Dealing with people and reliability can be said to be the most important quality.
Zeng Guofan wrote in his diary: "Modesty and thickness are noble faces, humble and tolerant is noble faces; things are rich, and things are rich." ”
People who have these two noble and two kinds of rich looks are honest and reliable, and they deserve deep friendship.
Noble phase one: dignified and thick
Zeng Guofan is optimistic about the dignified and thick noble people, and hates people with greasy mouths and slippery tongues.
If you want to do things reliably, you can't do without the four words of "slow words and slow deeds". Through what you say, others can understand your cultivation level and true thoughts. Because more is to lose, it is better to listen to more and think more and talk less.
When dealing with problems, do not rush to make decisions. You may wish to slow down first and leave room for yourself to think.
Zeng Guofan said: "If you are slow in speech and dignified in demeanor, you will be virtuous." "On the battlefield, pompous behavior is enough to shake the hearts of the army, and smooth speech is enough to confuse right and wrong. When forming the Xiang Army, Zeng Guofan specially selected a group of generals who were solemn in their words and deeds. Under their leadership, the style of the Xiang Army was also completely different from that of the other Eight Banners Green Battalion soldiers, and the slippery habits of the soldiers were completely cut off.
Noble Phase 2: Humility and Tolerance
If one wants to exist in the world, one must learn to bow one's head.
As the old saying goes, there are clouds: Wood shows in the forest, and the wind will destroy it; when it comes out of the shore, the flow will be turbulent; the deeds are higher than the people, and the multitudes will not be. Pride is to make people's eyes higher than the top, and they can't see the road under their feet. Arrogant people often lose their reverence and are prone to cause trouble to themselves.
Zeng Guofan often wrote letters to warn the children in his family: Always have a reverential heart, do not do whatever you want because someone in the family is an official, and do not be arrogant because you have some knowledge.
It is better to know the world's affairs than to do seven points. Humility is a gesture, a cultivation, and even a strategy. Humble people can always see everything with a peaceful heart, and at the same time, they are more likely to be accepted by others.
Rich Phase Three: Things come to an end
"The difficult things under the world must be done easily; the great things under the world must be done in detail." Reliable people, no matter how big or small, as long as they are handled, they will have a beginning and an end, and they will be implemented.
Zeng Guofan said: To do anything, you must pay all your energy and never slacken off from beginning to end. He also said: Don't think differently, do this thing, think about that thing.
Reliability is not in the size of the ability, but in the ability to persist. Although the Tao cannot be done, although it is small, it is not impossible.
Rich Phase 4: Keeping in mind the good
At the age of 28, Zeng Guofan was admitted to the Jinshi, and thus began a career as an official for decades. Even as a member of the Imperial Yan Dynasty, Zeng Guofan never forgot to provide convenience for the people, in fact, his Feng Lu was not high, the family population was large, and the life was not rich, whenever he saw poor villagers, he always did not hesitate to lend a helping hand.
The ancients said: "The poor are good for the world, and the poor are alone." "Being able to hold others in your heart is the real big mind and big pattern."
A reliable person must have two noble and two kinds of wealth: solemn and generous, humble and tolerant, down-to-earth and focused, generous and helpful.
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