood the screenwriter's good intentions.
Most people in the world are "Li Kuiyong", there is no perfect relationship to help, no family business to inherit, busy for life, but in the face of an illness to fully understand.
Li Kuiyong finally said that even God thought he was too hard and should take him away as soon as possible.
Life is like this, not every effort can get a good harvest, when you go through a thousand sails, suddenly enlightened, will understand that living in the present is the most important philosophy of life.
Perhaps many people will say that the screenwriter is unfair, Li Kuiyong just lost at the starting line, but he also worked hard all his life, but the screenwriter let him lose until the end.
But where is the 100% fairness in reality? In reality, we are all Li Kuiyong, and we are also working hard and working overtime, but the starting point is different, which has laid the groundwork for our lives.
Of course, there are also many people who have successfully counterattacked, low starting point, high finish point, but what is this proportion?
Most people still live ordinary, work hard, take no more and no less salary, suffer from various life trials of small and small, and finally can end up in peace.
Birth, not dragging down the person who raised you, death, not affecting the person you are born, perhaps, this is the biggest expectation of our middle-aged people today.
When you understand Li Kuiyong, your life has reached middle age, and it is good to be able to understand it, and after the great enlightenment, you will be able to see clearly and indifferently about life, and you will see those worldly "relationships".
No longer angrily accusing the injustice of the times, and spending it peacefully and peacefully is the greatest respect for life.