Do you often face stress?
When faced with pressure, do you choose to lie flat or face the difficulties?
Would you see the challenge as a nuisance or an opportunity?
These are some of the common reactions That Farah Stull mentions in Breaking Into the Uncomfortable Zone that people face frustration and stress.
It can be said that everyone faces different difficulties in different periods, and if you want to get out of the confusion and get quick success, there is only one quick way, that is: take a step forward and stay up.
The meaning of staying up is not to let people go with the flow, but to learn to accept discomfort, that is, to fall in love with discomfort zones.
Discomfort is the norm in life
There is a phenomenon that makes us extremely uncomfortable only for the first few seconds, and once we have to survive those few seconds of suffering, we can gradually get used to discomfort.
Farah' Stewart tells this story in Breaking Into the Discomfort Zone:
Once, she was on vacation, staying in a hotel with a verdant swimming pool, she liked it, and wanted to go swimming, so every morning she reminded herself that she must go.
However, every time I walked to the side of the pool, I was frightened by the cold pool water, and under several times of self-suggestion, I did not act.
This frustrated Farah Stuhl, especially when she saw five retired elderly people swimming in the pool, making her feel too evasive when she was facing an uncomfortable zone.
So with a fierce heart, she jumped into the water. The feeling of pain was intense, but it lasted only a few seconds before she enjoyed the sparkling water on the surface of the water and months of relaxation and triumph.
Since then, she has understood a truth: discomfort is the norm in life. Habit is not, jump out of the discomfort zone, in order to truly release a person's potential.
Because all pain and sadness are short-lived, the author calls these moments "BMD", that is, the momentary is not the moment.
Everyone can endure brief changes and pain, and after enduring a brief period of discomfort, the rest grows rapidly.
In the face of discomfort, it is important to accept
For many people, the hardest thing is not the difficulty, but the brave first step in the face of difficulty. In the face of difficulties, taking a step forward and not accepting it is the best growth.
Acceptance difficulties can be carried out in the following three steps:
The first step is to acknowledge your fears. By acknowledging what you're afraid of, you can find the line between comfort zones and uncomfortable zones. Admit that you are not perfect, admit that you are not as skilled as a person, admit that you are timid, and actually accept yourself.
Having identified and acknowledged one's fears, one has helped oneself into the discomfort zone;
The second step is to identify your uncomfortable moments. There are usually two types of uncomfortable situations for everyone:
One is dead-hearted comfort, the loss of a promising job and a less harmonious relationship, and the other is a vibrant comfort, such as guilt after brushing the phone.
The third step is to imagine difficulties. Many times it is not the thing itself, but the few seconds that we can't get out of. Once you step out, you will find that all the discomfort of the original can be overcome.
The author of "Breaking into the Discomfort Zone" believes that only by breaking into the discomfort zone can you feel that you are truly alive.
In other words, only by learning to get used to discomfort can we change our minds, believe that all difficulties are beneficial, and re-enter the "challenge state."
At this time, we have the ability to control ourselves, and we can find the life we really want, because only thought can do it.
Only by stepping out of the comfort zone can you accept your original self and accept a disorderly life, so that you can become more able to accept setbacks and rebuild contrarian quotient.
Face the discomfort, take a step forward
Think of all the love fairy tales where the heroine is living a happy and beautiful life, and one day there is a bad woman queen or witch appears, which changes all this.
However, it is precisely because of the appearance of these bad people that the heroine is further fulfilled to live more optimistically and happily. All this stems from the heroine taking a step forward and taking the initiative to move forward is not going.
It can be understood that in the discomfort zone, there are obstacles, some are small, some are large.
Attitudes toward these obstacles are important, escape or fear can deepen personal pain, while optimism and facing, actively greeting is not going, most can be reversed on the good side.
Thinking in the face of bad events is also called "obstacle thinking" and can also be called reverse quotient.
Many times, we encounter not real difficulties, but our own obstacles and limitations in the face of difficulties. That is to say, in the face of obstacles, if we first admit that we have failed, then we will never have the opportunity to turn over.
It's just that if a person really wants to challenge himself, he will take the initiative to face difficulties and face up to his weaknesses, and then he can spend more time and effort to find a solution to the problem, rather than loss and sadness.
There is a saying that goes something like this:
When you encounter obstacles, you don't have to stop. If you come across a wall, don't turn around and give up, you want to climb, cross or go around.
Specifically, when encountering obstacles, don't turn, don't give up on the goal, don't be overwhelmed by fear, but find a way to solve the immediate difficulty.
Only when we do not give up, do not abandon, do not run away from difficulties, we can give more meaning to difficulties. At this time, the confusion in front of you can be solved by fine-tuning the difficulty.
Find the meaning of struggle, face it is not castration, and do a step forward, with optimism and self-confidence, courage and confidence to solve all practical problems.
In other words, if each of us can stay in our own discomfort zone every week, like the author, then our growth and progress will be multiplied.
No one is more talented than anyone, only those who do not admit defeat and are transparent, those who are not afraid of difficulties, will continue to take the initiative to go to the discomfort zone, only deserve a better life, can meet a better self.
May you and I both step out of our comfort zone and take the initiative to bring ourselves closer to the discomfort zone.