When we get along with people, we all want to get along with people with good character. Getting along with people with good character will have a feeling of spring breeze, and with such people, even if there are some quarrels, they will not worry about each other's feelings breaking down, and they will not calculate themselves.
And getting along with people with bad character, we will be "scared", because we don't know which sentence we inadvertently said wrong, which thing is done wrong, we will make the other party hold a grudge, and then wait for the opportunity to retaliate.
Psychological research has shown that people with "bad hearts and eyes" often have these characteristics, please keep your distance when encountered.
First, seeing profit and forgetting righteousness, it is full of the atmosphere of the city servants
Shen Bijun in the TV series "Beauty Plan" is Du Yunxi's aunt, Du Yunxi's parents were killed by others, at that time she was only seven years old, helpless, and could only go to her uncle.
A seven-year-old girl, even if she eats, how much can she eat?
But Shen Bijun used this as an excuse to say that she would not take Du Yunxi in at all, saying that she was dragging an oil bottle, and her uncle was good at saying that du Yunjun was evil, and Du Yunjun also begged his aunt that he could work, which made Shen Bijun agree to keep her.
So the whole family rested leisurely, and a seven-year-old girl burned fire, chopped firewood, cooked and washed clothes.
Shen Bijun as a mother, and Du Yunxi is not an outsider, a little girl came to her uncle without any support, and even if a kind heart does not treat her as a flesh and blood, she cannot bear to let such a small child be wronged.
But Shen Bijun is not a kind person, she only has interests in her eyes, and she can only see interests.
There is nothing wrong with being a beggar, nothing selfish, but a person's bottom line is always to have a conscience when they are selfish.
If there is not even a conscience, but only the benefits, then people's eyes will be red and their hearts will be black.
Second, left and right, a set in front of the face, a set behind
After all, people with high emotional intelligence are "backers and sing mountain songs", and they are getting along with different people in different ways.
But one set in front of the face, one set behind it is another layer of meaning.
It refers to a person who is polite on the surface, but in fact is a dressed beast behind his back.
Such a person is good at disguise, and his heart is also extremely dark, not allowing others to take advantage of him, but he holds a grudge against those who are unwilling to let himself take advantage.
Bring together the five people we spend our days together, and their quality determines our quality.
Near Zhu is red, near ink is black;
The room of the fragrant orchid, for a long time without smelling its fragrance, with it to melt; the abalone is rampant, for a long time without smelling its smell, with it.
What kind of person we spend with will ultimately determine what kind of person we can be.
Therefore, get along with good people and good character.
As for those who misbehave, we would rather be alone than with them.
Deliberate pandering is too hypocritical, inappropriate is inappropriate, friendship is arbitrary, not tolerate a little far-fetched.
Third, narrow-minded, full of the stench of jealousy
Have you ever seen such a group of people in your life - when you buy a house, it is not a blessing, but "this house is not very good, you buy a loss";
When you are admitted to college, it is not a blessing, but "you can't find a good job after graduating from this school";
When you raise your salary, it is not a blessing, but "your boss must not have good intentions and no good intentions."
In short, at the moment when you should be happy in your life, they never send blessings, but all kinds of yin and yang weirdness, all kinds of words that make you feel unhappy.
Such a person is "bad heart and eyes."
We live better than them, they are unbalanced in their hearts, but in a short period of time they cannot reach our heights, so they take such a way to make us unhappy inside.
Such a person, narrow-minded, can't see that others are better off than himself, but he refuses to work hard.
In the TV series "Ode to Joy", Tan Zongming said, "Please remember that if you ignore you just because of some of your behavior, then this person is not qualified to be your friend at all." A rose has thorns, but no one hates it because of the thorns. ”
There are really nasty people, this person does not really love you, he or she does not deserve to be your friend or lover.
Writer Xue Xiaochan once said: "When people reach a certain age, they are recycled." At the end, three or two confidants, a cup of light tea, and live your life as you want. ”
Not all people are good people, and not all people can be called friends.
Dealing with people with "bad hearts and eyes" will only go on with time, and let us feel that such people are not worthy of deep friendship, and the more such people treat each other with sincerity, the more a minute is wasted.
Digging out one's heart and lungs for a person may be exchanged for a lifetime of confidants, and it may also be exchanged for a lifetime of lessons.
Therefore, those who have "bad hearts and eyes" should stay away.