There is a sentence in the "Biography of Ming Shi Zhang Juzheng":
"However, there is a city government in the depths of the city, and it is unpredictable."
This sentence is easy to understand and explain, that is, a person is deep and silent like a city government, which makes people elusive.
Whenever the word "city government" is mentioned, I believe that too many people will be associated with people who cannot guess thoroughly, thinking that once a person has a city government, he has an unfathomable heart, which makes it difficult for people to guess the heart.
In fact, people who really have a city government are often reflected in their external style of doing things and their own personality characteristics, which are not obtained overnight, but the wisdom of dealing with the world after tasting life.
To be precise, a person who is deep in the city government will have five words on his body: "Flat, Hidden, Laughing, Fierce, and Specialized", which is very powerful.
1 "Flat" is as quiet as water, honor and disgrace are not alarmed
Montaigne said: "Silence is more beneficial to socializing than insincere words." ”
People who really have a city government are never high-profile people who talk about it and make a noise first, but everywhere is a calm and steady as water, making people look at peace of mind and comfort, no matter who they are with, they are good at listening, and then they will speak unhurriedly and loudly.
Such a person, I have met before.
It happened that in one meeting, there was a person sitting in an inconspicuous corner, listening carefully to every speaker on the stage who talked about his achievements, and everyone acted very excited and excited, expressing their own views and denying the views of others.
At this time, the host invited the audience to speak, the microphone passed to his hand, he slowly got up, expressed his views, really concise, directly hit the pain point, instantly made everyone dumbfounded.
Later, I heard others introduce that this person was the owner of a listed company in China, who was usually particularly low-key and rarely appeared.
For the master, it is not that he will not argue with people, but he can see the key point of the problem at a glance, and not argue with people in order to waste emotions, but often discuss things, not sad or happy.
Their city government is hidden in the appearance of calm as water, allowing their hearts to return to tranquility, fading the impetuousness that floats in reality, and making themselves laugh at the world.
2 There is a "hidden" place in case of trouble
In the Warring States Policy, it is said: "The cunning rabbit has three caves. ”
This is to say that the cunning rabbit will prepare several hiding nests in case of emergency.
The Analects writes: "Man has no far-reaching worries, but will have near-term worries." ”
If a person does not have a long-term plan, in fact, there will be immediate troubles.
Many people mistakenly think that the people who are deep in the city government must be left and right, exquisite on all sides, and no matter what they do, they have a comprehensive strategy.
In fact, this is a big mistake. People who really have a city government often think about one thing from a long-term perspective, and they will think of a hiding place for themselves to retreat, so that they will not be helpless in an emergency.
As you experience more and more in life, you will understand that "hiding" is not a derogatory term, but the wisdom of life that Mingzhe protects himself. You can do it with all your might, but it's smarter to leave yourself a way out.
Many times, not all people can pay without reservation, and not all things can be reckless, only by saving themselves can they overcome difficulties again and again, and they can meet victories again and again.
3 There is a "smile" on the face, neither sad nor happy
People who are really deep in the city government certainly do not have their joys and sorrows written on their faces, and they never care about the feelings of others.
On the contrary, they are with a "smile" on their faces, showing people with a gentle image, no matter who they are, they are a kind of respect, they will not easily engrave their emotions on their faces, expose their inner changes to others, but talk and laugh about things, push their hearts, and firmly put the initiative in their hands in silence.
There is a smile on the face, but also a kind of disguise color, especially when encountering strangers who do not know the details, they will not be moody and swayed by people's emotions, but they can let themselves be able to take it and put it down in addition to being calm, and really see the clues and distinguish between the light and the heavy.
For people in the city government, they have long understood the importance of "the heart of defense is indispensable", especially when they do not figure out and understand the true intentions of a person, they always convey kindness to the outside world first, and then change with the changes of the other party, dismantle the moves of the other party, really see a person, and understand whether it is worth deep friendship in the end.
4 Be "cruel" to yourself and be strict with yourself
To tell the truth, the people in the city are also excellent people, because they all have a "fierce" word in them.
It is not ruthless to outsiders, but it is cruel to oneself, strict with oneself, never compromising, not making up, one is one, never perfunctory.
People in the deep city government are often strict with themselves, and the things they value will never be abandoned halfway, and they will never be stranded because of a moment of gossip. On the contrary, once the goal is identified, it will go all out until it succeeds.
Their "fierceness" is also reflected in the ability to act, the things they look for will be quickly put into it, absolutely will not drag the mud and water, they understand that the opportunity must not be lost, the loss will not come again, this is responsible for themselves, but also the best way to seize the opportunity.
In fact, being "cruel" to yourself will make yourself more excellent, and you will also make it easier for you to see through some things, and you will not be easily confused by the promises and words of others, after all, you have really experienced it and have a full understanding of this matter.
5 In the field of "professional" industry, to the strength of the people
In fact, the people in the city government are definitely not bluffs and mysterious people, but they are very "professional" in a certain field, which can be said to be experts in this industry, always convincing people with strength. Because he can see through the essence of the problem, he will not follow the crowd, and many times it is easy for people to guess.
Their guess is not clear, is not to follow the current, but will express the most true views, will tell the depth that others can not see, this is strength, but also some people can not reach the height.
When they have been working in a field for many years, let themselves do endorsement through strength, and only then will they have the beginning of more people's trust and like.
For them, it is not easy to talk nonsense, not to say does not mean that they do not understand, but to cherish the aura on their bodies and take responsibility for what they say, which is the best kind treatment for themselves.
Generally speaking, chengfu is deeply related to its own experience and cultivation, and it knows better what it values most and what it can let go of, and it will never change its original intention because of the disturbances of the outside world. On the contrary, it is precisely because you see everything clearly that you will make yourself simpler and have more wisdom to see the world.
I hope that you will become a deep city person, not to please others, but really for yourself, go farther and farther!
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