Chinese people have a certain pursuit and attention to marriage, and feel that this is one of the important links in the life of most people, so there are certain standard restrictions on the object of marriage.
But today, with the rapid development of modern civilization, we can still see people wearing wedding dresses and independent streets, just to "sell themselves".
Behind this seemingly absurd event, there is a hot, piping family heart beating vigorously.
A life of staggering
On January 24, 2015, the wind in Kunming carried a little cold, the flow of people near the railway station was surging and countless people were shuttling and moving around here, and their lives seemed to be intertwined by fate, witnessing the touching winter warmth together.
On this day at the Kunming Railway Station, 24-year-old Huang Xiju was dressed in a white wedding dress, and the broken diamonds and pearls inlaid on the huge skirt reflected the daylight, but there was little joy on her face, replaced by more sorrow.
She is not a "snow maiden" who waits for the prince and goes hand in hand with him to go to happiness, but for the sake of her relatives, willing to accept the "Mulan" referred to by thousands of husbands. On a piece of notice she held up in her hands, everything was clearly written.
Huang Xiju was born in an ordinary family in Zhijin County, Bijie City, Guizhou Province. Her parents are there, she has a kind elder sister to take care of, and a few years later she has a cute brother.
Huang Xiju wears a wedding dress with her brother
This family is like thousands of Chinese families, making their lives more colorful through daily hard work and hard work.
Gradually, Huang Xiju grew up, studied, and grew up, she became a college student, and after graduation, she entered the county hospital to work, although the family situation is not rich and noble, but fortunately, her brother is angry, admitted to Shenyang University, and the family's life is more hopeful.
But fate is to love to joke with these ordinary people, it looks like an understatement, but it will make this ordinary family change dramatically.
In 2011, his younger brother Huang Xichao had just entered the university life, when he had not yet seen the world from the perspective of a college student, and the change climbed onto his body like a vine.
Looking at the diagnosis of leukemia on the examination sheet, he was as weak as a child for a moment, and the most powerful backing he could think of at this time was his ordinary home.
Huang Xichao's diagnosis
But this family is too ordinary after all, the original not very rich family foundation is even thinner under the devouring of the disease, in a short period of time, this family has been four walls.
In order to further help Huang Xichao treat his illness, his parents have sold all the valuable and sellable things in the family, but these are still a drop in the bucket compared with the figures on medical expenses.
For leukemia, the most effective treatment is to perform bone marrow transplantation, which will be one of the few opportunities and ways to help Huang Xichao change his fate.
Leaving aside other factors, the horrific surgical costs alone have made the family feel deeply powerless, not to mention the follow-up drug treatment and long-term medical expenses, which have made the family see no hope, and perhaps in countless late nights, Huang Xichao has felt remorse for his illness.
hospital
But even so, this ordinary family did not want to give up, and those who were intertwined with their lives became noble people who helped them get through the first difficulty.
After learning about Huang Xichao's condition and family situation, the School of Civil Engineering and Architecture of Shenyang University carried out an active donation activity for this student with excellent character and excellent learning, and raised more than 40,000 yuan successively.
Subsequently, the Guizhou Hometown Association of other universities in Shenyang also actively played its own role, successively raising more than 30,000 yuan, Huang Xichao's family also made a loan to the bank, with the help and support of many parties, finally passed the first difficulty, so that Huang Xichao lay on the operating table of bone marrow transplantation.
It's just that the family has not yet realized what kind of road will be in the future, and they need to hold hands, move forward, and never look back.
Huang Xichao and Huang Xiju
Suffering singles out the bitter
After the bone marrow transplant, Huang Xichao still needs to undergo long-term drug treatment to achieve the purpose of full recovery, and these expenses are still a face that the family does not dare to look at.
In addition to these, once Huang Xichao has a postoperative rejection reaction, then medical expenses need to increase again, which will be the most undesirable result for the Huang family.
However, in April 2014, Huang Xichao was diagnosed with severe systemic sclerosis, which is also one of the specific manifestations of the typographic reaction, which means that if Huang Xichao wants to be safe, he needs to rely on enough economic foundation to support, but for the Huang family, it can be regarded as "old accounts are not cleared, and new accounts are added".
But fortunately, the parents are still at home, everything still has a chance, as long as the hope in the heart is not extinguished, there is always a chance. However, to the surprise of the whole family, when Huang Xichao's body was not fully recovered, the mother who took care of everyone in the family also had an accident.
Bone marrow transplant surgery
Since Huang Xichao's illness, the family is the mother taking care of everyone, several years of continuous fatigue has already made her physically and mentally exhausted, and it is precisely because of this exhaustion that she fell, and this fall also made her already bad health take a sharp turn, and soon died, which made the family worse.
Huang Xichao blamed himself incomparably, he felt that he was the initiator of all these tragic fates, so he also asked his family to give up himself many times, but the whole family did not approve of this practice, and now that his mother has died, he has strengthened the family's idea of saving Huang Xichao.
But one of the top pillars of the family has fallen, in the face of a few thousand yuan a week in medical expenses, the family are frowning, helpless, Huang Xiju chose to wear a wedding dress, to the railway station high-profile marriage to raise medical expenses for her brother, which also has a scene at the beginning of the article.
On that day, next to the Kunming Railway Station, Huang Xiju and Huang Xichao were there, Huang Xiju stood in the crowd wearing a wedding dress, and his younger brother wore a hospital gown and a hat to cover up his illness. This went on for a few days, but unfortunately they still couldn't wait for the person who could help them.
Huang Xiju and Huang Juchao were surrounded by reporters
In order to make others believe in himself, Huang Xiju would bring his brother's medical records and diagnosis certificates every time, and he also specially asked for the doctor's name to let skeptics inquire, which could prove that the family was indeed forced to a dead end.
For the conditions of the marriage partner, Huang Xiju herself did not have too many requirements, for her, as long as she can afford her brother's medical expenses, she can let her family once again be on the right track.
But at this time, the Huang family's debts were already as many as 300,000 yuan, coupled with the huge medical expenses paid every week, which made most people choose to watch.
At the crowded Kunming Railway Station, Huang Xiju's high-profile marriage solicitation quickly attracted people's attention and attention, and more and more people surrounded their sisters and brothers.
The reporter interviewed Huang Xiju's sister and brother
But all sentient beings are mediocre, everyone can only mourn their misfortune, and there are also well-meaning people who understand the origin of the matter and help them, and take out money to help them tide over the difficulties, but these are still small for the huge medical expenses.
Huang Xiju also knew that she could not repay these well-wishers, so most of the time she refused these donations and instead focused on marriage.
The gathering of people in the densely populated railway station is obviously a certain safety hazard, so the local police arrived at the scene of the railway station to persuade Huang Xiju and Huang Xichao to leave after receiving the corresponding news, and Huang Xiju also understood the seriousness of the matter, followed the police's advice, and left the Kunming railway station with his brother.
Although the "selling yourself" approach to marriage failed to achieve the desired results, it still helped Huang Xiju's family gain enough attention.
Huang Xiju
Thankfully helped
When Huang Xiju was soliciting marriage at the Kunming Railway Station, many voices appeared around her, including both supporters and opponents.
Supporters feel that Huang Xiju did such a thing for the sake of family affection and responsibility, which is the embodiment of his beautiful character and kind nature, and it is also an event that can play a good social orientation role, so they give Huang Xiju unlimited support and tolerance.
Another voice believes that Huang Xiju's so-called "marriage solicitation" is a high-profile hype, which uses public sympathy to carry out moral kidnapping.
At the same time, there are certain improprieties in her behavior, which not only causes people around the train station to gather, leaving a safety hazard, but also inadvertently spreading bad values, which is a contempt for marriage and personal freedom of will.
But no matter what the world thinks of this slightly bizarre thing, the help it has brought to Huang Xiju's family is obvious to all.
After huang Xiju's relevant government departments in Zhijin County learned of this incident, they immediately conducted verification and verification, analyzed the identity of Huang Xiju's family and their family status, and sought verification everywhere, aiming to provide help to Huang Xiju's family within their capabilities and work together with them to tide over the difficulties.
The local government has verified the basic economic situation of Huang Xiju's family, and confirmed that his father had an inflexible arm problem in his long-term mining work, lacked a certain degree of employability, and could not participate in social work, and Huang Xichao himself did have acute lymphoblastic leukemia.
After a series of surgical treatments and medications, there is still a serious rejection reaction, and after insurance and help from local medical offices, a large amount of funds is still urgently needed for treatment.
After confirming that the situation of Huang Xiju's family was true, the local social assistance bureau launched an active support work. Huang Xiju's county social assistance bureau personnel went to Kunming to deliver charcoal to Huang Xiju's family.
leukaemia
While distributing the relief funds, various relief and poverty alleviation policies were publicized, so that Huang Xiju's family saw the hope of the future, and at the same time actively encouraged them, so that Huang Xichao cooperated with the doctor's treatment and looked forward to his early return to campus.
With the help of many parties, Huang Xiju's family has received help from different parts and organizations and individuals, and local government agencies have also given them more relationships. The family, plagued by the disease, finally kept the clouds open and saw the moon, and in their lives, those warm sunshine once again slowly projected.
The sufferings of the human world are like deeply small mountains, which stand across the lives of countless people, and use their broad bodies to fiercely block the already faint and small light.
But fortunately, in addition to suffering, there are people in the world, there are people who dare to lend a helping hand for strangers, there are people who provide help for the poor people, and the most valuable thing is that there are people who are willing to accept the fingers of thousands of people for their relatives, and together they make the cold world a little more warm.
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