Recently, many parents have been reading an article titled "No One Will Tell You Your Child Is Rude."
In China, no one will tell you that your child is not polite, but everyone will hate your child. We regard this "not to say" as a kind of courtesy, and the saying of the state of etiquette is "the wife is the good of others, and the child is the good of oneself", so the children teach themselves.
This reminds me of another story —
Going out with a German friend, passing a small river in the suburbs, and seeing a child fishing with two fishing rods next to him, the German friend walked over unhappily and asked, "How come there are two fishing rods?" (Germany stipulates that a person can only use one fishing rod for fishing.)
The child replied, "He came with his classmates, and he went to the bathroom." (Sure enough, after a while, the child who went to the bathroom returned)
The German friend continued to ask: "Is there a license?" (Germany requires a license for fishing)
The two children quickly pulled out their licenses: "Yes, you see." ”
"Do you have a ruler?" A German friend asked again (Germany stipulates that fishing should have a ruler, and the fish caught should be put back if it is not the specified size)
"I brought it." The two children quickly took out the ruler.
"Oh." So the German friend walked away.
I was very strange on the side, not knowing why my friend was in charge of so much, "Those two are the children of your relatives?" ”
"No."
"Your friend's child?"
"Nor is it. I don't know them. ”
"What? Don't know? How is that possible? Why should the family listen to your discipline? ”
"Huh. Education is the responsibility of the whole society, children are the future of Germany, and each of us Germans has the responsibility to carry out education anytime and anywhere. The German friend said lightly.
I pondered for a long time, and I thought of a scene: Walking on the streets of China, do you dare to loudly rebuke those children you don't know and teach them how to do it?
During my time in Germany, I have been thinking about the question: Why is German society civilized, and why are Germans universally respected around the world? By learning about and experiencing education in Germany, we seem to have found part of the answer.
In the eyes of many people, the rise of Germany after the war is inseparable from their "rigorous" and "hard-working" national character. It is generally believed that Germany's high-quality national character benefits from the emphasis on education. As Martin Luther King, the leader of the American black civil rights movement, said: "The prosperity of a nation does not depend on the solidity of its treasury, the solidity of its castle, nor the magnificence of its public facilities; it depends on the civilized qualities of its citizens, that is, on the education of the people, the foresight and character of the people." That's where the real stakes lie, where the real power lies."
The victory of Germany was decided on the podium of the primary school teachers
It is said that after the end of the Franco-Prussian War, Prussia won a great victory, and Marshal Moltke of Prussia said that the victory of Germany had long been decided on the podium of the primary school teachers!
In Germany, the profession of primary and secondary school teachers has a very good income. According to the relevant statistics of the government, the Salary paid by the German government to primary and secondary school teachers is more than twice the per capita national income. The per capita annual pre-tax income of German secondary school teachers is more than 45,000 euros, which is comparable to the per capita annual pre-tax income of employees of some well-known multinational companies in Germany, and primary and secondary school teachers belong to the veritable "middle and high income class" compared with some other industries.
There are also certain differences in the income of teachers in different regions and between different schools, but they will not be very large, at most about 30%, because the most intolerable thing in German society is injustice, and this value orientation has penetrated into their blood and accumulated into a national culture.
Looking around the world, German primary and secondary school teachers earn more than other industrialized countries except Switzerland and rank second in the world. In terms of professional nature, German primary and secondary school teachers belong to the state's civil servants, are protected by dismissal, are not at risk of unemployment, and have two long holidays a year.
Such a good income treatment has raised the threshold for the qualification of primary and secondary school teachers in Germany. In the mainland, undergraduate, master's and doctoral students can directly apply for teaching in primary and secondary schools. In Germany, the situation is much more complicated. If you want to become a primary and secondary school teacher, you have to pass at least three "passes".
Germany bans preschool education? How can it be!
The phrase "Germany bans preschool education" is often seen on the Internet. German children are not stupid and play every day before going to school, and Germans have their own understanding of "preschool" education, and children will learn something. Their school bags are no smaller than ours.
In Germany there is a book on children's education, very popular, called Struwwelpeter: with many absurd and witty stories to tell children what is right and what is wrong. They pay the most attention to the cultivation of children's personality and moral character, and many good habits are also the result of family education from an early age.
For example, self-care ability: such as diet, sleep, excretion arrangement, self-care ability training.
For example, the sense of rules: the food on your plate must be eaten; you must eat the meal before you can eat snacks.
For example, love: many families will raise small animals at home, such as puppies and kittens, so that children can take care of small animals personally, and know how to take care of weak and small lives.
For example, strong: after a child falls, as long as it is not very serious, parents will not immediately go to help, but let them learn to stand up on their own.
For example, respect: tell children to respect the privacy of others. Many German parents don't go through their children's stuff without their consent.
For example, courtesy: German parents will say bitte (please) when asking their children for help, and then they will say danke (thank you).
For example, financial management: German parents will be very strict about the amount of pocket money, will let the child do some simple housework to get pocket money, to avoid unearned gains.
For example, taking the consequences: a German mother said to her son, who always wakes up late, "I'm sorry I can't drive you to school." You have to blame yourself, you can choose whether to give up breakfast or be late. ”
For example, taking responsibility: There is a strict German family, and if the child forgets to put dirty clothes in the laundry bag, he has to continue to wear dirty clothes.
For example, integrity: German parents will first lead by example, and often tell their children that they must abide by the agreement, cannot easily take vows, and promise things to be done within the specified time.
For example, self-confidence: German parents attach great importance to the cultivation of their children's self-confidence, even if it is a little progress, parents will give more encouragement and appreciation, because they know that the source of children's self-confidence from an early age is their parents. They also never deny their children's excellence in other aspects based on their grades.
For example, cooperation: in Germany, whether at home or at school, there will be some group activities for children. Because in Germany there is a saying called "Wer alleine arbeitet , addiert. Wer zusammen arbeitet, multipliziert.” (One person's effort is addition, a team's effort is multiplication)
Take a look at their good habits when they grow up:
Reading: Germans often hold a book in their hands, and on the subway, there are fewer people playing mobile phones and more people reading books. In Germany, if you pay attention, you can see bookstores of all sizes, and there will always be a lot of readers in bookstores. Paper books seem to still be popular in Germany in this electronic society. 91% of Germans have read at least one book in the past year, 23% have read between 9 and 18 books a year, and 25% have read more than 18 books a year.
Punctuality: most Germans can abide by the prescribed time, the punctuality here is not only Germans, but also refers to German public transportation, in the absence of accidents, each subway, bus can arrive at the station on time according to the timetable.
Family-oriented: Germans are more family-oriented than work-oriented, they go home after work to reunite with their families, rarely do not go home because of socializing, and spend time on their families on holidays.
Obey the rules of the road: Germans are very obedient to the rules of the road (not all, of course, there are pedestrians running red lights), especially drivers, because this is related to their own and the safety of others. Driving in Germany will basically turn on the daytime running lights, and when they change lanes, they must not only look at the rearview mirror, but also turn their heads to see if there is a car in the blind spot area (a must learn when taking a driver's license).
Focus on quality of life: Germans are definitely not a vain people, they prefer to spend money on the quality of life to enjoy, although they can build the world's top cars. For example, they would spend 200 euros to buy a thermos instead of a Gucci wallet, they would spend 500 euros to buy a kitchen appliance instead of an LV bag, and they would spend thousands of euros to maintain their garden instead of a Burberry coat. Because they know that the real luxury is their own quality of life, not a bag or a coat.
Environmentally friendly: Germans rarely litter because they know the importance of the environment, even in foreign countries. A German and I were climbing in China, and since we couldn't find the garbage bin, the German walked all the way down the hill with his own ice cream stick and found a trash can before throwing it away.
Contract Spirit: In our opinion, many Germans are very rigid, even inflexible, but this is due to the culture and a "contract spirit" cultivated from childhood, they easily do not make promises, but the things they promised will be done. With the guarantee, there is a commitment to the quality of the German brand.
Indomitable: Why are German cars so much more expensive than regular cars? Why are German pots tens or even hundreds of times more expensive than ordinary pots? Why do Miller washing machines in Germany cost tens of thousands or even hundreds of thousands? Why is Made in Germany a symbol of high quality? In fact, the German products of a hundred years ago were ridiculed by the British, but it is because of the focus and persistence that there is today's quality assurance.
Observance of social order: Almost every German will abide by social order, such as queuing, whether it is people queuing, or cars stuck in line, there is rarely a phenomenon of inter-line.
Public morality: If you pay attention, you will find that most of the time the public places in Germany (except during the ball game) are very quiet, almost everyone is in a state of whispering, and there is rarely loud noise. (Except for fans and drunks).
Compassion: Most Germans will take the initiative to help the weak, the disabled or the elderly. Old people falling down will happen in Germany, but someone will come up to help, and there will be more than one. When encountering a disabled person, someone will also take the initiative to help.
Patriotism: Germans rarely say how much they love their country, and even often satirize the irrationality of their own country. But it is not difficult to see their patriotism in their insistence on using the products produced in their own country, and of course their confidence in their own products. If you come across international ball games, then you can definitely feel their strong patriotism.
Respect for life: When encountering special vehicles (police cars pulling alarms, ambulances, ambulances, etc.), civilian vehicles will take the initiative to pull aside.
| Proverbs 22:6|
To raise a child, to make him walk the path of the profession, even when he is old, he will not deviate.