"Little Women": Knowing enough is the beginning of a family's prosperity
"Little Women" is a novel by American writer Louisa May Olcott, which mainly tells the story of the four sisters of the March family who insisted on themselves and finally stepped into their ideal life.
The March family in the book is not rich, Mr. March is away all year round, Mrs. March raises several children alone, and her life is stretched. Although the March couple, who are accustomed to the wind and rain, have learned to correctly view this family situation, for the four sisters, poverty is still the biggest pain.
The eldest sister, Meg, wanted beautiful clothes, flowers and a carriage, but in order to make a living, she had to wear simple clothes to work all day. The second sister Qiao loves to write, reading and writing at night is the sustenance of her life, but the ideal is the ideal after all, and she still needs to work in her aunt's house to make a living, and she must not spare time.
The third sister Beth is a gentle and kind girl, she cherishes everything in front of her, but she can't help but shed tears for the worn-out piano. Little Sister Amy loves to paint, but the countless brushes and paints have always made her self-esteem faintly painful.
Like us in reality, the four sisters are often troubled by the difficult family situation, and they are constantly looking at the magnificent palaces around them, eager to live a worry-free life. Fortunately, this attitude did not hide the tenderness in their hearts, and in the enlightenment of their mothers and their own growth, they had a deeper understanding of the family.
Everyone is hard, don't envy anyone
Envy and jealousy are perfectly normal emotions, which shows that we have a heart that is not willing to be ordinary. But sometimes, if left unchecked, this emotion can become an obstacle in life.
In reality, how many people are depressed all day because they envy others, and how many people are on the road of no return because of jealousy. The reason behind this is that they focus on the brilliance of others and do not see the real situation of others.
If we can calmly look at the people around us, we will find that everyone has suffering and happiness, and what you envy is only what you imagine, not the whole picture of others. Even if you really become the likeness of others, you may not be able to achieve the ideal state.
The four sisters in the book envy the huge palace of the neighbor Laurie's family and envy the life of the Kings family, but after in-depth understanding, they get the unexpected truth.
It turned out that Laurie's life was worry-free, but only his grandfather was his companion. When the four sisters admired the Laurie family's house through the window, Laurie was also longing for the laughter of the four sisters' home. The children of the Kings family wandered in the midst of money and fame, but they did not know how to grasp themselves, which made the family conflicted.
They may have conditions that the four sisters can't match, but there are also loneliness, disappointment, and quarrels that the March family does not have. After weighing it over and over again, the four sisters finally understood that the people on the outside were not as good as they thought, and they were not as bad as they had once thought. They care more about the affection they have now than the superficial splendor. Thinking of this, the four sisters were also relieved.
People are born different, probably the most complicated and difficult thing in the world. From a positive point of view, it is fertility and life that give us a unique life, so that each individual has a different brilliance. But we have to admit that it is also the process of birth that determines people's different starting points, thus affecting the fate of our lives.
No one can choose the family situation, born in a difficult family, it is true that they will lose a lot of conditions for survival than others. But that doesn't mean we're inferior in terms of life.
Life is not only flowers and carriages, but also countless warm years, and countless good qualities. You may not have enviable material conditions, but you still have a harmonious and warm family. You may not have a native family to rely on, but your heart is strong, brave, optimistic and cheerful, enough to face the storms of life. These sparkling riches are also the envy of others.
When you are angry about the conditions in front of you, try to think outside the box, look at what others are missing, and count what you have.
This is not a comparison, but let us understand that no one can live a full life, he has you do not have, but you have what he may not have, you are envious of him, maybe he is also envious of you, no need to be arrogant.
Once people begin to be jealous and envious of others, they are equivalent to putting their emotions on others. At that time, other people's every move will affect your emotions, and your own joy may also be ignored. Compared to go, maybe even the original self has been lost, and the gain is not worth the loss.
Many people feel that they are not having a good life because they are measuring life by a single value. In fact, life has always been multi-dimensional, people without money may have love, people without love may have money, each variable may be different, but the whole they superimpose must be balanced.
Therefore, when you feel that you are insufficient in some way, it is better to dig out other things that are worth rejoicing. Maybe you're not rich, but a full "spiritual rich man."
Correctly understand your own ideas and learn to meet them appropriately
Mrs. March said to the four sisters, "Once upon a time there were four girls who were well fed, comfortable, with kind friends and loving parents, but they were not satisfied. ”
This sentence is also a satire on many people and many families.
Not willing to be in front of you, eager to go upwards, is a positive state. But the premise is that what you envy is exactly what is needed.
Always think clearly about what you really need. You envy the life of rich people, can you really be happy if you have money? You are jealous of other people's families, aren't your current families unhappy?
Many of those families that love harmony but end up falling apart are because family members blindly chase unimportant things and neglect to cherish the importance of the present. Not knowing how to properly satisfy is the root cause of their suffering.
Don't be blinded by a moment of jealousy, when you envy others, you must first think about what you really need, whether this so-called brilliance makes sense to you. If not, discard it decisively. If there is, we should also strive to achieve the ideal, rather than obsessively looking at others.
