Previously, the editor said in an article that the 40-year-old Kate Middleton was in good shape, and some people were puzzled, leaving a message: Her face is wrinkled, where is the state of good?!
This kind of message is really, directly buried alive is best.
How can anyone equate "whether a woman's state is good" and "how many wrinkles" are there?
In the attitude towards "getting older", it has to be said that it is an obvious target of the difference between men and women. For example, "the charm still exists" and "Xu Niang is half old", even if the starting point is to praise a woman's "still posture", people who hear it will inevitably be really happy; not to mention "residual flowers and willows", "people are old and fading", they have their own pejorative meaning but are often used in neutral contexts, just to describe a fact - she is 40, 50 +.
And doesn't "Old Dragon Bell" sound less bad? Not to mention that there are "old and strong", "the sword is not old", "the old man talks about the madness of the teenager".....
Is brad Pitt '58' "tasteful" and Angelina Jolie's (46's) 'dry beauty' sure we're not biased aesthetics after we've been given a "gender distinction" filter?
The editor's brain searched it again, and Chinese there seems to be no relatively neutral or objective idiom in the context to describe a woman's ageing, corresponding to "Aging" in the English context.
For example, to translate "Aging well\Aging with grace", the only way to translate it is to use "aging gracefully". What's even more frightening is that this "aging" age benchmark is now quietly advancing.
The sense of crisis in women's age begins to spread after the age of 25 (otherwise the consensus that they should start using eye creams and strengthening maintenance after 25 years old comes from). This problem is particularly serious in China, our culture does not have much good feelings for older women, not even a decent word, and then everyone tries to advocate, pulling down the boundaries of "getting old" and equating the standard of "good state" with wrinkles.
The current mainstream aesthetic orientation is that young, full, and even "juvenile" is precious, and the peak state that makes female stars flock to them is "girly", and we rarely have the same confidence to promote women's "wrinkles" and charm.
The problem is, after the age of 30, "I just began to have a feeling of understanding and ease in life, how can I be announced to be old in the next second"? There are still decades to go after girls' generation, how to make women self-consistent? Do you quit with the mentality of "being eliminated by the mainstream"? And, where do you want to retreat?
Realizing that the seriousness of the matter is far from enough, women themselves should do something other than join the complaining camp.
63-year-old actress Andie MacDowell appeared on the red carpet of the 2021 Cannes Film Festival with a silver-gray curly hair, and under the gaze of the global media, declared that "the old woman is how to grow white hair".
She recalled that her agent had advised her not to do so because "it wasn't time yet," to which she replied, "I think you're wrong, and I'm going to be more powerful if I embrace where I am right now." (I think you're wrong, I'll be more empowered by accepting who I am now).
Yes, the next time someone makes you dye your gray hair and flatten your wrinkles, you can tell him/her, "I think you're wrong."
When it comes to the topic of age, we still want to move out a few French women to give you examples:
CHANEL Spring/Summer 2015 series runway
Caroline de Maigret, who has just turned 47, was always seen by the editors on CHANEL's runways and in fashion week street shots.
She signed for Next Model in 1998, was discovered as a model, and has walked the catwalk for Brands such as Chanel, Dior, Louis Vuitton, Balenciaga, etc., and is a very senior insider.
A few years ago, she collaborated with friends on a best-selling book called "How to be Parisian Wherever You Are," a humorous and witty presentation of the lifestyle of Parisian women, who pretend but are independent-minded; snobbish but honest.
The book "Older, but Better, but Older" published later began to explore the meaning of age for women. As you can see from the title, this is not a book that teaches everyone how to fight aging, but teaches you how to experience the benefits of "getting old" and accept aging.
In order to write this book, she began to carefully observe her own life.
She would suddenly realize that she was surrounded by people who were much younger than herself; at a party, she was no longer the focus of the man who could easily get a pleasant response, which sounded a little lost.
For example, she often receives some "praise" that makes people cry and laugh because of her age, for example, young girls at parties will say, "I hope I can be like you when I get older."
As the situation became more and more frequent, she began to learn to live in peace with her sensitive nerves: only you could be her "ally", nostalgia for youth and fear of the future, all to no avail.
When the barriers to thought are removed, it is time to act.
She changed to a new residence, a place where it was more convenient for her to do what she wanted to do.
Then, more crucially, implement the "things you want to do": direct a video for CHANEL, prepare your first short film, and even turn to a new field - food.
After a while, all the things that were slowly invested became her new "label", and they became more and more fiery and decent.
Increasing age, richer experience, and stable income should mean that a woman's ability to control her life is improving, so this is the best time to experience different dimensions of life (without worrying about the cost). Instead of living in the opposite direction, becoming closed, negative, self-denying.
If you want to use French women as an example, you still can't get around their outfits.
The person who can teach others "How to be Parisian" must also be the kind of "typical" Parisian. Chatting is always speculative (contrarian), either on a date or on the way to a date, and three sentences without leaving Sex. Caroline said in an interview that the secret essence of the new French style should be "f**kable".
Here we need to translate it! She means that it is not advisable to "give up on oneself" without trimming, whenever and wherever it is.
"Whether you're out walking your dog or just buying a praise, please have more respect for yourself, put a little energy into it, and pamper yourself." No need to take too complicated steps, it is best to do it in 5 minutes, and at this age, women should have learned to do subtraction.
You don't have to always "add weight" to yourself and be meticulous like when you were 20 years old. At 40+, it seems that "good looks" can be done, and "not deliberately" is the pursuit. Of course, the attitude is self-assured, and there must be some rules of dressing that are familiar to the heart.
Advice for French women: Be prepared for a few basic French-style pieces such as suits, denim and tulle.
Caroline was asked in an interview with the British version of VOGUE what the must-have items are in every woman's wardrobe, and she pulled out the "Smoking Jacket" without thinking, and told the audience why it was recommended: it looked good with T-shirts and jeans.
Not only is the classic smoking outfit, her street shot suit Look abounds, below, let's take a look at how Parisian women wear this piece:
Vacuum is the boldest and sexiest way to wear it
If you think that caroline's interpretation is not very easy to imagine in life, then you can refer to it
Caroline likes to wear a turtleneck knit, or denim shirt, from style to color are classic, never play mix and match, never touch the hoodie.
Charlotte Gainsbourg (Jane Birkin's daughter) is also a "typical" Parisian, and she impressed the editor with a group of street shots some time ago. The vintage dark brown padded shoulder suit is draped with a white shirt with two buttons unbuttoned, and the bottom is jeans and boots, which is rich in french flavor and also very good copy.
Here's the second piece: denim.
Denim can be said to be another "essential item" for French women in addition to suits. Charlotte Gainsbourg's previous denim outfits at the Cannes Film Festival were so stylized that other exquisite dresses Look became a passing cloud, and I only remember her as dashing and sexy.
There's also this mother-daughter co-frame Look, she's a full set of cowboys, Jane Birkin is a classic white shirt with jeans, and Converse canvas shoes.
When looking at this group of photos, there is also an emotion, the "manners" of French female stars are the most "bad" of stars in the world, and the expression management is even more "bad".
They often don't care about the angle of the most film on the red carpet, Pose is casually sloppy, and the photographer interacts as soon as he touches it, laughing, throwing kisses, waving in circles, and enjoying it. As a result, it is often captured at inexplicable angles, and the photos that are released are indispensable to the crooked mouth and the smile lines on the face.
Such people are also those who do not understand "Selfie culture". The editor went to visit their IG one by one, trying to find some private photo material, but returned empty-handed.
But don't get me wrong, they don't care about the image because of their true temperament, they just focus elsewhere.
For example – sexy. What French women know best is the Saint Laurent style of sensuality that is sharp to the soul.
Everyday to the shirt button is always two or three less buttons, upgraded to the interpretation of tulle sheer pieces, beckoning in place, male and female to eat.
Here's the third thing to say: tulle! Carine Roitfeld, the former editor-in-chief of the French version of VOGUE, loves perspective, and people who like to wear black know that it is not easy to have a sense of hierarchy. Carine's method is to borrow the power, sensuality and layering of the piece to win it all at once.
Originally, in the end, the editor wanted to find a step for those who were still afraid of the "big folds" and say something round. However, today I don't want to embarrass myself, this one is waving the flag and shouting "go to its big folds"!
Beauty doesn't have to be leather, it can be a magnetic field.
The editorial department will sometimes be intimidated by netizens, but thinking about it, providing views, creating a public opinion field, and providing discussion and speech for everyone is what the media should do, so after reading this article, you are still welcome to speak freely.
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