Source| Against Liu (ID:yuanyuankaoshi)
These two days were brushed by Gu Ailing.
After reading her deeds, I was particularly excited, and I thought, I want to work hard! Ha ha.
I'm not trying to be a skier, I'm thinking, how can we raise our child to be as good as her?
There are many people who talk about experience, you as a mother should be patient with your children, encourage and accompany your children when you fail, take your children to try, broaden the pattern, etc. I think these words, itching in the boots, did not go to my heart.
I looked up a lot of information and summed up a sentence myself.
What was her success?
It is a child who is already very smart and hardworking, superimposed on the super excellent resources in the world, and finally formed a result.
Even for a person who tries harder, success has its own chances.
But Gu Ailing's mother and family turned her success into necessity and naturalization.
Note: There is no denial of her talent and hard work here, if there is no excellence in her own, even the best resources will be lost.
01 She loves what she does
Let's count, what do we envy Gu Ailing?
Envy her to open up the same invincible competitive life:
He started skiing at the age of 3, joined the professional ski team in the Lake Tahoe region of California at the age of 8, and swept the national junior championship at the age of 9;
At the age of 13, he won the first place in the adult event for the first time, and at the age of 15, he topped the ANNUAL STANDINGS of the FIS.
Today, the Winter Olympics won gold, and the limelight was the same.
But where did all this come about?
Her mother, Gu Yan, is a ski instructor and "the only parent who can keep up with the athletes in sparring."
Gu Yan said in the documentary that the cultivation of Gu Ailing is all the money paid by his own family, at least 1 million US dollars.
In addition to training and competing with her daughter, Gu Yan has also been a private investor and expert for Fusion Investment in China.
She has the ability to pay for coaching for an individual athlete, travel costs to fly around the world to compete, and so on.
Many people are encouraged by her and want to train their children to learn to ski, but you go to see, how much does a minute of professional ski resorts cost? How much does a skateboard cost?
Besides, why did Gu Ailing learn to ski?
Of course she has talent, but have you seen her choose to ski?
After trying rock climbing, horseback riding, football, basketball, archery, or a variety of cheap or expensive sports, she felt that I was most interested in skiing, so she retained what she loved.
Countless people envied her success, but what was even more enviable was that she was particularly happy.
This is the result of free choice.
Do you know who a person who is particularly similar to Gu Ailing is?
All red chan.
The last time I heard the words "talented athlete" was in Quan Hongchan, but these two people were not similar to each other except the word "genius".
The probability of success of the all-red chan is much lower.
100 children sent to learn to dive, no other options, you can persevere, you can suffer, you have talent, you become.
We only saw one full red chan, and the rest of the pile did not jump out.
Our children are closer to the latter.
Two days ago, my sister-in-law enrolled her child in class, applied for piano class, and handed over a sum of money, and her monthly salary was only half.
What is your mindset after you've spent so much money on your child?
You want him to practice well and not fail his parents.
Then the child is stressed, the child will feel that he must do this thing, and it is difficult for him to have a sense of enjoyment.
But what is Gu Ailing's concept?
She said I like to ski and I skate, and if I don't, one day I won't skate.
We can't give our children such a big confidence and such a big choice, so they can't find what they love.
02 She has access to the world's top resources
We also envy Gu Ailing as a bully, right?
In September 2020, Gu Ailing scored a high score of 1580 on the SAT test with a score of 1600 and received an acceptance letter from Stanford University as desired.
Mom is a graduate of Peking University and Stanford, Dad is a Harvard graduate, counting grandma and grandpa or something, a lot of famous schools graduated, not to mention.
A family of scholars.
But do you know where people's training classes are held?
At the end of the cosmic training class, Haidian Huangzhuang.
World-class training course, "10 days is equivalent to one year of schooling in the United States".
When preparing for the SAT, she also returned to China to make up lessons.
Because China has an advantage in exams, "searching for instruction books on the Internet, the last thing you find is almost all Chinese version."
Did you find it?
What Gu Ailing's mother found for her was the world's top resource.
Trained in advanced skiing in the United States and test-taking training in China.
They are all chicken babies with money, but people have switched tracks and reduced the dimension to hit.
I'll add two more details:
Hanley, the principal of Gu's ski training institute in the United States, said Gu Yan was the most persecuting person he had ever met, "She always smiled and told you how great you were, but in hindsight you will find that she had a request, and she always wanted her daughter to get special treatment."
In the list of The Chinese Freestyle Ski Jumping and Slope Steeplechase Team at this year's Winter Olympics, Gu Yan's name also appeared in the management column.
The mother stands closest to her daughter and acts as her most powerful "wisdom brain" to guide her to the extreme use of the resources at hand.
People who can get good cards, there are;
But playing the king explosion effect with a good card is not something that anyone can do.
03 She has a sense of relaxation and a light spirit
We may also envy her self-confidence.
At the age of 12, she was able to make:
"People don't accept that women can decide their career trajectories and lives autonomously, but if we accept that, we're one step closer to equality."
As a girl, despite the many difficulties I would encounter in a sport dominated by men, this experience made me even more tenacious.
I encourage you to step out of your comfort zone and tell them with action that girls are as strong as they are. ”
Such a loud speech.
Before the game, she confidently asks bloggers who make conservative predictions about her results: Why don't you have confidence in me?
I can do manicures, put on full makeup, and listen to song competitions.
After being scolded for "betraying the United States", this is how to return:
I know that my heart is good, and I also know that the decisions I make are based on the interests of all people, and I feel that this will bring greater benefits.
If someone doesn't believe that this is my intention, then it just means that they don't have enough empathy to understand the kindness of others.
If someone doesn't believe me or doesn't like me, then it's their loss. They can't be Olympic champions.
She has an extremely precious sense of relaxation in her body, retaining an extremely powerful self.
Why?
I think the reason is still this: the mother who raised her is not an ordinary person.
Growing up in Beijing, Peking University Kochi, according to the data, she went to the United States to study after graduating from Peking University, studied biochemistry and molecular biology at Auburn University, studied molecular genetics at Rockefeller University, and also studied MBA at Stanford University's business school, and worked on Wall Street after graduation.
Her mother's vision, pattern, and knowledge determine that her education style is very advanced.
She supports the children in skiing, not verbally.
Every weekend or holiday in the ski season, she will be sent to skiing and training for 8 hours round trip, and she has insisted on it for more than ten years.
Teaching children to be tough is not lip service.
One year, Gu Ailing's competition was frustrated and her results were sluggish, and her mother accompanied her to carry out a year of high-intensity training, and then returned to the field.
I also saw a video.
When Gu Ailing was 13 years old, she passed by Tiananmen Square, and her mother introduced her to her: This is the capital of China, beautiful, right?
Guide her to read the big characters in front of Tiananmen: Long live the People's Republic of China, long live the great unity of the people of the world.
From an early age, it is particularly far-sighted to pay attention to maintaining and cultivating children's sense of belonging to China.
It wasn't that God didn't close the windows for Gu Ailing, it was that she was confident and powerful enough to kick open all the windows.
04 The tilt of the resources of the times
One more thing have you noticed?
Since 2021, at least 23 brands have signed contracts with Gu Ailing, bringing her hundreds of millions of yuan in revenue every year. The 18-year-old Gu Ailing also appeared on The Forbes " 2021 China Celebrity List " .
This is a commercial resource on Gu Ailing's body.
Including why did she return to China to compete?
This is a very good opportunity.
We in the process of China's rise, we are vigorously promoting ice and snow projects, we are the first time to hold such a big event in China, so we need examples.
Why is today's Chosen Daughter Gu Ailing?
It's not a pie in the sky, it's really a good time.
A talented girl with the best resources for the fit.
After these resources accelerated the growth of the talented girl, something similar to the "siphon effect" appeared in her body.
The resources of the times are tilted towards her, making her stars arch and shine.
Gu Ailing's talent and hard work, she based on love on top of countless times of practice and self-challenge, has not been disappointed.
There is no way to reproduce this.
So, don't keep saying why our children are not geniuses, I think geniuses are few.
Don't say that I let my children go to see, as mothers, we should open our horizons;
Don't say to encourage children, we should encourage ourselves;
Don't say children you have to be not discouraged, we have to tell ourselves emotional stability;
......
I think it's the best thing we can do for our kids as a mom of an average family.
He can not be as successful as Gu Ailing, but he can still be happy and confident.
The source of this article: the public number @ against Liu, the author Liu Yuanyuan.
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