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Some people say that love can be willful, but marriage should be cautious.
But I said that in love, it is also necessary to maintain sanity.
When the wrong feelings get out of control, the consequences are bound to be very troublesome.
The heroine in the next case, because of a wrong love, had to enter a fork in the road of life.
The atmosphere in Si Si's house at this time was extremely tense, the mother sighed and shed tears, and the father did not speak with a blue face.
After a while, Si Si said impatiently, "Then I am pregnant now, what do you really want!" Why can't I get married! ”
The father also said violently: "Whose idea is this, is it the bad man's idea, let you get married when your belly is bigger!" You have been calculated and still want to get married, you are not brain into the water! ”
Suddenly, the father and daughter quarreled, and the mother who had no idea wiped away tears.
Speaking of why the family made such a fuss, we have to go back to half a year ago.
Six months ago, SiSi, who was about to graduate, had a love affair, and the boy looked good, but the family was rural and the conditions were not good.
The good girlfriends were stunned when they saw that Si Si had actually found a phoenix man.
Because Sisi's conditions are very good, when her classmates are frowning about finding a job, Sisi's parents have bought her a house for full payment.
She is also the only daughter in the family, and she usually spends more pocket money than them. They all thought that Si Si was looking for a rich and handsome person to match.
As a result, she did not expect that she was in love with a rural man, and the good girlfriends couldn't help but ask her; "Sisi, although the man looks good, the work can only be considered barely qualified, but the gap with your family is a bit big, oh, can afford to buy our house." ”
Several girls laughed, and Si Si also said with an indifferent face: "I like it, just talk about love, and I can't say anything about the future." ”
Just when everyone thought sisi would break up after a few months, she became pregnant.
That's too much.
She herself was scared of cold sweat, but her boyfriend Zhang Yiming was happy to jump up and asked to give birth to the baby.
But although she is willful, she is still a little flustered when she is pregnant, so she goes home to her parents to discuss.
As a result, just like at the beginning, the family broke up unhappily.
Originally, she was not sure whether to get married, but her father scolded her like that, so that her rebellious psychology suddenly rose.
She lay on the bed and touched her stomach, deciding that she would have to marry her.
Knowing that her father would not give her the hukou book, she went to plead with her mother. Originally, the mother also resolutely disagreed, but seeing her daughter's bitter pleading and the child in her belly, she still secretly gave the hukou book to her daughter.
In this way, she took the household registration book and Zhang Yiming and married her.
When he got home, he put the hukou book in front of his father like a demonstration, and he had difficulty breathing when he was angry.
He threw his daughter out the same day and said that she would never be allowed to enter the house.
She was a little sad, and her father, although irritable, had always loved her. She was also very scared when she saw her father almost faint.
It's just that this home can't go back, she can only go to the house that her parents bought for her, fortunately, it has been simply decorated.
It was a birthday present from her father two years ago, saying that he would marry her in the future.
Her heart was a little sour, but at this point she could only continue.
She and her husband Zhang Yiming moved to that house and really lived together.
After graduation, Sisi did not choose to work, but directly raised a fetus at home.
A few months later, she successfully gave birth to a boy in the hospital.
Si Si was very happy to see her son, but who would take care of her in the next confinement?
She wanted her mother-in-law in the countryside to take care of her, but she wanted her husband to call her mother several times and three times, and the old lady had various reasons not to come.
One will be that the chickens and ducks at home will not be taken care of, and the other will be that they will not be able to go out of the house if they are unwell.
On the one hand, she was very angry, and on the other hand, she secretly called her mother.
The mother quarreled with her father at home every day because of the hukou book, and her body has not been very comfortable now.
But my mother still came with a sickness and brought a lot of supplements.
During the period of SiSi's confinement, he recovered well under the care of his mother, and the child was also raised white and fat.
Usually, the relationship between husband and mother is not good, and he rarely speaks. Only recently, her husband's attitude towards her and her mother has suddenly become more attentive.
Sure enough, in the evening, he said to Si Si: "Your confinement is almost over, that is almost the New Year, my mother wants to come over, there is an empty room in the house, you this: As far as my mother came for the New Year, your mother moved away. In our countryside, old wives have to spend the New Year at their son's house. ”
Si Si resolutely refused, "My mother can't leave, and your mother shouldn't want to come." ”
When Zhang Yiming heard this, his temper also came up, and he said unhappily: "Then you see if my mother can come, tomorrow I will go to pick it up." ”
The next day, Zhang Yiming went out on the front foot to pick up the old woman, and the back foot Sisi packed his luggage at home.
When Zhang Yiming took his mother home at night, he saw his luggage at a glance.
He hurried to open the door with the key, only to find that the lock had also been changed.
That day he had to drag his luggage and take his mother to a hotel, at which point he realized that the house belonged to Sisi and that he had been kicked out.
Just when he was thinking about how to coax Si Si, he received Si Si's divorce application and was suddenly stunned.
And Zhang Yiming's mother did not speak from beginning to end...
Si Si on the other side is preparing to take the child home and apologize to his father.
From her mother's mouth, she knew that this time she was waiting for the confinement, and it was her father who agreed to let her mother come. He also said that he knew that he had given birth to a boy and was happy that he did not fall asleep one night.
Si Si was in tears after listening to it, and at this moment he realized how wrong he was, and he had hurt his dearest people.
She held the cute baby and followed her mother on the way home...
The sisi in the case finally had an epiphany in the wrong marriage, which also tells us that women should understand the following two principles in the marriage choice.
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One: Women should be sane when choosing who to marry.
As the saying goes: men are afraid of entering the wrong line, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man.
It can be seen how important it is for women to choose a reliable marriage partner.
The girl in the case started a relationship because of her willfulness, but still chose to get married despite her father's opposition.
Such a hasty decision is the main reason for the failure of her future marriage.
Choosing a marriage partner, from the stage of love, you must be careful.
Don't think that falling in love and getting married are two different things.
Because things don't go into the situation you think, once it gets out of control, you have to bear the corresponding consequences.
Cautious love is the basis for choosing a high-quality marriage partner.
When choosing whether to enter marriage, it is even more important to be rational.
Don't gamble on willfulness, and don't be stupid.
Marriage is inherently unfair to women, and because of this, it is even more important to be careful to protect yourself.
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Two: the timely stop loss in the feeling, at any time is not too late.
In the wrong feelings, only scars and lessons are gained.
When a relationship starts to be irrational and even makes you intolerable.
That's when it's time to make a decision.
As the saying goes, when the break continues, it will be chaotic.
If Si Si in the case is still indifferent to the unreasonable demands of her husband.
That is foolishness, and it will be miserable in the days to come.
Fortunately, she immediately threw her husband out of the house and prepared to reconcile with her parents.
Her timely stop loss not only saved herself and her son's future, but also eased the relationship with her parents.
So don't give up and don't collapse when facing the wrong feelings.
As long as you have the determination to start over, you can still light up your life again.
The wrong relationship is inherently vulnerable, and once you choose to leave, there's nothing to stop you.
Afraid is afraid that you can't get lost and know your way back, and you have to get entangled with the wrong people and wrong things.
You have to believe that when you can't see the sunshine in your life, you must dare to come out of the shadows.
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We are born with a wide variety of choices.
Some choices don't matter, but some affect the trajectory of our lives.
But don't worry, if you're unlucky enough to go down the wrong path.
Then don't lose faith, because it's sometimes better to start over.
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