<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >01: Prologue</h1>
Have you ever tried to sit alone when you're always going to have someone come up to you and ask:
"Are you okay?"
"Is it all right?"
As if everyone would think that being alone should not be the normal behavior of a human being.
Many times, we forget that loneliness is not a problem in life, and fear of loneliness is.
Only when we learn to take off our disguises and armor, face our true selves alone, and begin to enjoy our time alone, can we be free to be better selves.
As Natsume's Friends says:
"I must admit that most of my life is lonely, and trying to grow up is the best game that can be played in loneliness."
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >02: Enjoy solitude</h1>
Life has always been fair, and it doesn't change the nature of things for anyone.
Only those who have self-confidence can justifiably ignore the social framework, and Yu Feihong is such a strange woman who uses a wonderful life to dissolve the worldly bondage.
As an older single beauty in the show business, Yu Feihong is always asked why she is not married.
She always answered calmly:
"I'm not unmarried, I'm not single, and I'm not against maritalism."
In other words:
"I haven't found the right one, and when I meet the right one, I will naturally get married, so don't gossip about it."
For his own life, Yu Feihong has always felt that it is normal for women to be single.
In 2016, in "Threesomes", in front of Dou Wentao and Feng Tang's sharp questions:
"Always alone, is it normal?"
"Why have you been single for so long?"
"Do you get bored when you're alone?"
Yu Feihong only replied four or two times:
"Single people can also be spiritually rich."
When a person has a strong enough heart to enjoy a person's life when he needs to be alone, even if it is this decision, which requires you to retrograde in the crowd, you can also take your own steps with determination.
Zhou Guoping also described:
"I'm most relaxed when I'm alone because I don't feel bored, even if it's boring, I take it myself, I don't have to worry about others, I don't have to feel uneasy."
Learn to get along with yourself and enjoy it, so that you can live a boring life richly and personally, or you can not care about the eyes of others.
You can also get along with yourself frankly, and after getting to know yourself, you can properly enrich yourself.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >03: Learn to be alone</h1>
When it comes to solitude, no one would object to 2020, the year that gives many people the most time to be alone.
For me, there is no other option but isolation.
I quarantined domestically in January and February, and since March, when I returned to Australia, there was another wave of quarantine.
There is a joke on the Internet:
"This epidemic is playing in China in the first half, foreign countries playing in the second half, and overseas Chinese playing in the whole game."
This is my true portrayal.
I was really bored by the isolation, and I began to chat with friends in the circle of friends.
Looking at how they have been doing recently, I found that Qian Yi's experience gave me a new understanding of the life of isolation.
Qian Yi, who has been a programmer for 10 years, can no longer stand the boring office work, and decided to quit his job last June and empty his life.
He said that during that time, he could finally eliminate the need to use his home as a hotel, get up early and go to bed late every day, and now he can often go hiking in the mountains and swimming in the sea.
The days of freely enjoying nature made him feel that life was now, and before that it was survival.
In September, when the Australian mountain fires were serious, he did not hesitate to sign up as a volunteer, followed the professional team to the mountains to extinguish the fire, and met many caring people.
He also participated in many rescue team activities, providing help to many people who had lost their homes, and unlocked the skills of repairing houses.
When I saw him in March, his body had changed from pale and weak to a healthy wheat color full of tendon flesh.
I asked him, what are your plans for the future?
He said that he planned to continue to empty it, and it was very comfortable to stay alone, and his savings were enough for Ge You to be paralyzed for a while.
Later, when we talked again, I learned that he had silently enriched his life during the isolation period.
Not only did he upgrade his previous expertise, but he also registered the company and formed a small team to pick up work online, perfectly avoiding this wave of financial fluctuations.
Without financial pressure, he can now do what he likes every day:
Read books, learn the skills you are interested in on "YouTube", take the barista certificate, bartender certificate, etc.
Watching Qian also spend a year to correct his own life, I can't help but sigh, it turns out that a person in the time alone, can use his own rhythm, the previous monotonous life written into history, began to truly belong to their own rich life.
When the lockdown is over, he says, he can drive around and travel to explore new life experiences and unlock more skills that interest him.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >04: Conclusion</h1>
Qian Yi's attitude towards life reminds me of what I have heard before:
Wan Xueqin, a 61-year-old aunt who used fragmented time to learn more than 160 online courses; He Jiong, who worked 360 days a year, revealed eight-pack abs in "Longing for Life"; Wang Jia'er, who soaked in the studio every day and kept creating.
They all have to take advantage of their isolation time to make themselves better and self-disciplined to enjoy their lonely days.
Precipitate yourself, understand yourself, and then use your own way to enrich your life, not arrogantly and impatiently make yourself better.
Some people say that life is like writing on a piece of paper, if there is no blank space, it is full of writing, it looks very crowded and very oppressive.
Only leave a blank space in the right place to be pleasing to the eye.
Leave some blank space in your life, leave some time, in order to continue to zero and break through yourself, and continue to grow into a better self.