Dickens said in "A Tale of Two Cities" that intimate love, like an estranged estrangement, can be unpredictable, and the former is mysterious and elusive.
Deeply. Men who fascinate women usually have a vagaries like rain like fog and like wind, and women never know what men are thinking, but they are firmly conquered by men.
It is said that women are emotional animals, first fall in love with a man's soul, and then fall in love with his whole, but often when falling in love with men, men are like mysteries, sometimes clear, sometimes hazy, but when men have uncertainties that women cannot control, it is the moment when women are most infatuated with them.
This is a man's strategy for women to go far and near, in fact, it uses the "Babe's Law", firmly grasps the woman's heart, and constantly relies on the "routine" to conquer women.
The "Babe's Law" of Near and Far
Babe's law is a concept in psychology that means that after a person has experienced a strong stimulus, the same stimulus is applied, it becomes insignificant.
For example, when a man is often very considerate of women, women will feel taken for granted, and once a man is a little sluggish with her one day, it will cause women to be angry, thus falling into emotional contradictions.
In another way, men usually do not say good to women, not bad, and when they are particularly attentive and concerned about women for a certain period of time, they will make women feel very happy.
In this way, if a man has always been very good to a woman, and occasionally ignores the woman's emotions one day, the woman will feel wronged, feel angry, and feel that the man does not love himself? And when the feelings that have always been faint for women are suddenly very considerate to her, they will feel surprised and happy, which is actually influenced by Babe's law.
Women's emotional sensitivity to men is like a 1 dollar lollipop suddenly rising to 10 yuan, which will certainly be unacceptable, and a 100 yuan lollipop rose to 110 yuan, there is not so much gap is the same.
That is to say, when the same thing is presented in different ways, the sensitivity of people is not the same. Of course, under the influence of Babe's law, sometimes it will blind our eyes and make us fall into a misunderstanding.
Therefore, many times the scumbag is using Babe's law, usually hot and cold to women, sometimes it will be excellent, to hang women, so that women can not forget themselves, and even fall into the cage of love can not extricate themselves.
The forward energy of Baber's law
Psychologists have done one such experiment: there are two pairs of lovers, the first pair of lovers, every weekend the boy will send a bouquet of flowers to the girlfriend; and the second pair of lovers, the boy only send flowers to the girlfriend on Valentine's Day.
The girl who collects flowers every week does not show too much enthusiasm, but complains that others receive more beautiful than hers, while the girl who collects flowers for the first time is very happy and excited.
You see, the first girl doesn't feel much about flowers, while the boys think that girls should be excited and happy to receive flowers, and in the same way, giving them to different people at different times has very different results, which is the difference caused by Babe's law.
For the first couple, a man does not have to send flowers to his girlfriend every week, because she does not feel happy in this way, but will have a lot of opinions.
And Babe's law tells men and women in love: do things that send charcoal in the snow, do less icing on the cake, and don't do dispensable things.
Because many times, whether it is a man or a woman, they will think that they want to give more love to each other, think that they understand each other enough, and even do not ask the other party what they want, they will pay with a brain, but these efforts are easily despised and ignored.
For example, men always think that women should not go home too late, do not talk too much to male colleagues, and do not socialize, but men are restricting women's interpersonal interactions and social circles in the name of being good for each other. This will not only cause women to resent, but also feel that they are being too "strict" by men, and may eventually rise to emotional contradictions.
Therefore, for men, it is necessary to understand what women want, rather than just paying for things without asking, and to use the positive force of Babe's law to face emotional problems.
Recognize love, in order to love better
A woman and a man quarreled and gambled and left home, did not bring money and mobile phones, and wandered around for a day, until she was hungry, and then a kind little restaurant owner let her eat for free.
The woman was very grateful to the restaurant owner and said: We don't know each other, you are so kind to me. My husband and I have been married for more than ten years, and we are so desperate for me.
And the little boss said: I am just inviting you to a meal. If you think about it, your husband must have invited you to eat for more than ten years, shouldn't you be more grateful?
This story is very small, but it also shows a truth, the common love is not to feel the temperature, it is precisely because of more than ten years of habitual selfless love, once there is a little bit of dissatisfaction, it will feel that there is no love.
This is the negative side of Babe's Law, so for each of us, don't take the high-level "routine" as love, and don't turn a blind eye to the sincere good.
Many times the strategy of men to conquer women is to create an illusion for women, and with a little love, women feel that men love themselves very much, and even grateful to the point that it is not enough to make a promise to each other.
In fact, this is the feeling of men using the "advanced routine" Babe's law to manipulate women, it is worth noting that the man who picks you will play the "routine" for the woman, and the man who really hurts you will only use the action and care of the landing, and use tolerance and money to build a sense of security for women.
Therefore, for women, it is necessary to have immunity to men's "advanced routines" and the ability to discern, rather than relying on emotional consciousness and falling into the "love network" carefully woven by men.
Especially in the face of unruly men, pretending to be sophisticated men, women must be vigilant against their "routines", especially when they will be Babe's law, hot and cold to women, be sure to polish their eyes, do not be "routine" and actively conquered.