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Don't dare to get along with strangers, 12 tips to help you become a social cow person
Smile from the heart
No matter what the occasion, as long as you can smile from the heart, the smile can build a bridge of communication between you and the other party, and quickly convey the sense of intimacy.
Remember each other's names and capture the intimacy
Name is a person's best business card and label, if you face a person's name that you are not familiar with, the other party will definitely have an inexplicable sense of intimacy with you, on the contrary, if you meet with a person two or three times, but still can not call out other people's names, the other party will have a sense of strangeness to you, so it is difficult to communicate next.
Use humorous language to defuse the awkward atmosphere
In the process of getting along, if you encounter an awkward atmosphere, you can use humorous language to resolve, for example, when you meet someone who is more timid and shy than yourself, you can joke with the other party: Do I look scary? Strange, how we did not find out. As long as you can use humor to break the deadlock in the chat, the other party will not refuse your kindness.
Learn to find common ground
When meeting for the first time, learn to look at the other person's mental outlook and mood habits from the other party's dress, demeanor, and conversation, and see if he is the same as himself. For example, if the other person wears the same coat as you, you will talk about the coat.
Learn to find topics and play with "questions"
In the process of getting along, let your thinking be active, be good at finding topics from the conversation, you can use the other party's clothing, names, etc., to trigger the topic, as long as there is a topic, the conversation can continue.
Select the other person's interest in chatting
When getting along with strangers, if you can ask about each other's interests and hobbies, you can use this as a topic. If the other party likes to read novels, you can talk about the characters of the novel, so that the more you talk, the more interesting it is.
Discuss the surroundings
Talk about the changes in the surrounding environment, what people think, and what impact this has on people, and are not afraid of word poverty.
Talk as equals and learn to ask questions
Wonderful conversations are all from a question, when you ask the other person a good, positive, related question, the other party must be enthusiastic to answer. But when communicating, you should put yourself in a correct posture, not be humble, and talk in an equal way.
You can be a listener first
When getting along with strangers, if you feel that you are not good at words, you can first choose to be a sincere and friendly listener, let the other party say a little more, encounter places that you do not understand, you can put forward your own questions, the other party will be happy to explain to you, you can take this opportunity, let it go.
Dare to confess your feelings
If you are really too nervous, the brain is also blank, really can not find any topic to talk about, it is better to boldly confess their feelings, admit that they are shy, nervous, but also better than restraint, can not let go. Your honesty with each other may also be exchanged for the other party's confession.
Pay attention to each other's conversations and avoid arguments
In the process of getting along, you must not only care about chatting, you must always pay attention to and observe the expression, tone and eyes of the other party when talking, if you feel bad, you should consider whether to change the topic, so as not to cause unnecessary arguments.
Use language skills to avoid privacy topics
If you are asked about private topics such as work, monthly salary, and age, we can use some language skills to reasonably avoid these questions that we do not want to reveal. If you ask about the age of a girl, you can answer: "This is a woman's secret!" ”