Once, when I was shopping in the mall, I saw someone cutting in line, so a person next to me scolded the person who cut in line, saying that this person was really unqualified. The man who cut in the line seemed to hear it, so he scolded back. So the two people scolded each other, and more and more people were watching next to them.
In this process, our first reaction is that the person who cut in the queue is not right, if the person who cuts in the queue does not cut in the queue by himself, then is there any follow-up? Basically, there is none. In fact, from the perspective of public places: neither person is right. After all, the quarrel between the two people seriously affects the order of the public place, and the public place must not be loud.
People sometimes like to quarrel, in the process of quarrelling, you can highlight your own existence, you can highlight your own value, you can let yourself get benefits and satisfaction in this process.
But let's go back and think: Are these quarrels useful for ourselves? Such an argument is nothing more than a waste of their own time and energy, and even make themselves feel unqualified. It is better to take this time to think about how to improve yourself and how to transform yourself.
When we are wronged, when we want to complain, when we complain about the world, this is actually a manifestation of immaturity, and even make ourselves feel that they have no ability to solve problems, and finally become people's worries.
People must learn to play tai chi, in the process of playing tai chi, they have been in a circle, in the process of turning the circle, they will find that their strength will become more and more powerful. Because it seems to be going in circles, it is actually cultivating its own energy field. When there is an attack from the outside, it can only wipe the edge at its own cutting point, and will not directly hit our inner world.
Then we are the same in real life, when other people's verbal attacks come over, we don't need to think about how to counterattack, but think about how to reasonably avoid, not enough impact on ourselves. It is equivalent to this kind of tricky speech whirling around, completely without affecting yourself.
This is something that needs to be cultivated, and when people are young, they are always so enthusiastic, always so reckless, and always like to quarrel with people. When you have experienced a lot of things, when you have to take on a lot of family responsibilities, you have to start thinking, you have to start to improve your personality, and you feel that many things cannot go on like this.
When we hear others scolding themselves, we can actually see the character and quality of the other party; because the other party's scolding of themselves is actually venting, that is, complaining, and the heart cannot be calm. And if you are indifferent and do not worry about the other party in general, you will find that your character is bright and your realm has improved.
People are not the same, in a different environment, for themselves, if they are affected by the surrounding environment, then their future path may be affected by these environments. A person with goals and pursuits, he is thinking about his future every day, thinking about what he likes to do, and thinking about how he should do it well.
Life is not smooth, the pace of life is not smooth, and the attitude of life depends on how you look at it. Some words do not need to be contested; some things, there is no need to participate. Everyone has everyone's life problem, in the life topic, just do your own project well, other people's topic is other people's problem.
We must be full of hope for life, because life is good, life is expected, and life is rewarding to ourselves.