There is a famous quote in the book of Revelation:
Fate whispered to the warrior, "You can't withstand the storm." The warrior whispered in response, "I am the storm." ”
In the journey of life, the really powerful people have a skill, that is, the ability to "fight vulnerability".
The more frustrated and courageous is the portrayal of their lives, "Those who can't kill me will eventually make me stronger." "It's their silent manifesto.
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Really powerful people have a "strong thinking." ”
Everyone wants to be strong, fearless, invincible. In fact, the real strong have a "strong thinking." ”
As the classic line in the anime movie "Nezha" says: "My life is up to me." A person with a strong mindset will never "admit his destiny."
They will not be trapped by a bad family of origin, nor will they be intimidated by the succession of difficulties, they can always rise in adversity and find hope in desperate situations.
Classmate Amin is the typical "strong thinking" I have seen who dominates life. We were born together in a remote mountain village, and in the year we graduated from junior high school, we were both admitted to the enviable secondary normal school, thinking that we could jump out of the farm.
However, in keeping up with the country's change of college and secondary school students from "package distribution" to "non-package distribution", it is impossible to be an "iron rice bowl" as a teacher.
While many of his classmates were complaining about getting by and getting by, Amin was asking around how to continue his studies, still taking the road of "reading to change his destiny". Under the guidance of the teacher, he decided to take the corresponding college entrance examination and invited me to review it together.
That summer, we hid in the school laboratory, and we understood the high school math and English review materials that we had never learned before.
Heaven always takes care of those who have a heart, and Amin was admitted to the first of the three universities that admitted teachers and students in the corresponding admissions, and although I also crossed the line, I was only admitted to the third-ranked university.
Another back-to-school season, I chose to go back to my hometown to teach contemporary classes, while Amin chose to go to the provincial city to study at university.
Twenty years later, I am still a very ordinary village teacher, and Amin is already a doctor of law at a well-known university, working in a well-known public company, and living a "gold collar" life that we all once envied.
Every time he made contact, Amin was reporting his good news, and it seemed that the world, as long as it wanted to do something, would have a way to succeed. In contrast, I have too much "negative energy", great ambition, but my ability has never been able to keep up, I have many ideas, but my actions have always failed.
I finally understood that the difference between me and Amin is that Amin is always a "strong man's thinking", not to admit his fate, not to complain about the sky, not to be a person, just like the classic line in the movie "When Happiness Knocks": "If you have an ideal, defend it." ”
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Really powerful people can always catch the glimmer of life.
The tenacity of life is often beyond people's imagination.
Known as the strongest "undead fish" in history, in addition to being able to breathe with gills, it also has a function similar to lung respiration, and during the dry season of up to 6 months, they will hide themselves in the water-scarce soil for summer sleep, wait until the rainy season comes, and then live as usual.
Even if people catch lungfish that are already like a piece of dried fish, as long as they come into contact with water, they will soon be able to jump around again.
This has to be said that this is the survival wisdom evolved by lungfish in an extremely harsh environment.
In the same way, where the water reaches the end, it is a waterfall, and when a person reaches a desperate situation, it is a rebirth. Even if the whole world has given up on you, as long as you still have the fighting spirit and dreams, you will definitely be able to counterattack.
Writer Liu Tong once wrote an essay "The Glimmer of Life", which tells how he relied on a very small belief from the "hopeless situation" of the bottom of the grade and the hopeless college entrance examination: "Understand what can be understood first", and a little bit will improve the "terrible" mathematical score, and thus drive the soaring score of other subjects, and finally enter the university.
Complaining about being in the dark, it is better to carry a lantern forward. Liu Tong said:
Getting worse and worse, or getting better and better, depends on your efforts and the choice to face the general direction. The advantage of being a hard worker is that everyone will want to help you when they see you, and if you don't make a little effort yourself, people want to pull you, and they don't know where your hand is.
Therefore, really powerful people will never allow themselves to be defeated by the embarrassing status quo, and choose to tie their hands early and do not make any resistance and effort. They will always grasp a glimmer of light in life, and when big things can't be done, they start with small things.
And when every little thing is done perfectly and beautifully, naturally, once a big thing is encountered, it can be carried steadily.
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The ability to "fight fragility" stems from making a living and also from seeking love.
In the Costa Rican rainforest of South America, there is a snake that feeds on frogs, and since ancient times, snakes have not had to worry about food. But in recent years, scientists have discovered that frogs have evolved much faster than snakes.
The eggs laid by frogs, hanging on the leaves of aquatic grass, are bright and dangling, and they are the favorite of snakes.
In order to escape the "snake's mouth", when the snake is a little closer to the frog egg, the undeveloped frog eggs will accelerate their development, and finally, when the snake is about to touch them, the frog eggs will turn into tadpoles and jump into the water to escape danger.
Such extraordinary ability stems from the instinct to survive.
Compared to a frog egg that only has to deal with a snake, humans face too many dangers. There are external and more internal, there are material pursuits, there are also spiritual needs, when they can't resist, vulnerability arises spontaneously, and abandonment and escape can be seen everywhere.
Eventually, however, people will regret their cowardice.
Because, many things, as long as you grit your teeth, stay up and go, make a living, and so is love.
As it is said in the movie "When Happiness Knocks": "You have to do your best to protect your dreams, those who laugh at your dreams, because they are doomed to fail." I believe that as long as there is a dream, I will become different, and so will you. ”
Cultivating your ability to "be anti-fragile" doesn't require a lofty reason, you just need to "love what you love and do what you do." ”
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Conclusion:
People who are really powerful are never born to be very powerful.
Instead, in the process of groping and fighting again and again, forging a strong heart and an indomitable soul, as well as the temperament of external softness and inner rigidity.
Don't envy others for being so strong in resisting pressure, it doesn't matter if they bear the burden of humiliation, but they have a little more skill than you who are vulnerable at every turn, that is, "anti-fragility".
Big deal, do it all over again. When a person gets up more than he falls, success belongs to him.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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