Text: Flipping through the books in his spare time
In the process of people's interaction, it is inevitable that there will be stumbling blocks.
And the more intimate people are, the more they lack tolerance, and they are prone to break up because of some small quarrels.
Perhaps it is because the more you care about the person, the more you want the other party to be pure in your feelings, so you can't help but be more harsh.
Therefore, when getting along with people, we are not afraid of disputes, and what we are afraid of is that there is no way to properly alleviate conflicts and resolve contradictions.
Writer Keigo Higashino wrote this passage in "Relief Grocery Store":
"There is no need for a concrete reason for the severance of love between people. Even if there is on the surface, it is likely to be just an excuse made up after the heart has left. For if the heart does not leave, when something happens that will lead to the breakdown of the relationship, someone should try to save it. If not, it means that the relationship has already broken down. ”
It seems that the key to whether or not you can make a relationship after the quarrel lies in whether the two sides have a heart.
But I suspect that things are not so simple, there are many broken emotions in the world, not because both sides no longer care, but because the misunderstanding cannot be eliminated.
Coupled with everyone's stubbornness to some extent, they eventually missed the best time to reconcile, or made a fuss to trigger an unnecessary Cold War, which eventually led to "love and righteousness".
This is a technical matter of interacting with people, and it has not yet reached the point where the heart has left.
It is a pity to cause such old and dead to not interact with each other.
If it is really time for one party to decide to quit in discouragement, in fact, there is very little quarrel.
If the mind is gone, there is no longer the strength to quarrel, and it becomes no longer important whether a legitimate reason is needed to separate.
It can be seen that an intimate relationship, whether it is love or friendship, maintaining it is not an easy task.
This requires both emotional foundation and careful understanding and tolerance.
If the relationship develops to the point where one party needs to work to save, in my opinion, there is basically nothing to save.
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