Text/Tang Ruo
Tang Ruoxin learns original works, and those who violate them will be investigated
In life, we need to understand that only when you understand the nature of your life and take full responsibility for yourself can you shine.
If you forget the essence of your life and don't know how to take responsibility for yourself, then your life will eventually be a losing game, because no matter what you do, you are abandoning your life.
If we want to make ourselves strong inside, the most important thing is to understand that the essence of life is life, so that you can grasp the initiative of life.
The essence of life is to live out oneself
In the process of growing up in life, everyone's life is to live out their own. The essence of life is to live your best self.
So what is to live your best self, in essence, is to follow the passion of your own life and find what is the motivation of your own life.
Recently, Olympic champion Gu Airing brushed the screen, Gu Aireng once said that her life is to do what she likes to do, and then enjoy her own things. The second is to constantly do what you like better and challenge in a better direction.
The essence of life is to live out yourself. Gu Airing's growth process is essentially to follow the passion of his own life and then continue to move in that direction.
When you continue to do one thing and continue to enjoy self-breakthrough, your life will gradually open up, and you will also see the unlimited potential of the self.
Many people praise Gu Airing as a genius, but behind the genius is a kind of insistence on self, is not to care about the eyes of others, but to enjoy the competitive game to bring enough growth to themselves.
If you really understand the nature of life, you will really be yourself, you will not be afraid of other people's eyes, but really listen to your own heart, then you will feel the circulation of inner energy, this energy will lead you in a better direction.
Let go of expectations and dependence on others
If we want to make ourselves strong inside, we must let go of our expectations and dependence on ourselves and take full responsibility for ourselves.
In fact, many of people's troubles come from expectations and dependence on others. When we expect and rely more and more on others, we are not responsible for our own lives.
We are just an excessive taker. The growth of inner life comes from our continuous giving and growth, and if we always let others meet all our desires, we are doomed to be inhibited and unable to live out the inner stretch.
Psychology has found that many people have a kind of thinking in their hearts, such as we think that children should be obedient, parents should understand me, teachers should be good to me, and so on.
When you pin your hopes on others, your inner life will always be controlled by others, but when you let go of your expectations and dependence on others, but deeply understand that you are responsible for yourself, you will try to be rich and satisfied with yourself.
Thinking should largely hinder the exploration of my own life, in fact, in the process of counseling, I have seen that many people will have the right thinking.
"Should" thinking is essentially a kind of not accepting reality, but living in a self-imaginary world, whether it is the expectation of parents or the expectations of children and the expectations of those around us, these inappropriate expectations will isolate us from reality.
A good life is a process of gradually letting go of expectations of others, but a process of really learning to seek inward, the more you understand that the inner needs you can meet, the more you can let go of the expectations of others, but calmly accept the differences of others and the existence of various kinds.
You are stronger than you think
In life, many people do not take the step of exploration, often do not believe in themselves enough, but when you take the step of exploration, you will find that you are more powerful than imagined.
Everyone will have a certain fear, and the appropriate fear will protect us, but excessive fear will hinder our lives.
And seeing that the strength of life comes from continuous practice and exploration, you will understand that the process of life is the process of continuous tempering yourself, when we no longer doubt ourselves, no longer deny ourselves, but continue to affirm ourselves, continue to accept your life, you will see more possibilities of self-life.
In the process of growing up in life, you must understand that many of the needs of our inner life can be achieved step by step through our own efforts.
Maslow once told about five needs of man, namely security, freedom, value, meaning and intimacy, and these five relationships are the five core needs of our human beings.
Under the guidance of the five cores, we can achieve our own needs by gradually growing and establishing good relationships with others.
When you find that the more self-desires you fulfill, the more open your inner life will be and the stronger your confidence in yourself will be.
In particular, the more you can take care of yourself, take responsibility for your own needs, and allow yourself to be satisfied and fulfilled, the more you can face the world with ease, ease, and happiness.
When you can take good care of yourself, when you expect and rely less and less on others, you will also be in a natural rather than repressed state of relationship with others, and your life will also live more stretched.
Today's topic: Do you understand the nature of life, welcome to discuss and communicate.