#萌娃第一次生气 + mom response warm heart #
Shandong Jining News: Meng Wa was angry for the first time, and her mother reacted brightly.
Mom was at home playing with the baby. The child took a helmet toy and put it on his head, but he couldn't bring it with him. So angrily grabbed her fist and slammed it against the table, and the mother couldn't help but laugh when she saw the baby's cute expression and movements. The mother's smile made the son feel even more annoyed. Then the mother quickly apologized to her son: Little tree, don't be angry, the mother should not laugh. So I took the baby into my arms, patiently soothed and guided. Under the comfort of his mother, his son's mood stabilized. Slowly I got happy, played with my mother again, and started playing.
I have to say that this mother is doing very well and is a very patient mother.
The first sentence when a child loses his temper is really important.
Children lose their temper, and the first reaction of many mothers is to forcibly stop it and not let the child cry. It may even say:
"If you cry again, your mother won't buy you toys anymore."
"Cry, wait until you don't cry mom will hug you again"
"It's useless for you to cry, this just can't be put in."
In a variety show, Cai Shaofen once shared her experience of encouraging her little daughter to lose her temper. Actor Hu Ke also had a similar experience, he did not agree with his son Xiaoyu'er to buy toys, Xiaoyu'er cried on the spot, and also called Hu Ke "stinky mother". In the face of the foolish little fish, Hu Ke took his son into his arms and said softly and firmly: "I know."
Wonderfully, the little fish heard her mother's words, quickly calmed down, and snatched the milk from her mother's hand and gulped it up.
"I know", a simple three words, let the child feel the tolerance and acceptance from the mother, and successfully resonated with the child.
In the face of children crying, what we can do is:
1. Listen to needs and accept children's emotions unconditionally.
2. Show weakness appropriately and empathize with the child.
3. Guide and dredge, and do not teach children before people.
When a child loses his temper, the parent's first words are really important. Because we have to understand that many times it is not the child who has a bad temper and is very willful. More often than not his needs are not seen by you. As parents, we should allow anger to occur. Instead of trying to force repression. You can say it to your child. It's okay to feel angry, you can cry for a while instead of coming up and saying it. You shouldn't be angry. When a child loses his temper, the most taboo thing for parents is to accuse from above. Indigestible emotions will eventually erode the child's heart. Parents who allow their children to lose their temper can raise children who are relaxed and happy.
No matter how old the child is, don't just love and accept him when he is cute, easy to get along with, and attractive;
Love and accept him when he is emotional, troublesome, difficult to approach, and angry.
Only in this way can children feel that their whole person, whether it is the good side or the bad side, is accepted by the parents.