It is another year's blind date "peak season", and many spinach families may have quietly made blind date arrangements.
For young people with increasing social fears, blind dates are a great way to meet the opposite sex.
I saw an interesting hot search on the Internet:
Do girls like boys to take the initiative to chase?
Uncle Bo's advice is, of course, to chase!
Make sure the other person is single, and haven't made it clear that they don't like you, so why not chase it? What if it really happens!
Although it is already 2022, in many people's concepts, women chasing men is still a more embarrassing thing. Because the girls chased backwards, they always felt a bit cheap.
But this statement is inherently problematic. Equality between men and women, how to "chase backwards"? Moreover, falling in love is not a transaction, and whoever loses and who earns.
Between men and women, which party takes the initiative depends on personality, not gender.
Speaking of women chasing men, Uncle Bo remembered a very raw woman-
Ding ling
That's right, it was the first literati to arrive in Yan'an, a female writer whom Chairman Mao called "Miss Wen yesterday, General Wu today."
The love history of this Miss Ding, in her time, can be described as shocking, even if it is put into the present, it is also avant-garde to unbelievable.
Ding Ling came from a large family, although the family was in the middle of the road, but received new ideological education, in personal feelings, she pursued freedom, equality between men and women. Therefore, she strongly refused the marriage arranged by the family.
In order to resist marriage, she broke with her family and went to Shanghai alone to study.
The first time she had a secret affection for the opposite sex, it should be when she was studying at Shanghai University, she liked the Russian teacher Qu Qiubai, but it was a pity that Qu Qiubai later married her girlfriend Wang Jianhong.
She did not blame her girlfriend for snatching away her crush, but she was angry at Qu Qiubai for snatching away her girlfriend. Later, Wang Jianhong fell ill and died, qu Qiubai was busy making a revolution and did not accompany him, and Ding Ling's resentment towards him was one more point.
In 1924, at the age of 20, Ding Ling decided to "drift north" and went to Beijing to continue her studies.
But when she arrived in Beijing, she was unable to enroll for some reasons. To survive, she tried a lot of work. Writing articles to earn writing fees is the most routine operation, and she even wants to become an actress in the past.
By chance, she went to a literary gathering organized by Shen Congwen and met a young editor, Hu Yepin.
Hu Yepin is a romantic poet who fell in love with Ding Ling at first sight, but unfortunately Ding Ling had no idea about him.
In order to pursue Ding Ling, Hu Also frequently chased her hometown from Beijing to her hometown in Hunan, and wherever she went, he followed her. Finally, she was impressed.
The two returned to Beijing together, fell in love, and then got married.
In order to make a living, Ding Ling began to write. In 1927, she published her debut novel "Mengke", and in 1928, she published the short story "The Diary of Lady Shafi", which came to prominence in the literary world.
Ding Ling is a woman with a fire in her heart, and Hu Ye frequently lives too plain and warm days, but it makes her uncomfortable.
The appearance of a man slowly caught her attention.
In Ding Ling's initial impression, Feng Xuefeng was a rustic countryman. But as she got into contact, she found that he was full of money and could speak fluent English and Japanese.
Unconsciously, she fell in love with Feng Xuefeng.
Who is Ding Ling?
A new-age woman who pursues freedom, a person who dares to break with her family in order to resist marriage. So, for the sake of the "true love" in her heart, what is the point of betraying her husband?
She began to pursue Feng Xuefeng passionately, and constantly wrote love letters to him:
My heart for two days can't do without you, and I think of you.
I really only chased one man, and only this man burned my heart and made me have some wild desires... This man is you!
It is said that "women chase male compartment yarn", not to mention that she is still such a talented woman, Feng Xuefeng simply cannot refuse.
But the problem came, after chasing Feng Xuefeng to her hand, she felt that Hu Yefeng could still make it up. Children make choices, adults have to do both.
Next, Ding Ling's strength deduced what is called "favored without fear".
She proposes to two men who love her deeply: three people living together.
Incredibly, the two men actually agreed.
The three of them really just found a house by the West Lake and stayed for a while. But love is selfish, how is it possible to share a woman's love with others?
Hu Yepin first protested, asking Ding Ling to choose one of the two.
In the end, Ding Ling chose Hu Yepin. However, she still had a crush on Feng Xuefeng.
It is also the one I remember the most, and The Snow Peak is the one I miss the most, and it is also the first man I love.
In March 1930, the Chinese Left-Wing Writers' Union was founded in Shanghai, referred to as the Left League (a revolutionary literary group under the leadership of the Communist Party of China, which propagated Marxism and opposed the cultural encirclement and suppression of the Kuomintang). Ding Ling and Hu Yepin are both members of the Left League.
Left-wing literature was a powerful literary and artistic trend that caused panic in the Kuomintang government, and the arrest of members of the Left League began.
In February 1931, Hu was arrested and subsequently confirmed to have been killed.
Ding Ling was full of grief and indignation, if she was just a hot-blooded young woman who sang with her husband, then after her husband sacrificed herself for the revolution, she completely transformed into a staunch Marxist.
She lied to her mother that Hu Was frequently going to the Soviet Union, that she alone could not take the child, that she had entrusted her four-month-old son to her mother to raise, and that she had gone to Shanghai alone to fight the Kuomintang.
The vigorous revolutionary movement made her quickly forget the pain of widowhood, and a Russian translator named Vonda cared twice for her.
At that time, Ding Ling was once disheartened about feelings and marriage, and she couldn't talk about true feelings for Feng Da, but this man took care of her everywhere in life, and she just made it up. The two soon moved in together and married.
One day in May 1933, Pan Zinian, the editor-in-chief of The Truth, suddenly came to visit, when Feng Da was not at home, and three men suddenly rushed in and arrested Ding Ling and Pan Zinian.
The two exchanged a glance when they were caught, and understood everything.
At that time, Shanghai's "Damei Evening News" published the news "Ms. Ding Ling is missing", which became a social hotspot for a while.
Feng Da swore to Ding Ling that he had not betrayed her, but how could this make her believe?
Ding Ling spent more than two years in prison, during which time she was emotionally agitated and wanted to commit suicide several times, but was saved by Feng Da.
It was not until September 1936 that Ding Ling escaped with the help of Zuo Lian, after which she and Feng Da lao died and had no contact.
Ding Ling, who escaped the day, continued to carry out the revolution to the end, this time, she was going to Yan'an.
She became very popular in Yan'an, and she prepared to set up a literary and art association, serving as the editor-in-chief of the literary and art supplement of The Liberation Daily, the vice chairman of the Shaanxi-Gansu-Ningxia Border Region Literary Association, and other works, creating works such as "When I Was in Xia village" and "In the hospital".
The prestigious female writer is 38 years old, has been married twice, and has three men.
When she met Chen Ming, a handsome 25-year-old boy, she was still moved.
At the literary and art evening party held in Yan'an to commemorate the first anniversary of Gorky's death, the performance of the literary and artistic youth Chen Ming on the stage made Ding Ling's eyes shine.
He was in charge of propaganda work under Ding Ling, and the two cooperated very tacitly.
In Ding Ling's style, if she likes a man, she will never hide it, and her brother is also blatant. Soon, there was some gossip around.
Chen Ming's face was relatively thin, and he didn't know how to overwhelm the enthusiastic Ding Ling, so he simply married another woman.
With Ding Ling, my pressure is too much, her experience is too rich, I really have concerns.
However, after marriage, he immediately found that he had done something stupid, and he couldn't let go of Ding Ling at all. Therefore, he quickly went through divorce procedures with his wife.
In 1942, Ding Ling and Chen Ming, a 13-year-old sister-brother love, repaired the positive results.
In the years since, no matter what difficulties Ding Ling has encountered, Chen Ming has always accompanied her and given her warmth. The two frothed with each other, supported each other, and walked through the bumpy second half of their lives.
In March 1986, ding ling said to Chen Ming before her death:
You are so bitter, I can't rest assured that you are the one.
Chen Ming said that Ding Ling is worthy of his love, and he has spent his life to protect Ding Ling.
When she was young, Ding Ling was indeed too avant-garde and suspected of being a "scumbag", but she was able to grow and mature.
She was sincere to herself from beginning to end and never hid her feelings. She never looked down on herself, no matter how old she was, met the person she liked, put aside her identity and status, and bravely pursued love.
Although the first half of her life was quite controversial, she had to admit that the happiness of the second half of her life was what she fought for herself and what she deserved.