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At the New Year's party some time ago, a friend mentioned that it always felt like the future was uncertain, and it felt like walking in the dark, not knowing where there was a lighthouse to guide.
Because of the deep contact with thousands of lost friends in the past, in fact, 99% of people will have a similar state, do not know their future direction, do not know where they should work, let themselves get a greater sense of achievement, and thus move towards the highlight moment.
But what is behind this? In fact, in our deep present, each of us does not know what will happen in the future, in fact, what is missing is our innate sense of control.
Let's talk about the sense of control.
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When faced with future choices, we are inevitably prone to wandering, confusion, and fear of stepping on a mine buried deep in the soil and setting ourselves on fire at any time.
At this time, we feel fear and uneasiness.
Just like many of my friends in the past mentioned the future, there will be different degrees of anxiety, this feeling is like a shadow, there was once a senior student friend of a financial 500 company, the future of the career anxiety has been several years, what he lacks is not the lack of materials and status, but the fear of future uncertainty.
This trepidation, after in-depth exploration, is a lack of control over the future.
In the process of his growth, everything is full of certainty, he has achieved excellent results as he wishes, famous colleges, well-known enterprises, all of which are under his control and can be reached, but if one day, going up again, it is like walking a tightrope, I don't know, the fear of the future makes him anxious.
But in fact, this anxiety on the surface is a sense of control, and the deep level is a cliff of security.
Why?
If a person grows up with a strong sense of security within them, they are determined about the future, and vice versa.
So, where does the sense of security come from? Is it innate?
Obviously not, because when a person has enough love in childhood, there will be enough tolerance, he used to live in an atmosphere of accusation and tension, all the security is not family, but his excellent report card, but simple sustenance, it seems so thin.
But if he has a more inclusive environment and he can be allowed to be less good, then the heart is free and more determined about the future.
Therefore, behind the sense of control is the promotion of security.
On the contrary, when you regain a sense of security and there is a force within you that pushes you forward.
This is the sense of control.
You can control your future autonomously, control your heart, and relax freely.
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However, how can we control the future and get away with it?
"Ghost Valley" said that the one who is clothed, the one who opens, the word also, the yang also; the one who closes, the closed, the moya, the yang, the yin and yang, the sum of the yin and yang, and the righteousness of the end.
In fact, the reason why most of the sages full of great wisdom were mostly in ancient times, the reason why they could foresee and have a sense of control over the future, was because they could observe the changes in the yin and yang phenomena of all things, and further understand the key factors in the survival of affairs, and understand the key to the generation, development and destruction of all things.
So, what exactly is it that allows them to grasp the underlying laws of the future and gain a sense of control?
The answer is mission.
Mission allows you to see what kind of person you can be.
Let me recall that 3.5 years ago when I left the position of human resources executive of a listed company, it was actually not a momentary impulse, but after more than 7 years of case exploration and practice, I had the honor to accompany and help a group of people in the workplace to come out of the confusion, but suffering from no professional guidance, and making their own development face a trough or even cliff, I felt that there was a force calling, I grew up in a family full of infinite love, and I was also willing to benefit more people with the warmth and professional power of the sun. Even if I no longer have the aura, no longer have the certainty of drought and flood protection, but for a person's 40-plus year career, this is just a small episode, I think now let me say, I think that at that time is actually the power of the mission, I also gradually became the person I was looking forward to, but also have the opportunity to have another identity to be seen by you.
Aside from the mission, what else can gain a sense of control?
There is also a sense of meaning.
The same profession, why some people are willing to eat, some people are tired.
There is actually a chasm behind it, what is the meaning of your profession? What can it bring to you? What do you bring to the people around you? What does it bring to the future?
Aside from a sense of meaning, what else can give people a sense of control?
That is, a sense of value.
Soul Torture, do you have a profession that you love?
Can your current career bring the sense of value you want?
If the answer is no, then what is that worthwhile career? How do you graft on your past character and ability strengths to form a new compound interest and create a greater sense of value?
Let you get rid of the present, you can still achieve the second half of the workplace on the basis of not affecting the basic life, and get another highlight.
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And the control of the future, where the road is, in fact, in your past trajectory, but you have not yet realized.
If you have found a way to control, congratulations, you are on your way to the next journey of your life, and if you haven't, go deep and explore and self-awareness to see your own, but the way to freedom.
Maybe this is the meaning of life, and a lifetime is enough.
Therefore, the sense of mission, the sense of meaning, and the sense of value are all things that can make us gain a sense of control, and we look forward to finding the general direction of life in 2022 and living a life of inner prosperity.
Best wishes!