This year's Spring Festival was particularly lively, although I could not go out to visit the New Year during the epidemic, but I watched the Winter Olympics at home with my children.
The child is very active and even checks the schedule every day, refusing to miss every wonderful game.
While cheering and shouting in front of the TV with my children, looking at the players who were shining on the field, I couldn't help but think, these players are only in their teens and twenties, how did they grow into such excellent people?
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This year's East Olympics, the most eye-catching, probably the Gu Ailing, who is affectionately known as the "princess", and the Japanese player Yu Yusheng, who has attracted much attention as soon as he arrived in China, have tied the knot.
Gu Ailing has represented China in a number of projects, including the mainland's previously unintended big jump.
However, she took the lead in this project, winning China's first women's snow sports gold medal in one fell swoop, becoming a legend.
After the blockbuster, the experience of this mixed-race "princess" was greatly praised by the media .
She became a national champion at the age of nine, won more than fifty gold medals as a minor, and in addition to high-intensity sports and training, she achieved excellent results and was admitted to Stanford University.
In addition to this, she can also play piano, ballet, rich hobbies, young age, just like the opening and hanging to a height that others can not reach, and is directly called "open and hanging".
So, what is the secret behind Gu Ailing's "open hanging" life?
Contrary to what many people think, such an excellent Gu Ailing is actually a child of a single-parent family raised by her mother and grandmother.
Unlike many self-pitying mothers after divorce, Mama Gu is a very tough and excellent woman, she graduated from Stanford, broke into Wall Street, has her own career, and has a very unique personal hobby.
Gu Ailing first came into contact with skiing because her mother liked to ski.
After mistakenly hitting and stumbling on the child's love and talent for skiing, he began to ask a professional instructor to guide the child to train the skills more systematically.
Whether it is on the field or in interviews, you can't find any feelings of inferiority and uneasiness in Gu Ailing's body, and her mother and grandmother are her greatest source of confidence.
Gu Ailing's mother is a career woman, even if she has such an excellent child, she has not delayed her career at all, constantly expanding her business territory, and even taking her children to travel between the United States and China.
It is precisely for this reason that although Gu Ailing was born in the United States, he can speak fluently Chinese and grasp the customs and customs of China.
Although Gu's mother is a career woman, her attention to her daughter has not been sidelined in the slightest, and she firmly stands by the child's side to encourage her every important moment in her child's growth.
When she was a child, Gu Ailing was very naughty, but her mother never reprimanded her for "engaging in destruction", but actively guided her to find the sports she was interested in and taught her children skills.
In life, the progress in any small thing will be affirmed by my mother and grandmother.
Gu Ailing's first game in her life fell on the snow slope because of a mistake, but her grandmother's first move after she left the court was to give her a big hug and praise her for much better than before.
It was in the firm affirmation of her mother and grandmother that Gu Ailing cultivated such a confident and cheerful personality.
Facing world-class competitions can also maintain a positive and relaxed mentality and play at her best level, all of which is inseparable from her solid confidence and sense of security.
Skiing is not so much a career for Gu Ailing as it is a challenging hobby, stimulating her to climb the peak and break her ceiling, which is the motivation brought to her by the positive personality under the influence of her family.
In Gu Ailing, what we see is the power of example, mothers use their hobbies to influence their children, support their children at the same time, cultivate children's positive motivation and strong self-confidence.
Gu Ailing's "win" has made the world see the power of inclusive family and confident self.
We can't reproduce the family like Gu Ailing, and we can't cultivate such a "genius girl", but we can provide strong self-confidence and internal drive for children like Gu's mother.
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Unlike Gu Ailing, who has excellent financial conditions, Yu Yuyu from Japan has a much more mediocre family.
The contestant, who became famous and was called the "Prince of Ice", is just a child of an ordinary Japanese family, he has no parents from a prestigious school, and even a family of four is crammed into the government's low-rent housing.
In his childhood, Yu Sheng was born because of his lively and active personality, so he followed his sister to the ice rink, thus discovering his talent for figure skating, but even so, he did not like the sport at that time.
In the fourth grade, Yu Yusuke had already lifted the national championship trophy, but at that time, he did not like figure skating, but enjoyed the time he could play with his father on the baseball field.
When he found that the child was impatient with figure skating, the father seriously asked Yusei Wyo if he really didn't like figure skating, and if he didn't like it, he would give it up.
At that time, Yusheng's father earned money alone to support the family, and the family lived in a low-cost housing provided by the government for low-income families, but they had to spend huge tuition fees to train Yusheng Knot, if they gave up, it would mean that the money was lost.
But even so, when he found that his children did not like the sport, the father resolutely chose to give up.
No longer "forced" to train Yu Sheng, he has more and more found that he likes to be noticed in his bones and is unwilling to accept defeat.
The sport of figure skating happened to best meet his needs, so Yu Yusuke redefined his goal and returned to the ice rink.
After rekindling his love for figure skating, his father did not have any beak for the repetition of Yusheng's string, but began to actively learn various theoretical knowledge of figure skating, using this method to help children further study.
The mother who originally did not approve of her child's participation in figure skating has also become the child's most solid backing, traveling far and wide to accompany her child to train around the world, participate in competitions, and shoulder all the back work.
Yusheng Yuxian wore the "battle robe" sewn by his mother's hand on the ice rink countless times, and each time he would solemnly hang his gold medal on his mother's chest, which was an honor that belonged to him and his mother.
Many people do not understand, obviously in this Olympic Games, YuSheng Yusheng challenged the 4A and failed, and even did not get a medal, why are there still so many domestic and foreign audiences applauding him?
CCTV reports have used "a lifetime of suspense" to describe Yusheng knot, he can be a foreign athlete for many times to win high praise from CCTV, relying on tenacity and high personal charm.
Before the 2014 Figure Skating Grand Prix, he accidentally collided with another competitor during the warm-up phase, bleeding profusely on his body, but after a simple bandage, he stepped onto the field.
He fell five times, but still endured terrible pain to finish the game, and won the second place by relying on the total score.
At the end of the game, he was so weak that he needed to walk on crutches, and this game was also called "Blood Phantom" by the audience, and countless people saw his inner persistence through this game and was conquered by him.
Including the "4A" who failed this challenge, even his idol, the famous Russian figure skater Pushshenko, believes that human beings cannot complete the action.
Choosing a relatively simple action, it is not difficult for Yusuke to defend the championship.
However, he still resolutely chose to challenge himself, walked on the field with heavy old injuries, and although he did not complete the 4A in the end, his spirit touched countless audiences.
Looking back at his childhood, if Yu Sheng's parents forced their children to stay on the figure skating field to burn themselves, maybe he had smoothed out the love in his heart early, and perhaps he could only become a second-rate athlete.
It is precisely because of the respect of his parents that he has left the space that Yusheng Yuxin can firmly determine his inner choices and exert his own strength.
Gu Ailing's "win" and Yu Sheng's "loss" are two results on the field, but they are highly consistent in spirit.
Heaven has never abandoned every soul that has worked hard to grow, nor has it ever lived up to every life that passes by.
Our children may not have been geniuses, they may not have had extraordinary talents, and their successes and experiences cannot be replicated, but we can make ourselves such a family.
Like them, becoming the backing of children's positive tolerance, becoming the hands that hold up children's dreams, and the torch that fuels children's motivation will allow them to have such a bright and brilliant life.
If you want to have a miracle child, first become a good enough parent!