Zhang Ailing once wrote:
Among tens of millions of people, meeting the person he wanted to meet, in the tens of millions of years, in the endless wilderness of time, there was no earlier step, no step later, just caught up, she became the affection in his heart that could not be abandoned.
Love, whether morning or evening, catches up, is the most beautiful;
Love, taste like wine, wine is not intoxicating, people are drunk.
Middle-aged man, tasted wine, bitter, spicy, sour and sweet, all kinds of tastes.
The richness of experience, allowing them to appreciate women's perspectives, will also be different from young people. In their view, a woman's appearance is only part of her charm, and a woman's inner life, and whether she can spend the future life with him, will make him more important.
After half a life, all kinds of thorns and grass, potholes, all kinds of human feelings, cold and warm, wind and rain, they have seen it, they will cherish the preciousness of true love more, and understand the deep affection of the people around them.
They will no longer be as eager for beautiful women as they were when they were young, but will be very pragmatic to choose the emotions that suit them best.
They also long for romance, but they hope to be able to share the chicken and dog pieces in the ordinary days with the people around them, and they are more eager for the feeling that this person around them gives him is solid, stable, and able to spend the rest of his life with him.
Therefore, in the eyes of middle-aged men, these three characteristics of women will deeply attract the hearts of others.
The "femininity" of the woman makes him feel the moisture of love
Perhaps, in love, the most unforgettable thing for men is the gentleness and thoughtfulness of women, which is what we always like to say about "femininity".
In his eyes, she did not have to have long hair fluttering, a long skirt, nor a dress to be charming, nor to behave charmingly, but he could feel the elegance and tenderness that emanated from her inner soul.
Just like Empress Fucha in "Yanxi Raiders", she is calm, gentle in speech, knows how to measure, and has culture, making the emperor unforgettable for a lifetime.
In life, when a man reaches middle age, all kinds of pressures and challenges will sweep in, and if he has such a woman next to him, then no matter what stormy days are, no matter what big winds and waves she encounters, she will not lose her face and panic, but with gentle firmness, accompany him, giving him the warmest encouragement and the greatest courage.
This tender femininity on a woman's body, like a cup of warm tea, gives men a hint of light in the ice and snow; like a pool of clear water, gives men a touch of coolness in the mixture of fish and dragons.
Their gentleness and quietness, calm and elegant, have brought full strength to the man's heart, and in the face of no matter how big the trouble, he will not be restless, but will clear his thinking and will not be overwhelmed by the difficulties in front of him.
When people reach middle age, every bit of life is "sad", and this femininity makes men find emotional comfort and find reasons to persist in the future life path.
The woman's "book aroma" gave him a reassuring family atmosphere
Perhaps, when young, middle-aged men will be very addicted to women with beautiful appearances, even if women occasionally spit out "lotuses" with dirty words, he will not care.
And, when a man reaches middle age, he will consider his offspring, and will long for his home to have a book-scented atmosphere, so that his children can grow up in a cultural, healthy and idyllic environment.
Therefore, a woman with the "aroma of books" and exuding intellectual beauty will surely attract his attention deeply.
"Belly has poetry and bookish self-glorification", a bookish woman, even if the appearance is not amazing, will also have an otherworldly temperament, their breathtaking academic qualifications, a certain depth of cultural accomplishment, calm and self-assured insight into the world, let people talk to them, you can feel their inner heritage and accumulation.
They will not argue with people aggressively, nor will they give rude and bold instructions to people, nor will they "chew the root of their tongues" behind their backs, and they will not do their best to tell their tragic experiences like Xianglin sister-in-law.
They are quietly, lightly, silently, subtly, adding a sense of peace of mind to a home, so that men want to be with such a woman, eager to have a foreseeable future with her.
And when a man encounters problems and troubles, a wise book-scented woman will also find a way to advise him, do a good job of his behind-the-scenes helper, let him have one more virtuous help, and let his career be like a tiger.
Therefore, such a woman with the "aroma of books" and smart and exquisite will make men feel that being able to have such a woman with them is the greatest blessing for the rest of their lives.
The woman's "fireworks" allowed him to find the warmth of home
Some people say that middle-aged men are confessed.
Deeply.
Life is difficult, middle-aged people are difficult, and middle-aged men are even more difficult.
Every day when he opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who need to rely on him, but there are no people he can rely on.
Therefore, if there is a person next to him, always tell him to eat breakfast, always urge him to go to bed early, always care about his emotions, always care about his body... Such a woman will make him feel the beauty of "starting a family" incomparably.
Love, always easy to love, difficult to keep.
And a woman with "fireworks" will give him the warmest company in his ordinary days.
She will take the initiative to share the housework, will be eager to take care of his food and living, will clean up the home, comfortable and warm... She will understand his difficulties, understand his difficulties, share the hardships of life with him, and bear the coldness of life together.
Such a "fireworks" woman makes him forget his own difficulties, makes him have the desire to rely on her for his life, makes him have unlimited expectations for life, makes him want to give her a better life, makes him more motivated, and works harder.
Life is bitter, along the way, he has crawled and seen all kinds of people in the world, but this woman around him has hurriedly came, just want to go shoulder to shoulder with him, such a woman, will make him want to cherish the beauty of this true love even more.
Conclusion:
People are inert.
And if a woman hides a gentle femininity, a full of book aroma, and a strong pyrotechnic atmosphere, she must be a person with tenacity.
They were not overwhelmed by the trivialities of life, but in the little bits of time, they precipitated their own personality, accumulated their own talents and learning, calmly, as if the spring breeze, with their own composure, to their loved ones, brought inexplicable peace of mind.
They will no longer live like seeing flowers in the fog and looking at the moon in the water, but they will be real and comfortable, see through life, live a poetic life, and realize the short romantic love for a long time.
The charm of each person is her life experience, past experience, books she has read, people she has met... Form a unique taste.
Women, only in front of the right person, will let you feel her beauty, will let you "in the eyes of the lover, out of the West", will let the man never forget, lingering.
Therefore, if you are middle-aged, if you have such a woman around you, you must cherish it, life is short, do not let your fate, leave regrets.
Author, Frank Fox
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May you find in my words the ordinary years, a strong affection! Thanks for your attention!