For most people, getting pregnant and having a baby is a big deal.
For a healthy baby, it is necessary to quit bad habits in advance and supplement vitamins and folic acid. It is necessary to prepare your body completely so that you can provide a hotbed for your baby to thrive.
However, premarital sex is no longer a rare thing at present. Therefore, there are still many parents who are not prepared for anything and have children.
After the accidental gun is fired, is it to get on the bus first and then make up the ticket, or to give up this life, one and two wide?
Two years ago, in the winter, a pregnancy test stick broke Xiao Bei's peaceful life.
At that time, she was in love with her boyfriend for more than a year, and she still had half a year to graduate. This child came too badly, and her best friends advised her to beat it up.
But since learning of the pregnancy, Xiao Bei's motherhood has been stimulated. She was even determined at the time that "even if you break up with your boyfriend and become a single mother, you will keep this child." "
Fortunately, the boyfriend is still responsible, and immediately proposed to see the parents to finalize the marriage. Just after the Spring Festival, Xiao Bei, who was slightly pregnant, got married.
On the one hand, he was under the pressure of his graduation thesis, and on the other hand, he endured a strong reaction in the third trimester, which was also mixed with the unaccustomedness of being in the in-laws' house and the chicken flying dog jumping. Looking back, Xiao Bei had no idea how she had come through those six months.
The child was born in the middle of summer. For the next year, Xiao Bei did not go out to work and concentrated on taking the baby at home. Although the relationship between her and her mother-in-law is good and bad, her husband understands the suffering of her pregnancy and childbirth, and is obedient to her.
Despite the many bumps along the way, Xiao Bei has never regretted it.
Although she admitted that if she had not been pregnant, she might have broken up with her boyfriend after graduation. But now, "I have this child, and he is the best gift God has ever given me." "
For Xiao Bei, the marriage of Fengzi is the door to happiness.
Because she believes that the existence of the child trumps everything. Even if the marriage is a bit rushed, when I think of children, I feel that everything is worth it.
This "child-oriented" value guides her step-by-step decision-making.
Of course, after the girlfriend became pregnant, the boyfriend who stood up responsibly for the first time was also Xiao Bei's solid backing.
Couples who choose to get married because they are pregnant have roughly three situations:
<h1>The two have been in love for a long time and have a certain emotional basis</h1>
It's just that marriage hasn't been considered yet, or the time to get married isn't ripe enough.
At this time, the arrival of the child accelerates the pace of two people starting a family, so they choose to get married.
For example, Chen Xiao and Chen Yanxi. Although at the time of the license and the wedding, Chen Yanxi was already pregnant. But before the two have announced their relationship, they have also planned a time to get married. Such unmarried pregnancy is a double happiness for both families.
<h1>Women dominate</h1>
Thinking that he had met someone who could not be missed, he decided to tie the other party through a child and force the man to enter into marriage with himself.
This practice is quite deliberate, but if the woman can bury this original intention deep in her heart, she may not be happy after marriage.
<h1>Feudal traditional thinking: it is necessary to prove that the woman has fertility before marriage before she is willing to marry</h1>
Many remote areas with low levels of education have this tradition. In their view, marrying a daughter-in-law has no other role than passing on the generations.
What should a girl do when she finds herself pregnant before marriage?
First of all, consider your own situation, whether it is suitable for this child.
When Xiao Chen was just in college, she once stole the forbidden fruit with her first love boyfriend and caused her pregnancy. But at that time, she was just 18 years old.
Without thinking too much, Xiao Chen informed her boyfriend. The young man, who was as horrified as she was, transferred only a sum of money and never showed up again. Xiao Chen borrowed some money himself and went to the hospital for the most expensive abortion operation.
Today, Xiaochen has graduated from college for more than three years. She has her own business and has enough savings. Also out of the shadows, there is a fiancé who loves her. This unkind man knows all of Xiaochen's past, but is willing to spend the rest of his life to protect her.
Xiao Chen knew very well that at that time, because of his youth and ignorance, he had hurt that innocent life.
But under the circumstances at the time, if this child was born, her fate would be completely rewritten.
If there are really no conditions, it is not suitable to give birth to a child. Don't skimp on money, be sure to choose the miscarriage surgery that is least harmful to your body.
At the same time, take this as a warning. After that, while enjoying the fun, don't forget to take safety measures.
If you decide to have children, the next question to consider is whether and when to get married.
Girls who are pregnant before marriage should maintain a humble attitude when agreeing on marriage with each other.
Do not lower your requirements because you are pregnant, and look down on yourself; you can't use the child in your belly as a chip and make unreasonable trouble with the other party.
At the same time, it is necessary to observe whether the other half and his family have shown due sincerity and attitude towards marriage. Just because you are pregnant, you can't let the other party perfunctory.
However, if during the agreed marriage, the other party has already shown certain characteristics that are not suitable for marriage, such as alcoholism, gambling, domestic violence or cheating. Please think twice about the need for marriage.
If you choose to enter a marriage because of children, you know that you will jump, it is better to stop the loss in advance, clear the past and start over.
When it was discovered that the father of the child was not the one worth spending his life with, he decided to abandon the marriage. Women who are pregnant still have two options.
One is to beat up the children, break up with the man, and start a new life again.
In life, it is impossible to make every choice exactly right. After encountering problems, we must have the courage and determination to restart in time in order to turn the past over and start again.
But many times, women have a natural maternal love for the child in their belly because of the rise in progesterone. Unless you hate the father of the child to the bone, it is extremely difficult to make the decision to beat the fetus.
At this time, if you insist on giving birth to this child, the woman is likely to become a single mother.
If you really can't bear to do something to your child, you need to be mentally prepared to raise your child alone in the future. And where possible, seek help from parents. At the same time, we must realize that we will have more responsibilities on our shoulders and may be more difficult in the future.
Even so, it's better than spending the rest of your life with the wrong person.
In fact, in love, if two people have a firm and sincere attitude to treat feelings, talking about a love for the purpose of marriage, there is not much difference between pre-marriage or post-marriage pregnancy. The marriage of The Bong Son is even a matter of double happiness.
But if you get pregnant unexpectedly without any plan, or even get pregnant with a child because you don't know how to protect yourself before you reach the right age, and finally you can only get married in a hurry, or beat up the child, the impact on later life is huge.
Therefore, girls still try to protect themselves when they are in love.
If you are not sure that you will be able to marry this person, or you already have a clear marriage plan. While enjoying the world of two, don't forget to take precautions.
If you really have a child, you also hope to be able to calm down, pay attention to your body at the same time, and see if the man next to you really loves himself.
Stay calm, not be carried away by love, and think clearly before making a decision. In order to harvest steady happiness step by step.
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