Truly falling in love with a person, the heart is full of hope, hoping that two people can stay together for a long time.
When two people are together, it seems to change into a person, because of each other's every move, let themselves be happy or sad, because the other party's joys and sorrows also make their emotions fluctuate.
This is to care, but also to care, they can be a little wronged, do not want the person they love to be unhappy, even if the other party does something wrong, they can't bear to blame, but give tolerance and understanding.
You think that this is a lifelong partner who does not need to worry about small things, and you also think that as long as you pay more, the other party will also give you more love and care, and look forward to supporting each other along the way.
However, in the world of feelings, it may not be as you like, not that you care about each other, he (she) will also care about you, and even in the relationship will not cherish you at all.
However, even if you have waves in your heart, you don't want to believe it, because you have been looking forward to a long time, preferring to think that it is a short episode, looking forward to the day when the rain passes and the sun is clear, and the love of two people can continue to sound.
However, the longer the time passes, the stranger the other party is in your eyes, the original vow is gone, and the initial concern is gone, leaving only endless sighs.
The consequences of encountering unladylike people, in addition to allowing yourself to waste more time and cost, more often will not give you direct explanations at all, so that you swim around in the middle of wandering and tangled, suffering but at the same time overwhelmed.
If it is a pity to meet someone who is not suitable, then it is a failure to meet someone who has never been straightforward, and the other party does not care about you at all, completely for selfishness and ignores your feelings.
You should be soberly aware that such people are not worth cherishing, such feelings are not so strong, do not try to change each other, it can only be a futile self-deception, it is better to leave early.
To be honest, the other half has such a change, and it is time to leave.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="23" >1 Endless requests, all kinds of excuses</h1>
True mutual pleasure is always mutual giving, not unilateral and endless demand, and each time there are various excuses.
Even if you like him in your bones, love him, and think that pampering is to care, but the other party is not grateful, but takes your efforts as a matter of course, once you get used to taking, the rest is to become more intense, not endless.
He knows that you love him, but he will understand it as a handle to take, as long as he wants to, he will open his mouth to you without scruples, even if you do not have enough money, it will force you to think of a way, rather than give understanding.
Once you give opposition, then he will talk about love, but accuse you of not cherishing this feeling, and even insult your personality and ridicule you for being stingy.
The softer your heart is, the more he presses forward step by step, a handful of heartache and a handful of tears, and people who do not know the truth still think that he is the most wronged.
To tell you the truth, no matter how good you are to him, such a person can't actually warm his heart, he doesn't love you at all, in fact, he treats you as an object of demand, and once it is squeezed dry, he will run away.
As for your grievances and grievances, it is not something he cares about for a long time, as long as he can get what he wants from you, other things have nothing to do with himself.
Being with such a person will eventually become used, squeezed, and not loved bit by bit.
If you are unfortunate to encounter, do not hesitate, leave quickly, no matter what the other party says to stay, do not be soft-hearted, you must go away.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="83" >2 Look down on you, look down on you, and you are useless in the eyes of the other party</h1>
In fact, couples or couples, once they have no feelings for each other, they will lose the joy and laughter of the past, and the other party will feel disgusted even if they see each other under one roof, thinking of fleeing quickly, and do not want to stay by each other's side for a moment.
This is because at this moment, you are a kind of superfluous and a burden in his eyes, even if you have thousands of advantages in you, you will automatically block it in his place, and all you see is your shortcomings.
When they get along, he or she will look down on you and look down on you, even if you have worked very hard to achieve good results. However, the other party still wants to compare the more excellent people with you, not that you are not excellent, but that he chooses to turn a blind eye.
If you think that all this is your own mistake, when you "review" in front of the other party in exchange for caring, the result is often counterproductive, he will only pick the bones in the egg and think of ways to belittle you.
No matter how hard you try and how you explain, in the eyes of the other party, it is just useless, and the longer the time, you will have a psychological burden, thinking that you are the useless person in the other party's mouth, making yourself depressed and sullen.
You know, we choose the right relationship and find the right person in order to make ourselves better, not to find someone who doesn't care to belittle ourselves, so it's better to separate early than that.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="85" >3 Never cherished your efforts</h1>
Because you care, you have to pay; because you cherish, you will be long-lasting.
In the emotional world, the real love is to care about each other's efforts, even if a little bit will be transformed into a vow of love, engraved on the sweet feelings of two people, so that this love will not stop, will not be separated.
However, once the other party can't see your efforts and never know how to cherish, then you are like air in his eyes, he is just used to having you, but he will never care about your feelings again.
Because, he only has himself in his heart. Even if you take the initiative to talk about the world and ask for warmth, what you get in exchange for him is only indifference and perfunctory, and the more you ask, the more you will disappear.
If you ask a bitter question, he is absent-minded and says something that goes wrong; if you act very sad, and he laughs at you for being unreasonable.
You know, your initiative is only for the people you care about, and your sadness is only for the people who care. However, all this has become so strange now, he doesn't understand you at all.
In fact, he doesn't love you anymore, he just never says it directly, and you think it's just a small episode of normal getting along. The more cold the heart, the more you pay, the more you are ignored by the other party, and finally let yourself fall into the vortex that can't jump out and endure suffering and pain.
When you really see the truth of all this, don't linger anymore, this relationship will not bring you happiness, it will only make you more and more miserable.
True love is mutual, happy love is to care about each other, never unilaterally pay, there is no blind demand, under the unequal feelings hidden irreversible defeat, when you really understand all this, you should persuade yourself not to be soft-hearted, hurry up and wave your hands to say goodbye.
This is the greatest kindness to yourself, and it is also the beginning of letting yourself have happiness again!
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Author: Uncle Zhihe Accompany you every day to wander the emotional world, warm and heal your heart.