She not only created a generous family material condition, but also gave the child a broad vision and a fulfilling spiritual life, while reminding the child to be pragmatic.
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Sister Yuyan first apologized to all of you.
Yesterday I got the identity of Gu Ailing's father wrong.
2 hours after Yu Yanjie posted, the person concerned clarified on Facebook.
So, Sidney is not Ailing's father, but Ailing's mother's ex-boyfriend.
▲ In fact, Yu Yan sister was also confused yesterday, this father's nose and eyes look like Putin, how are the genes arranged and combined, and the girl born is so amazing?
However, this old brother's operation is also too easy to cause misunderstanding, not only I think so, his Facebook friends also think that Ailing is his daughter, but also mysterious.
Then one of Sidney's friends threw out the voice of the melon eating crowd, meaning that if it were not you, who was Ailing's father?
Sidney did not answer, nor did Gu Yan reply.
Since Gu Ailing was born with her mother's surname, her mother made up her mind to raise her own children from the beginning, and who the biological father is may not be so important.
▲ Sidney said that he did date Gu Yan for several years, but the two met after Ailing was born. Brother, you didn't say it earlier, let the gossip I leave a big spectrum
Today, Yu Yanjie's circle of friends are ridiculing: Omapah, Clinton, Musk, Bezos, are all children who grew up with their mothers, let me write a "father is a stumbling block to the growth of the baby."
Sister Yu Yan felt that it was better to forget it.
Let's learn to talk to Kotani, stand taller, don't engage in binary opposition, praise mom can, but don't step on dad. If only I had been in Canada alone for two years with her father.
Liu Meixian grew up with a single father, didn't she also win the National Figure Skating Championship?
Therefore, the matter of family education is not about gender, but about the individual.
▲ Today, Sidney changed his avatar to another photo with Xiao Ailing, I said brother, didn't you really mean to let everyone come to find a point?
Nowadays, not only Gu Ailing is a phenomenon-level youth idol, but her mother Gu Yan should also be a female model.
The first time I saw Gu Yan's interview, I liked her very much, a particularly peaceful and sincere woman, with a lot of love.
Always speaking slowly and leisurely, not impatient or even very Buddha, at home temper is particularly good, completely can not see that she is Yu Yu's peer, fierce Wall Street venture capital experts.
▲ In 2010, when Dangdang was listed on the New York Stock Exchange, Gu Yanfa congratulated Li Guoqing and Yu Yu on Facebook, and seemed to know each other
Yu Yanjie flipped over Gu Yan's Facebook from the beginning, just like the spoken words of Oolong Daddy Sidney - "That's not easy", this single mother is really not easy.
This kind of not being easy is not only reflected in life, but also in the abundance of spiritual stretching.
Today, the Internet is praising Gu Ailing's proper response to British reporters' questions, atmospheric pattern and mature attitude.
Her answer is good in that —
First: The division is famous. My decision is in the interest of more people.
Second: Speaking of oneself. I am kind in heart, pure in self-purification, and different values are not compatible.
Third: There is no political leaning. Thanks to both the United States and China, sports are designed to unite, not divide, humanity.
The logic is clear, there are big and small, reasonable, and there is no way to refute it.
Before that, 12-year-old Gu Ailing gave a speech at the school, advocating equal pay for male and female athletes and encouraging women to experience areas traditionally dominated by men.
Seeing her, I immediately thought of Shi Xiangyun's sentence: "Heroic and magnanimous, Ji Moonlight shines in the Jade Hall, and has never slightly haunted the private feelings of his children." ”
There are many Chinese who receive elite education overseas, but not everyone can benefit from multiculturalism, such as Si Cong, who has been revived from time to time (hey, why should I mention him here).
Open vision, straightforward mind, expression of attitude without stepping on thunder, cultivation of Gu Ai's arrogance and conversation, inseparable from the immersion of family atmosphere, and conscious thinking training.
I took a look at Gu Yan's Facebook.
Gu Yan's earliest Facebook was published in 2010.
Ailing was 6 years old that year. Gu Yan admitted that as a single mother, she has experienced a very difficult journey.
She is a warm and tough woman.
She will be proud of her child who walked 5 kilometers alone after falling off the bicycle, will be moved by the encouragement sent by friends "The world will be better with you", will cry until her eyes are blurred because she saw a live marriage proposal at a ballet performance, and she is always telling that she has made her life extremely lucky because of the existence of Ailing.
In Gu Yan's records, Ailing has been a strong, optimistic, intelligent and energetic child since childhood.
At the age of 6, Gu Ailing said: "Mom, life needs 4 things, food, shelter, water, and love. ”
After visiting the Vatican, Gu Ailing said, "Mom, I have a wish to exchange my magic for wisdom." ”
▲ Ai Ling wrote a wish when she was 6 years old, hoping to get the karate orange belt, fight bad people when she grows up, and guard the beloved world
▲ Ai Ling has been energetic since she was a child, and she wants to jump on the trampoline at 2 pm
Gu Yan often travels with children.
Destinations are not only in France, Switzerland, Japan and South Korea, Italy, New Zealand, Australia and other developed countries, but also in the Bahamas, Mexico, Belize, Tanzania, these are different styles of regions.
Ai Ling has seen a lot of scenery at a young age, not to mention returning to Beijing every year, so that she claims to be "the child of Dahaidian".
Gu Yan is also a parent who will take her children to watch Monet, listen to "Carmen", and after watching the movie "Success in People", she will tell her children about the Sino-US table tennis diplomacy in the 70s.
As for Gu Yan's background, it has been pickpocketed on the Internet.
He studied molecular biology and molecular genetics at Auburn University and Rockefeller University in the mid-1980s, first pursuing molecular biology and molecular genetics at Auburn University and Rockefeller University, then receiving an MBA degree at Stanford, switching careers to the investment world, and working at Lehman Brothers.
The family lives in San Francisco's Sea cliff neighborhood, looks out the window at the Golden Gate Bridge, and is neighbor of Dorsey, the founder of Twitter and Square. Two homes currently for sale in the community are $15 million by the sea and $8.5 million for the unhared.
In 1998, China Science and Technology Information magazine also interviewed Gu Yan.
To sum up a few words, Kochi women, well-off family, career success, financial freedom.
These two days, the US media is sourly talking about Gu Ailing's betrayal or something, the voice on the Internet is talking about it, even the mainstream media are also following the crusade, and at every turn, she is getting the gold medal for "her mother's motherland", and the words outside are really too ugly.
Gu Ailing is a child who grew up in an enlightened and open leftist environment in the West Bank.
As a Chinese who has studied and lived in Canada for many years, I feel that Ailing integrates the best side of Chinese and Western culture and education, she has american unrestrained, American-style equality spirit, but no American arrogance.
How come the US media itself is not confident in the first place, and even uses such extreme words as ungratefulness?
The private girls' school that Ailing attended from an early age had a great influence on her personality ideas.
Today's girls' school culture encourages girls to be untethered by gender stereotypes, to have the courage to enter various fields, and to create infinite possibilities in life.
Gu Ailing and her classmates play football together, run relays together, cheer each other on, the theme of the class speech is feminism, and her innate concept is to believe in women's power.
Gu Yan sent a list of children from Ailing School, some seemingly commonplace but lifelong habits, to help children build the concept of resilience, self-control, and empathy.
In particular, these few articles are written too well, and it is worth thinking about every adult and child.
"I'm going to calm down and figure out what the problem is."
"I always remember that I had a safe and peaceful place."
"I have a trash can and let the little things that don't matter go with it."
"I say the right thing in the right place."
Seeing this, it is logical whether Ailing's performance in answering the British reporter's question is logical.
▲ Come and go, let's not patronize and envy Ailing, print this picture down and tell the child
Then say Gu Yan, the old mother.
As a generation of elite immigrants, Gu Yan is a person with a global vision, who understands both the United States and China, understands both ideas and pragmatism, and knows the advantages and disadvantages of different cultures in education.
Seeing that Gu Ailing went to college and wanted to choose Prince William to study art history, but he was worried that it was too unpopular to find a job, and said that he was not a prince and could not be willful, which also made me laugh, this line of thinking is very Chinese.
Looking at Gu Yan's Facebook social circle, she has never spoken inappropriately in the past 10 years, always conveying positivity and friendliness, and the quality of her friends is generally very high.
In addition to Oolong Daddy, the ex-boyfriend of Google No.5, many are classmates and colleagues in the investment industry, and there are many excellent women from famous universities.
▲ The female investor in the magazine is Gu Yan's Stanford MBA classmate
Gu Yan is not only an outstanding independent woman herself, but also always uses feminist cases to encourage children, such as she forwarded a video - "48 voices that women often encounter in their lives".
In this video, the girls interviewed mention common but unfair social discourse against women, including—
"Don't be too aggressive."
"He's playing pranks because he likes you."
"What were you wearing the night it happened?"
"For girls, you eat a lot."
"You like rugby, really?"
She will forward the feminist motto on International Women's Day -
"Feminism is not about making women stronger, women are inherently strong. Advocating feminism is about changing the world's perception of women. ”
In another Facebook statement by Gu Yan, she mentioned her thoughts about Christmas -
"Remember that not everyone looks forward to Christmas, not everyone is blessed to be surrounded by family and friends, and the holidays can be sad and a burden for some. Hopefully, those who experience family problems, health problems, and work problems can also feel cared for and loved. ”
Materially abundant, spiritually sufficient, broad in vision, firm in heart, having seen the larger world, and meeting high-level people.
Such a two-way "rich" grown up child fearless, spontaneous on-site cow beep disease, the more viewers she is more hi, the more difficult the event is more engaged, stuff a wheat to her dare to sing, see the boy playing basketball she also on, there is a mistake shrugged shoulders again, naturally disdainful of the online nonsense.
▲ Standing next to Gu Ailing, Liu Meixian is small and cute
Finally, a small pickpocket.
"Yu Holmes" received a tip yesterday — a photograph of a man with a low-key fund manager.
Harvard graduated, went to Morningstar, father Stanford, sister Harvard, wife is a Japanese professor of neurology, there are two boys born after 2009.
In addition, there is nothing special about it.
In addition to the fact that the man looks quite similar, whether it is what everyone thinks cannot be confirmed, and there is no meaning, I searched, purely out of genetic curiosity.
Earn your own money, raise your own baby, since Gu Ailing was born with the surname Gu, called grandpa and grandmother, Gu Yan is determined to take on a home by herself.
Behind an amazing woman is another amazing woman.
▲Present two more photos showing Gu Ailing's high-energy moment (Gu Ailing's air rotation 1620 degrees) to feast your eyes
I prefer one sentence: Before asking how to raise a child like Gu Ailing, first ask how you can make yourself a parent like Gu Yan.
If fate gives you such a single mother card, can you still play so peacefully and so steadily?
It turns out that a single mother who teaches her child so well, mother and daughter are both liked, and are a role model for all of us.
However, we must also know that Gu Ailing's athletic talent and family environment are very accidental.
Ordinary people should not see Gu Ailing's success and be vain in their own destiny, nor should they expect that they can also cultivate a Gu Ailing-style child.
The power of role models is to make us better selves.
Compared with Gu Ailing's dazzling honors, broad perspective, pragmatic spirit, pursuit of enthusiasm, self-control, and what positive factors we have overlooked in American education are the qualities that ordinary people should pay attention to and can be imitated.
The pictures in this article are from the internet
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