Author: Jiao Xiaohui Editor: Fu Yang Produced: Marriage and Family Magazine id: hunyinyujiating99
As soon as we walk in this rolling red dust, we will all face death.
When we realize that our loved ones are dying, how do we spend the rest of their lives and say goodbye to them?
For the girl below, recording every moment with her grandfather is the best way to record every moment with her grandfather.
3 years ago, a group of grandfather and granddaughter photos went viral.
The intimate feelings of the grandchildren are naturally revealed in these freeze-frame images.
The two faces of young and old give people a strong visual impact, which shocks the hearts of many people, and everyone has said that they "cried when they saw it" and "thought of their parents and grandparents"...
The granddaughter in the photo is called Shi Mengyao, and the grandfather is called Shi Lianqi, who died in February 2017.
Shi Mengyao said: "In this world, the person I miss the most is my grandfather. I was fortunate to find a way to express my feelings and record many precious moments with my grandfather with the camera. When I miss my grandfather, the memory will take me back to my dear grandfather again and again with the images. ”
Perhaps, Grandpa never traveled far; perhaps, Grandpa never left; perhaps, Grandpa has turned into a star, illuminating his beloved granddaughter with affectionate eyes...
What kind of family story is behind these images that carry deep emotions?
01
The grandpa who grew up with me, is old
Shi Mengyao was originally a dancer in the Cultural and Labor Troupe, and often performed in the south of the sea. One day in 2010, Mengyao, who had been performing in other places for a few months, went home to see her grandfather, and she was surprised to find that his grandfather's movement was much slower and his ears were back. Meng Yao was particularly sad, she did not want to believe that her grandfather had actually aged so old.
On that day, Mengyao wanted to spend more time with his grandfather, but he had to rush back to the literary troupe. Before leaving in the afternoon, Meng Yao waved goodbye to his grandfather. When I changed my shoes at the door, I turned around and suddenly saw that my grandfather sitting on the bed had a lonely look in his eyes. Mengyao's heart suddenly hurt, and she ran back to her grandfather and said to him, "Let's take a group photo." So, Meng Yao took a picture of resting his head on his grandfather's shoulder.
After the photo was developed, Meng Yao held the photo and cried. In the image, the afternoon sunset sprinkled on Grandpa's face and body, and Grandpa's eyes looked particularly sad and reluctant. Meng Yao was shocked: Grandpa is like this afterglow, his life may be fleeting.
At the thought that if one day, she would be separated from her grandfather forever, the tears could not stop flowing. She hopes that time will stand still so that Grandpa will not continue to grow old; she even hopes that time can travel back in time so that she can cherish every minute and every second of her time with Grandpa...
When Mengyao was 4 years old, her parents divorced and she was raised by her grandparents. Before his retirement, his grandfather was the principal of a middle school in Fushun City, Liaoning Province, and he was particularly fond of Mengyao.
The mundane details that are cherished in the memory are all warm and beautiful: Grandpa will call Out of Bed every morning. In the winter morning, Mengyao was afraid of the cold lying in bed, and Grandpa never got angry, but smiled and sang the national anthem to coax her to get up; at night, Grandpa would pour a warm water bottle into Mengyao early to keep warm. Afraid of burning her, Grandpa wrapped the warm water bottle in a few layers with cotton cloth, and the temperature was always just right.
When Mengyao was a child, he didn't like to eat, and he looked very thin, so his grandfather changed his tricks to make food for her, and then coaxed her: "You eat well, and when you are full, you will grow a pair of wings and fly to many places to play." Meng Yao listened and quickly ate seriously.
After a while, MengYao asked Grandpa, "Why haven't I grown wings yet?" Grandpa continued to coax her: "If you eat well for a few more days, you will grow wings!" ”
On weekends, Grandpa would often take Mengyao to the park to play. Mengyao likes to play "Crazy Mickey Mouse", as long as Mengyao points to it and says" "I want to play", Grandpa will accompany her to sit up and play. Mengyao snuggled in grandpa's warm arms, grandpa's big hand held her small hand, she felt particularly happy, especially safe...
In 2001, Mengyao learned that the Front-line Cultural and Labor Corps of the Political Department of the Shenyang Military Region planned to enroll students at the local level. Faced with the rare opportunity of the cultural and labor troupe to recruit students only once every 8 years, Meng Yao was thrilled. She has loved dancing since she was a child, and when she hears music, she dances.
Mengyao often took Grandpa's hand and said, "Let's dance a ballet together." Grandpa happily accompanied her in circles.
In order to let Mengyao feel the beauty and abundance of life, when she first went to elementary school, her grandfather enrolled her in a dance training class. Every day after class, Grandpa sent her to learn dance.
Once, the dance class organized the children to go to Beijing to participate in a performance, and Meng Yao won the first prize for individual performance. After that, she was named one of the top ten young dancers on campus by the school and participated in the school's dance team. After that, becoming a dancer became MengYao's ideal.
Therefore, Mengyao told his grandfather about the idea of applying for the literary troupe, and his grandfather immediately took Mengyao to Shenyang to take the exam. After layers of selection, the 12-year-old Meng Yao successfully became a dancer in the literary troupe.
On the day of saying goodbye to his grandfather, Mengyao hugged him and cried. Just a year ago, Grandma passed away. Mengyao's father and aunt came to take over grandpa many times, but grandpa was very stubborn, saying that he loved quiet and insisted on living alone.
Now, she is also leaving Grandpa, how lonely he is! But Grandpa smiled and wiped away Mengyao's tears and said, "Silly child, Grandpa is happy and proud of you!" Don't worry Grandpa, Grandpa will take care of himself. ”
After going to the literary troupe, Meng Yao rarely had time to go back to visit his grandfather. The closed management of the group is very strict, and the phone call with the family is only two minutes once a week; every month, only from 1 pm to 5 pm on the last Sunday, you can meet with the family. At that time, Grandpa was still in good health. Each time, he rushed from Fushun to Shenyang in advance to see Mengyao.
Correspondence became the main way for Mengyao and his grandfather to communicate and communicate their feelings on a daily basis. Grandpa would write two letters to Mengyao every week, and the words were full of all kinds of concern and love for her; and Mengyao would always tell Grandpa unreservedly whether he encountered happy things or troubles...
However, the grandfather who once grew up with her, who once let her rely on like a mountain, gave her a sense of security and care, but he was old.
02
Keep Grandpa with the camera, keep the love
Years of performances in the north and south of the river have made Mengyao develop the habit of taking photos with a camera. With a little point-and-shoot camera, she's photographed herself, photographed her colleagues, photographed her parents, and photographed her grandfather. But at that time, I just thought it was fun to take pictures, and I never had the consciousness of taking pictures to take souvenirs.
But at that moment, Meng Yao suddenly had a strong thought: "I can't stop Grandpa from aging, but I can accompany Grandpa as much as possible from now on, record the moments I get along with Grandpa with the camera, and keep Grandpa in my heart forever." ”
As soon as Meng Yao was on vacation, he pushed away all the socializing and partying and went home to accompany his grandfather. Once, Grandpa asked Mengyao, "On which channel does 'Biography of Li Taibai' be broadcast?" I can't find it anymore. Meng Yao found that because of aging, Grandpa could not even remember the TV show. Meng Yao wrote a TV channel program list to his grandfather. Grandpa immediately took a small plastic bag to carefully wrap the program list, and then said happily: "Which channel I want to watch in the future, it will be more convenient!" ”
In the years of accompanying grandpa, Mengyao also began to shoot a special "my grandfather and me". All photos are basically done with time-lapse selfies, most of the shooting is done on a tripod, and the close-up shot is handheld. For more than 7 years, she and her grandfather took more than 200 photos together, all of which were her and her grandfather's daily routine, and as long as it could touch her instantly, she would press the shutter.
Every time the photo is developed, MengYao will show it to grandpa, and the grandchildren will look at the photos together, chat about the feelings together, and discuss how to shoot and how to do the action the next time they take a photo. Grandpa paid attention to appearance all his life, was a very neat and clean person, usually loved to wear a white shirt with a vest, he said: "Look at people's spirit like this." Sometimes, Grandpa would ask Mengyao: "Is it better for me to wear a trench coat and glasses next time I take a photo, or wear a hat for a pair of sneakers?" ”
Sometimes, Meng Yao would smear a little powder when taking pictures. Grandpa watched his granddaughter put on makeup and said excitedly, "Then you can also put a little powder on me." After taking the photo, MengYao told Grandpa: "I showed the photo to my friends, and they all praised you for being handsome!" Grandpa just smiled vigorously, happy like a child.
Whenever she saw Grandpa happy, Mengyao was full of relief in her heart, she couldn't resist time, preventing it from making Grandpa grow old day by day, she could only try to accompany Grandpa, do something for Grandpa, and make Grandpa happy.
She was glad to find a better way to accompany her grandfather, adding some sustenance and happiness to his ordinary and lonely life. She wanted to put her grandfather's love for her, her love for her grandfather, all in a photo with her grandfather. Taking a photo with his grandfather has gradually become a particularly important thing in Mengyao's life, and it has also become a habit in the lives of his grandfather and grandson.
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When I was a child, I was your child; when I grew up, you were my child
Since 2015, Grandpa's health has been particularly weak. In March of that year, he was hospitalized with tuberculosis. Previously, Mengyao's father had just had an illness and was in the recovery period, and his immunity was weak; while his aunt was taking two granddaughters, and the child's resistance was weaker, so Mengyao took the initiative to take care of his grandfather.
MengYao took a leave of absence to take care of Grandpa. Grandpa saw Mengyao enter the ward, hurriedly got out of bed and put on two layers of masks and retreated to the window. He turned his back on Meng Yao and said nervously, "You hurry up, my disease will be contagious!" There are nurses and doctors here to take care of me, and I will take care of myself. Mengyao walked over to grandpa, hugged grandpa's shoulder and smiled, "Tuberculosis is not so terrible." The doctor said that the body is good, not easy to infect, wear a mask, pay attention to it. ”
Mengyao helped Grandpa to the bed, and he carefully curled up on the bed and looked at Mengyao. Meng Yao found that Grandpa's eyes were so empty and innocent, and he who used to be tall and tall had become dry and thin, just like a child, very helpless and pitiful!
Mengyao was very sad, tears came out of her eyes, she took her grandfather tightly into her arms, caressed his grandfather's head with pity, and said: "I am your dearest little granddaughter, with me here, you don't have to be afraid!" Grandpa was like a wronged child, hiding in the crook of Mengyao's arm and crying quietly.
Every day, Mengyao chatted and walked with his grandfather, bought him good food, and took a selfie with him in his arms. During that time, Grandpa was happy every day, his mood was good, and his body recovered very quickly. After 10 days, Grandpa was discharged from the hospital. After that, Grandpa was still weak, but his spirit was very good, and whenever Mengyao said that he wanted to come back, he waited at the door of the house early.
Once, Grandpa went to wait for Mengyao, and the neighbor who passed by greeted Grandpa: "Old Stone, this day's children and granddaughters are back!" Grandpa's eyes narrowed into a slit and he replied proudly: "Yes, my granddaughter bought me a parent-child shirt and said to come back and take a picture with me!" So, there was a group photo of the grandchildren wearing the same style of white shirt and vest with jeans.
Another time, Meng Yao took his grandfather to the park for a walk. It didn't go far, and Grandpa said his feet hurt. During that time, he always said that his feet hurt. After returning home, Meng Yao checked his grandfather's feet and found that there was no big problem, that is, the person was old, and the toenails turned into the meat.
Meng Yao called a basin of hot water to let Grandpa soak his feet. After the soak, she held Grandpa's feet and trimmed his toenails. Grandpa said, "My feet stink, or don't cut them?" Meng Yao quipped, "These are all things you did for me when I was a child, and I have to give them back to you!" Grandpa just smiled, a look of happiness on his face. This scene was also frozen by Meng Yao.
The next day, Grandpa happily called Mengyao: "My feet don't hurt!" MengYao was very happy, and after that, as soon as she came home, she would help grandpa soak his feet and cut his toenails.
In July 2016, Grandpa was hospitalized with a cerebral thrombosis. After being discharged from the hospital, he was not very good at walking. Grandpa went to the bathroom to take a bath, and MengYao was always uneasy, worried that he would slip and fall. Once Grandpa was taking a bath, Meng Yao heard a noise from the bathroom, and she quickly pushed open the bathroom door to see Grandpa.
As she pushed the door in, she saw her emaciated grandfather rubbing his back hard, and the soapbox was knocked to the ground. Mengyao's heart tightened, and she quickly stepped forward and said, "I'll rub your back." Grandpa was like a child, bowing his head and obediently letting Meng Yao rub his back.
Rubbing Grandpa's skinny back, Mengyao's heart was broken, Grandpa's health was deteriorating, and she felt that Grandpa would leave her at any time. She pressed the shutter, hoping that time would stop and that she would keep her dear grandfather forever.
The more afraid of Grandpa leaving, the more Meng Yao wanted to freeze every moment of his time with Grandpa into eternity.
On the fifth day of the first month of the first month of 2017, Grandpa was hospitalized again. That day, Grandpa said that he was a little uncomfortable, and Mengyao took him to the hospital for examination. After the examination, there were no major abnormalities in all aspects of Grandpa's body, and the doctor recommended hospitalization for observation. However, on the seventh day of the first year, his condition took a sharp turn for the worse, and he was immediately sent to the intensive care unit, put on a ventilator, and could no longer speak.
On the night of the eighth day of the first year, Meng Yao went to the hospital to nurse his grandfather. That night, Grandpa had been refusing to close his eyes to sleep, he had been looking at Mengyao, tears had fallen down, and his thin left hand had moved a few times by the side of the bed.
Meng Yao clenched his left hand tightly and cried so hard that his liver and intestines broke! She knew that Grandpa was dying, and she knew that Grandpa wanted to say, "Grandpa has a lot to say to you, Grandpa doesn't trust you, he can't help you..."
The next day, Grandpa died of heart failure with reluctance and attachment.
In August 2017, MengYao, who was immersed in grief for a long time, went to the printing house to wash a photo with his grandfather. The photography teacher was so taken aback by the photos that she suggested that she participate in a photo contest.
Two months later, Meng Yao won the title of the 7th Liaoning Provincial Young Photography Top Ten Photographers and the China Contemporary Photography New Talent Award, and this group of "My Grandfather and Me" photos were able to spread wildly in the circle of friends.
These tearful photos have touched thousands of netizens, and many people say that from these photos, it is as if they have seen their deceased relatives...
There are various ways in which love is expressed.
As long as the deceased loved ones are cherished in our memories, they are still alive.
For Mengyao, Grandpa has never been far away, because she has already engraved him in her heart with the lens and inscribed it in the future.