Recently, Rain and Kwon Sang-woo generously shared their relationship with their wives on the show.
Kwon Sang-woo said that after 12 years of marriage, he is still in love, and proudly shows off to Rain:
"My wife never showed a physiological phenomenon in front of me, never smelled it, and never heard it."
In this regard, some netizens joked that the last fart was hidden by An Zaixian, and then he divorced, and the couple who did not let go of the fart together are still called husband and wife?
But some people think that this is just a personal choice, after all, everyone's living standards are different, and it is understandable to want to always show the most beautiful appearance in front of their partners.
So, will you burp and fart calmly in front of your other half?
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The freedom to "fart" is the passport to the life of a couple
I have read a sentence on the Internet:
"A big step in promoting feelings isn't the first kiss, it's the first time you fart in front of each other."
My friend Xiaowei once told us about a "troublesome affair" that happened between her and her husband.
It turned out that the two people had just established a relationship, Xiaowei was still a delicate girl who "must wash her hair when she goes out, and wears makeup on a date", and even drinks saliva in front of her husband, she must be careful, afraid that she will swallow too loudly.
As a result, once when the two of them went shopping, Xiao Wei did not hold back for a while, and suddenly put a fart in front of the shopping guide and her husband.
"I was really ashamed to die, and I felt like I was really a social death."
Unexpectedly, her husband, after being stunned for a second, smiled and gave her a break:
"It doesn't sound like a local, but I'll let you hear what a local is like later."
Since then, the "local" has become a "terrier" between the two of them.
There's a saying in Matthew that goes, "I've seen all the good things about you, but I still like you the worst." ”
As Gus Van Sant says in the movie Mindcatcher:
"My wife farts when she's nervous, she farts when she sleeps, and one night it's so loud that she wakes up the dogs, and she wakes up and says, 'Is that you?" I said "yes", and I couldn't bear to tell her. Oh my God, it's been two years since she passed away, and little things like that are amazing, and that's what I miss the most.
These little qualities make her my wife, and she knows all my little flaws, which people call imperfections, but they are not, that's a good thing, and that's what it is like to choose who to let into our world. ”
Yes, true love is that no matter what you become, as long as it is you, I will accept it, and there is no end to it.
And these little flaws are our best passport to marriage.
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Partners who will only fall in love and will not live will not last long
Shakespeare said that love is blind and lovers cannot see the stupid things they do.
Yes, when we fall in love, we will always unconsciously become a complete "little fool".
Knowing that no one is perfect, but still stubbornly wanting to be the most perfect self in front of the other party, but this perfection will become a condom that imprisons us.
Sometimes, the "destruction" of feelings may not come from cheating, but from a "long and loud" fart sound, or a constipation of "small face red".
There is an episode of "Sex and the City" that seems funny, but it is thought-provoking.
Female writer Carrie confided in friends about her "emotional Waterloo".
It turned out that because her apartment was too small, she could hear everything very well, and once she accidentally farted in front of her boyfriend.
The "farting" thing was a "big mistake" for her, and she couldn't forgive herself and bought a ticket to "escape" overnight.
Can this be said that women are too "fussy"? Not necessarily. Or can't stand their own face problems, or don't want to accept men's "brain supplements".
After all, in the eyes of some men, fairies do not eat, do not shit, do not fart.
Hu Yinmeng is known as "the first beautiful woman in Taiwan in the 1970s", and the combination with Li Ao can be called "Lang Cai Female Appearance".
But the two people who were so matched divorced more than 3 months after marriage.
Regarding the reason for the divorce of the two people, there are many rumors, the most widely circulated of which is the "constipation terrier".
A reporter once asked Li Ao: Hu Yinmeng is so beautiful and so obsessed with you, why are you willing to abandon her?
Li Ao replied: I am a perfectionist, Hu Yinmeng is like a fairy fairy in my heart, can not stand half a flaw, one day, I did not intend to push open the door of the bathroom without anti-lock, see crouching on the toilet she is full of red face because of constipation, it is too unbearable.
In addition, Li Ao also insinuated in the book: When a beautiful person is constipated, he is no different from ordinary people.
Teacher Lu Qi said: There are many men in China, he will fall in love and will not live.
But the sweetness of love cannot offset the daily life, because it is this "eating, drinking, and sleeping" life that determines the two people to go on.
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Good feelings are comfortable with each other, not bondage to each other
Of course, we have to admit that high standards for ourselves are indeed a personal choice.
Who's to say that raising eyebrows and respecting each other like guests is not love?
Even couples need to self-manage and pay attention to the image, rather than flying every day.
Good feelings, there is no unified template, the most important thing is to be comfortable with each other, rather than bound to each other.
Mrs. Maisel in the American drama "The Great Mrs. Maisel" is a "perfect housewife", and even the people on the pillow have never seen her plain face, let alone fart and burp in front of her husband.
Because every day she would remove her makeup after her husband fell asleep, put on makeup before he got up, and measure her waist and leg circumference without moving, not allowing the slightest indulgence, every day, and the cycle began, like a soldier ready to fight.
Such Mrs. Maisel is simply too perfect, perfectly like a "dummy.".
And the reason why she is so perfect is not because she likes to do it, but because her mother has cultivated her since childhood: a woman must be beautiful to tie the heart of a man.
But in the end, her husband Joel still cheated.
What is even more frightening is that after learning that her son-in-law is having an affair, her mother can only cover the door and cry softly, and the father warns her daughter: Wear a dress that your husband likes and get him back.
But what is the point of such a marriage?
You know, marriage is not a one-man show, a person's efforts to maintain, after all, will be tired, your like a fish in the throat, in exchange for only his indifference, bound to each other, but can not be liberated.
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Yu Hua said: "There is no path in the world that is repeated, and no life can be replaced. ”
The highest level of "emotional intelligence" in a person's life is not to make others live comfortably, but to make themselves comfortable.
And the best look in marriage is that you don't have to be pretentious, you don't have to pretend, you are what you are, you are what you are.
May you in this life, do not miss the good, do not live up to yourself, meet the person who can "fart" together, hate each other, but can never be separated.