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Some time ago, there was a hot search on Weibo #How absolute can actresses speak.#
Clicking in to take a look, I found that it was a passage that Tao Hong said in an interview:
"The prevalence of girlish culture is not a good thing, it can only explain the immaturity and naivety of men, and I have no intention of attacking others, because if you can't appreciate a mature woman, or a woman who is as smart, tasteful, and learned as you, what does this mean?" The explanation is that men are not confident. ”
Many netizens have liked:
"People who directly attack the essence and have no inner confidence will like fragile and easy to manipulate objects."
I don't know when, "girly" seems to stand out from thousands of adjectives and become a high-level evaluation of women.
But today, more and more people have stepped forward and begun to "reverse output".
For example, in the previous "Spit Conference", Yi Lijing asked sharply:
"Why do middle-aged women now pursue the so-called girlishness? So what do you want teenage girls to pursue? Pursuing a middle-aged wealthy businessman? ”
In fact, the prevalence of girlish culture is inseparable from the "male gaze".
However, women of every age have their own charm, and in mature women, you can see the beauty of self-confidence and diversity.
In the book "When You Fly Like a Bird to Your Mountain", there is a passage about the possibility of a woman:
"What makes this face, what makes this woman different, is not the clothes, but what is behind her eyes, what she bites between her teeth — hope, faith, or belief, that makes life no longer set in stone."
What's more, really good boys have never been afraid of girls being excellent.
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I know there is a question: will boys be discouraged because of the excellence of the other half, and they will be dissatisfied?
It turned out that she and her boyfriend were college classmates, but after work, because of their outstanding work ability, they were very important to the boss, but the boyfriend was very dissatisfied, felt that they were inappropriate, and wanted to break up with her.
Even the other party also put forward a condition, hoping that the girl can wait for him for a year, and when he becomes excellent, the two people will continue the frontier.
So, here's a highly praised answer from a male perspective:
No.
We boys are also very realistic good, please do not have any misunderstanding about us. Truly strong men will be tolerant enough to prefer that the other half is an eagle flying with him, rather than a bird and finches raised in a golden wire cage.
If your significant other breaks up with you because of your excellent choice, please be decisive and say goodbye, and the next one is more obedient.
Read a sentence:
The male lion should have a female lion by his side, and even a proud, independent, fierce and aggressive cat is barely the same subject; after all, in the eyes of the hunter, the docile sheep can never be prey, and cannot be companions who can walk side by side.
Two days ago, the theme concert of "Mountain and River Order" was successfully concluded in Suzhou, and Xie Nan, as the host, performed remarkablely in the whole concert.
Speaking of Xie Nan, many people will think of her husband Wu Jing, when Xie Nan first promoted a movie he starred in, there were comments at the bottom sneering:
"Obediently serve your husband and son at home, come out to make what movie, the box office is only 1 million."
But being a full-time wife was never Xie Nan's choice.
As always, she chose to love her job and recharge her batteries.
And Wu Jing never asked Xie Nan to wash his hands and make soup for him at home because he was hot and rich, and sacrificed for his family.
In "Happiness Trio", Wu Jing is very sober that marriage is a whole, one person is left behind, and the other person does not have good fruit to eat.
Indeed, true love must be evenly matched, equal, he will look forward to your growth more than you, rejoice in your every progress, and hope to work with you to run into the future.
03
Teacher Luo Xiang said:
Falling in love with a person may be because the other person is good-looking, but after you fall in love, slowly this physical attraction will make you climb up, there will be the attraction of knowledge, there will be the attraction of music, there will be the attraction of the soul, the love of the flesh will be boring and constantly replaced, and the real love is up the ladder.
This is true.
After watching an interview-style love documentary, a boy said shyly to the camera:
"At first, I just thought that she was in good shape, with long legs and thin waist, and there was meat where there should be meat, and then I thought that she was good to me, and I liked it very seriously, so I thought about trying it together."
However, the more I contacted her, the more I liked her, and I found that she had so many shining points. She's very independent and hardworking, and she's taking a lot of the pressure off for me. We have a lot of common hobbies, like to stay together to watch station B, like to play games together, but also go to the cinema to watch new Hong Kong movies. Looking at the ugly appearance of her just getting up, she was inexplicably cute, and she understood the meaning of soul mate more and more. She had been asking me if I loved her before, and I always felt that I had not reached that level and always dodged, but now I wanted to say I loved her every day. ”
Yes, liking someone may start with looks, but eventually be faithful to talent.
Remember Wang Bingbing, the "first love of the nation" of last year's fire?
Wang Bingbing's popularity, a considerable part of the reason is because she has a girlish nature, as long as there is a place where Wang Bingbing appears, the bullet screen is the same "wife".
But in the end, it is because she is a woman who combines beauty and talent.
Wang Bingbing was originally a 985 high-quality student of Jilin University, and joined CCTV with excellent results in 2012.
As a front-line location reporter, she even needs to appear at the scene of various floods, fires, car accidents, and alpine snow in an emergency, and every time she leaves the country, she will choose a professional hosting style according to different scenes.
Can be rigorous, can be lively, can be affinity, can be sassy.
In fact, what we oppose is never girlishness, but opposes the choice that girls only have a "girlish feeling".
Instead of blindly pursuing girlishness, it is better to learn to face time calmly, learn to accept yourself, and enjoy life loosely.
Because age brings not only wrinkles, white hair, but also experience and vision, it is beautiful in the maturity of thought, insight into the world, and there is a kind of calmness and ease of reading thousands of sails.
When Liu Mintao quickly went out of the circle with a song "Red High Heels", some netizens praised:
"She's not holding a microphone, but a shaking glass of wine, exuding the mellow and intoxicating charm of a middle-aged woman."
As Claire, played by Julie Binoche in "Who Do You Think I Am," put it:
The 16-year-old girl is a green fruit, hanging from the branches of the tree verdant;
The 24-year-old young woman is a fiery fire, who understands the world and is simply decisive;
The 32-year-old woman has a good dance style.
What about 50?
The streamer is gone, the face is gone, but it is still full of passion for everything.
Yes, what we aspire to see is that everyone is a unique beauty and that everyone has infinite possibilities.
No matter what age, no matter what kind of appearance, you can be beautiful like yourself, you are yourself.