But whenever there is a rift in the marriage, most women will choose to be patient. There are many reasons for forbearance: for the sake of face. For the sake of the children. For the sake of the family... And my girlfriend, never a woman who is full of promises, married once, married twice, married three times. A woman has experienced several emotional setbacks and blows, bravely carried through her difficult self, is still willing to believe in love, believes in the future, and still insists on the choice of the heart. Do not comment too much on her story, only bless her: walking together is fate, walking together is happiness.
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The girlfriend is married again.
This is the girlfriend's third marriage.
Moreover, this time, the husband is a warm man who is 8 years younger than his girlfriend.
To say, all the women who have run to the fifth, it takes courage to remarry once, and it takes courage to find a man who is younger than himself.
In the past, time was the enemy of women, because their economic and social status was dependent on men, and the corresponding condition of exchange was women's youth, so men looked for smaller than themselves, and women looked for bigger than themselves, which was the common norm of normal marriage. When women reach the age, they wait for the price to sell, and the older they are, the less advantageous they are. But now it is different, the times have changed, as long as I want, I like, I can break the convention, such as the sister-brother love trend, suddenly became a new trend in marriage.
My girlfriend works in a government office and I met at an event. At that time, we were still young, because of similar personalities, children of similar ages, more topics, and slowly more and more affinity. The girlfriend is sweet-looking, quite the delicacy of a southern woman. The first husband is her college classmate, the home is in the field, although not to talk about the poor family, but also the ordinary working class; and the girlfriend's parents are leading cadres of a considerable level, reading countless people, in addition to the wrong door, the parents also think that the boy in addition to handsome, the connotation is not deep, not a potential stock, do not agree with this marriage. But at the same time, the young and innocent girlfriend ignored the soft and hard treatment of her parents, and forced her to marry the boy and let her parents arrange the boy into the institution. In the first two years of marriage, the boy was full of gratitude for his girlfriend's marriage, and the little life was stable. But with the birth of her daughter and the triviality of housework, the girlfriend feels more and more that her parents' vision is right, and this man is unreliable. Work is satisfied with step-by-step, not to seek progress. The parents were not satisfied with this marriage, and after marriage, they saw that the man was doing nothing in his career and had no pursuit, and his heart became more and more uncomfortable. If the man can take good care of his girlfriend and children at home, he can live a comfortable little life, but this man has contracted a lot of vices in his stable life, drinking, playing cards, sometimes staying up all night, and finally gambling into sex... Finally, the girlfriend couldn't stand this life that was very far from her dream and divorced a man when her daughter was 10 years old.
For women who have had a history of marriage, it must be prudent to face the choice of a second marriage. After being introduced by a friend, the girlfriend met her second husband. The man has good financial conditions, has his own company, has a small career, and a ten-year-old boy lives with his ex-wife. At that time, the girlfriend was in a painful period of feelings and wanted to find a responsible man to lean on. After more than a year of getting along, the girlfriend feels that this man has a calm personality, rarely has the impetuousness and smoothness of businessmen, and is also very responsible, caring for her and her daughter. They finally got married after more than two years of knowing each other. Although the life after marriage is less and more, the man's career is developing smoothly, and the girlfriend is satisfied with this marriage. However, as the days passed, the girlfriend gradually found that he and his ex-wife still had frequent exchanges, and the economy was also vague with his ex-wife. The girlfriend said that she is not a careful woman, because of the child, she does not care about the man's care for his ex-wife, but the ambiguity of the man's attitude makes his own psychology in it very unbalanced. Because a man's ex-wife has never remarried, she actually lives on a man, and sometimes even calls home. She never objected to the responsibility of men to their ex-wives and children, but the emotions should be measured and grasped, after all, they have established another family, they must take into account her feelings, and they cannot let this ambiguous emotion bring her an insecure, unreliable, and unstable psychological state. The girlfriend from the initial questioning, arguing, to calm down to talk with him deeply, but has never changed the man's attitude, but the man has done more carefully. The girlfriend's heart is getting more and more sad, thinking that this man is actually a selfish person, the heart is not open, the heart is not pure, between them is not a problem of money or money---- they do not love each other, just want to find a partner. Loveless marriage is difficult to come to an end, let alone a halfway couple?
In this way, the girlfriend resolutely ended her second marriage.
After two failed marriages, the girlfriend said that she really no longer had hope for marriage, that her daughter had gone to college, that she had no burden, and that it was simpler and more comfortable to live alone. Love and marriage need fate and luck, and she is the one whose fate and luck are not good.
However, five years after her second marriage, her girlfriend will once again step into the halls of marriage, and this time, she chose a man who is 8 years younger than herself. The man was an ordinary worker, his lover had died of illness, and he had a daughter who was attending high school. Is it a disappointment in marriage? Or is it the no longer expected of men? Girlfriend said that in fact, in the second marriage, relatives and friends have advised her, they have all divorced once, it is rare to be confused, turn a blind eye. But the girlfriend is a person who has requirements for feelings, if it is really some trivial things in life, it is just fine, but the impurity of emotions she can't stand, even if it is the second marriage, she does not want to mix with the slightest impurity, rather than for the jade crushing than for the whole.
My girlfriend said that I was already a Ben Five person, had experienced so much, knew very well what was my own sweetness and what was my own poison; I didn't like to be manipulated by men, and I wouldn't sacrifice my personality in order to cater to men's personality. This man, who is 8 years younger than me, although ordinary and ordinary, is empathetic, tolerant and generous, and has a gentle personality; he washes and cooks, raises flowers and vegetables, is industrious and kind, and is a good man who lives at home. He also never interfered with my circle of friends and gave me full freedom. I sometimes doubt myself too, and I need a man again after two failed marriages, for me, need more than love, need him to soothe your traumatic heart, need him to soothe your tired spirit, need him to warm your earthly life three meals a day. The girlfriend suddenly realized that she finally knew what kind of man was the most suitable for herself: follow you, accommodate you, tolerate you---- people who understand you will love you in the way you like. Because of steadfastness, because of stability, because of trust, you will also become more confident and more cheerful.
The girlfriend said that there were no sisters and brothers in the marriage, only men and women.
It should be admitted that the girlfriend is a brave enough person.
Brave enough to stop your own two marriages, sometimes, the marriage that can stick to it is not necessarily a happy marriage, whether you are comfortable and happy, only you can know it. Sometimes face is more important than love; sometimes, marriage is not something that can be turned around by running it with your heart. The girlfriend has experienced two emotional tortures, loved, hurt, and failed, but is brave enough to meet the next test of love.
So, I send my best wishes to my girlfriend:
Whether you love or be loved, choosing someone who suits you to marry is a choice close to happiness. Because in his place, you can feel the warmth and steadfastness of loving each other. When one day you are in a warm afternoon, looking at him who is busy with himself, you will smile and think: Without the failures and pains of the past, where is the warmth and happiness of today? May His gentle love soothe your troubled heart.