The first and most important way to give us security and security in our fight against pain, attack, or helplessness is a strategy we call "projection." A number of other methods have been raised from this.
All the pain, unpleasant feelings, or emotions in our hearts are automatically transferred to the outside through this strategy. We deny that they arise from us, that they have nothing to do with ourselves, and that we blame others.
When these destructive forces are identified in us, we claim that they are imposed by external forces and should return to where they belong. For the infant, the distinction between pleasant and unpleasant states, between good and bad emotions on the inside, is reflected in the external world and affects the distinction between good and bad for the people and things around him.
Projection is the baby's first response to pain, and is likely to all of us, the most spontaneous response to our painful emotions, and it stays with us throughout our lives. Later psychological developments have enabled us, to varying degrees, to examine and control the primitive and subjective reactions of this moment, and to replace them with other methods that are more adaptable to the objective reality of the situation in which we live.
In everyday life, the simplest example of projection is "you too." If someone attributes something unpleasant to us, we often immediately conclude that the reason is the other person, and that is the truth. Projection also occurs more often without any provocation and is obvious. For example, the average person thinks that other countries are evil and aggressive, while their own countries do not; or exist in views of parties that are contrary to themselves. Others are highly dangerous, destructive, and selfish, and the intentions and motives of his own party are pure and otherworldly. In the workplace, a significant number of people will see selfish possessiveness and cruel aggression in their bosses and employees as long as they themselves are not in that position.
Through projection, it is possible for us to resist the dangers that come from within ourselves, and this is the first step we take. First locate and focus this danger outside of us, and then activate the next projection mechanism to release our inner aggressive behavioral impulses by attacking the dangers that lie outside. The primordial aggression is excluded, something bad is placed elsewhere, the object is given a dangerous nature, and it becomes the target of the aggressive release that arises.
As mentioned earlier, the inner boiling aggression and hatred are difficult to control in the initial situation, they seem to explode inside us, and when we first experience them, they flood, burn, and suffocate our bodies. People feel angry, anxious to grab what they want, or feel suffocated and suffocated by suppressed emotions; then their minds seem to stop functioning, unable to think, see, or do the simplest things, with a much reduced workload, or temporarily focusing only on their personal safety. We feel that if we want to avoid these troubles, we must find an outlet for hatred and anger somewhere else.
A child who is full of hatred for the person he loves will beat other children or torture his toys or dolls; a man who is angry with his boss may curse his wife. As the old idiom goes, it refers to mulberry scolding; primitive people, when disappointed in heaven and earth, would also scold their worshippers. In addition, we see evil in people who have nothing to do with us, or people who have a safe distance, because we have no need to love these people; we choose foreigners, capitalists, or races that are particularly hated—groups that people feel they can hate if they like them. These aggressive behaviors and attitudes are (especially for our unconscious minds) a relatively safe way to unleash hatred and revenge.
We divide people into "good" and "bad" – some that we like or love, some that we don't like or hate. From this, we try to isolate and locate these emotions, and they do not interfere with each other. This division also allows us to take pleasure by satisfying our aggressive emotions, while we hope that this does not put us at risk.
Just as we prepare equipment in our houses to safely dispose of unpleasant and harmful bodily excrement, we also prepare objects for ourselves as safe targets for our aggression and hatred. Both are typical ways, one is concrete and the other is psychological. Through our efforts, we have protected ourselves and those we love to a certain extent, as well as what our survival and pleasure depend on – human health and clarity. Then we put this hostility and hatred on the nasty objects or people that we make or bring with us.
Another example of displacement in everyday life is that a child often hates the friends his parents want to make, of course, mainly because his parents like and appreciate these children, and at the same time, he feels that his parents are always condemning and interfering with him. These "good" children seemed absolutely terrible to him.
All the sensations that are initially connected to a person can be displaced to an object, which is another safer way to store your feelings. For example, if a person suddenly thinks that his clothes are lifeless, lifeless, worn and ugly, we first see that his deepest fear is that he does not have enough vitality in himself (or not enough love, which is a psychological manifestation of physical vitality), which makes him rely on clothes to make up for this deficiency. Then he projects himself, or unconsciously, into his clothes the lifeless and lifeless parts of himself, and makes them his enemies.
Melanie · Klein
Blessings~