Kazuo Ishiguro wrote in "Inconsolable": "In a world where technology explodes and communication is infinite, what we feel is unprecedented loneliness and helplessness. ”
"At a time when the whole world can socialize, we can't get really effective communication in the most primitive way."
With the advent of the mobile network era, mobile phones are affecting our lives all the time.
Even, subtly changing our three views.
Under the fast-paced lifestyle, brushing the circle of friends has naturally become one of the main ways for people to understand the outside world, feel life, and pay attention to friends.
While the circle of friends brings us convenience, it also brings trouble to our life and work.
Strangers in the circle of friends are becoming more and more numerous, while real friends "disappear" in the circle of friends.
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The circle of work has swallowed up the circle of friends
After Xiao Zhang joined the work in 2020, he successively joined the school's work exchange group, grade group, class group, teaching and research group and other WeChat groups.
In just a few weeks, Xiao Zhang's WeChat friends have increased by hundreds.
The complex network of relationships makes Xiao Zhang, who has just entered the workplace, feel troubled and stressed.
In the past, Xiao Zhang, who liked to bask in the circle of friends, now always thinks about it again and again every time he prepares to send a circle of friends, and finally simply gives up.
Although sending a circle of friends is only a simple record of life, she is also afraid that the sender has no intention, and the viewer has a heart.
Slowly, she didn't like to send a circle of friends, as if the circle of friends had bound the life she wanted.
On "How do I get along with my colleagues?" The problem, I know that netizens have a good saying: "Don't get too close to colleagues, and don't find friends in the workplace." ”
In the workplace, you are here to work, not to make friends.
Xiao Zhang is often asked to forward by the unit work group, and the publicity content of the unit is sent to the circle of friends, and at first she rejected it in her heart.
When she saw that most of her colleagues were forwarding, she began to waver, afraid that if she did not forward to participate, she would be criticized by leaders and colleagues.
Slowly, the circle of friends became part of her job.
After a hard day's work, when she came home to open the circle of friends, it was full of work information, and even she had to like and comment against her will.
She is in a dilemma, but she has no choice, in front of work and life, she can only choose to work first.
More and more leaders, colleagues and work-related people are entering our circle of friends.
In addition to working overtime and work in the circle of friends, we dare not easily send anything else.
Today, our circle of friends has become only work, only work, and no life.
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The business circle has isolated the circle of friends
"You never know who the next WeChat chamber of commerce in your WeChat friends is."
Although this is a ridiculous sentence on the Internet, it is also a true portrayal of the gradual evolution of WeChat's "circle of friends" into a "business circle".
Before the Spring Festival, I accompanied the second uncle to buy a car, and found that the merchant let the second uncle pay attention to the WeChat public account and add WeChat, so as to enjoy discounts and points activities.
When we eat, visit supermarkets, and buy clothes, we are often invited to add merchant WeChat, pay attention to the circle of friends, and buy online.
At present, the WeChat circle of friends, which is no longer "simple", has developed into a special way of online shopping and community business.
In our eyes, the other party is our WeChat friend, but in the eyes of the other party, we are just the other party's private domain traffic.
As a result, as soon as we opened the circle of friends, what we saw was not the product introduction of micro-businessmen, or the professional information promotion of friends, and all kinds of business information occupied the screen of the circle of friends.
A few days ago, I read a sentence on Zhihu: "All walks of life are becoming more and more intense in the circle of friends, and this behavior not only erodes the share of WeChat circle of friends advertising, but also affects the ecology of the circle of friends to a certain extent." ”
Once, the life dynamics of friends, classmates and relatives that we brushed have slowly faded from the circle of friends.
Instead, micro-merchants who sell goods in the circle of friends send out dozens or even dozens of advertisements a day.
A brush, the micro-business advertising brush screen; a moment and then brush, or their advertising; and then brush a little later, found that the micro-business advertising has been isolated from the circle of friends.
It seems that the advertising circle of micro-businessmen is building a high wall to isolate the friends in the circle of friends.
When we want to set up a "circle of friends that don't look at them", we don't want to lose "friends".
At the time of dilemma, we must cherish those true friends in the circle of friends even more.
At the moment when the circle of friends is isolated in the business circle, those WeChat friends who do not sell things to you and do not try to make money from you seem to be very valuable.
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False circles have blinded the circle of friends
Those who "show off" in the circle of friends every day, are they really doing well?
I once saw a post-95 Internet celebrity circle of friends punching in the Internet, exquisite life, fresh and elegant, and the years are quiet.
In the circle of friends, she has been praised countless times and has become the envy of the "little fairy" in the eyes of everyone!
In fact, she was in a messy room, and after exhausting the posing, she imagined a gorgeous palace, and the exquisite presentation was to attract everyone's envy and praise!
The virtual world immerses her in it, and the "fake refinement" in the circle of friends makes her detached from real life, and her life seems to live for the circle of friends.
This kind of "seemingly" beautiful life actually blinds us from loving real life.
Previously, there were media reports: "Netizens first saw that there were more than 20,000 hot pots, and the woman said that the man escaped after being touched by the chest." ”
A woman, working as a graphic model in Ningbo, usually likes to share some selfies on Weibo, a man left a message for him on Weibo, and the two sides then added WeChat.
Because men often show off their wealth in the circle of friends, they attract the attention of women, and the two have the urge to meet when they talk about it.
It is understood that the man is working for a second-hand car shop, taking a salary of several thousand yuan, and those cars are not his.
The so-called high-end circle of friends is packaged by men, and the deliberate display of wealth is to attract the attention of girls.
Finally, the police said that the woman reported that she was molested by the man to attack the chest, due to insufficient evidence, it was impossible to file a case, involving the problem of paying for meals, and under the mediation of the police, the two sides finally shared more than 6,000 yuan of meal expenses equally.
The false circle of friends makes them lose both fame and fortune, and the gains are not worth the losses.
Excessive packaging makes them lost in the cage of falsehood, and the illusion in the circle of friends is eating away at their empty, mutilated souls.
Are they willing to do this? No, the web is illusory, but life is real!
Our world does not have so many audiences, and whether we are living well or not knows best in our hearts.
There is no need for blind vanity, deliberate packaging, painstaking, laborious performance, and finally more than worth the loss.
In fact, living in the present, as long as we can be true to ourselves, believe in ourselves, frankly, down-to-earth and not hypocritical, unpretentious life, is the highest state of life!
The circle of friends that used to greet each other, care, and warmth has completely left us.
And now what remains is falsehood, loneliness, advertising, and never seeing friends in the circle of friends again.
Friends in the circle of friends are "disappearing"!
In front of the screen, you can also look back, to this day, how many real friends in your circle of friends?
Author's profile: A little white who has been healed by words, a little brother who shuttles between virtual and reality, believes that words can also have faith and wings, "carrying" my soul to fly.