How much influence does family have on life? Nowadays, we no longer insist on quality education, but cultivate children from morality, intellectual, physical and aesthetic work, hoping to cultivate real social pillars from correct values.
However, more than a decade ago, when society still paid attention to exam-oriented education, the quality of the family was not very high, that is, parents only pursued the correct results, thus killing the innocence of many children.
Fan Chengjin grew up in such an environment, and his genius was also subtly destroyed!
Happy childhood was abruptly interrupted
Fan Chengjin was born in an ordinary family, although the parents have no culture, but from the name of the child, you can see their expectations for the future of the child.
Fan Chengjin had an ignorant childhood, although his material life was not as good as others, but he was also carefree and innocent.
After the end of the carefree day, Xiao Fan Chengjin reached the age of going to school, and the naïve children still thought that as long as they studied well and worked hard to grow up, they could serve their parents, serve the motherland, and make everyone happy.
However, she did not know that her nightmare had also begun when she was in school. When he first stepped into the campus, Fan Chengjin was asked to take the first place in the class, and ignorant children could only obey the requirements of their parents.
She studied hard, never left behind any progress in any class, and took notes at a young age. In school, teachers praised this child for his talent, intelligence, and hard work, and was a talent and pillar of the future society.
However, Fan Chengjin's parents are still not satisfied with their children's performance, they believe that the child's life race has begun, and the child who may lose the starting line should work harder to pursue his goals.
In this case, Fan Chengjin's parents are no longer limited to the first in the class, they want more far-reaching goals.
Young children naturally have their own hobbies, and Fan Chengjin is no exception, she loves scientific theories and loves design and painting.
Under the children's wild brain holes, Fan Chengjin designed many extremely excellent shoe styles and clothing styles, and people who have seen children's paintings have praised Fan Chengjin's imagination and creativity.
However, when she joyfully showed her works to her parents, she was reprimanded by her parents, who told Fan Chengjin not to do these meaningless things, her task was to read and study, and everything that had nothing to do with learning was rejected by Fan Chengjin's parents.
And Fan Chengjin did not want to give up his hobby and secretly hid his own works, but her parents ruthlessly destroyed the girl's dreams, destroyed Fan Chengjin's works, and beat her up, and the desperate Fan Chengjin could only shrink in the corner and cry silently.
Strict requirements drive crazy girls
In addition to completely rejecting her hobbies, Fan Chengjin's parents also frantically attacked her in their daily lives, known as anti-pressure education.
Fan Chengjin's all behaviors in the home will be criticized, whether it is good or bad, sometimes the girl voluntarily cleans the home, parents will come out to criticize the child for not sweeping here, where he forgot to clean, the rhetoric is quite fierce.
They also asked Fan Chengjin to cook, but no matter what the meal was cooked, the family could always pick out a bunch of faults, and then a series of criticisms followed, which made Fan Chengjin's daily life an unbearable melting pot, burning her heart madly.
This situation lasted until high school, although the family situation was so unbearable, Fan Chengjin did not give up her studies, she studied hard, used all her strength in high school, and finally entered the university under various pressures.
However, no one in Fan Chengjin's family congratulated Fan Chengjin, and everyone felt that Fan Chengjin's efforts were justified and completely reasonable.
After graduating from high school, Fan Chengjin left his hometown and came to a different place to start his university life, fan Chengjin, who had a bad family environment, planned to work and study with his classmates, and Fan Chengjin chose to go to the store to do a salesman.
Fan Chengjin, who left the family shelter, suddenly found that she did not know anything about social networking, and once when a customer came to the door to ask for the details of the goods, Fan Chengjin's brain seemed to be stuck, and she could not say a word.
After her colleagues helped to break the siege, she only felt that her hands and feet were cold, her spirit was hovering on the verge of collapse, and she felt that her life was dim.
Later, Fan Chengjin found that her symptoms were getting worse and worse, and she could not communicate with people normally.
College is different from high school, in college, in addition to learning, socializing is the most important activity, but Fan Chengjin always isolates himself from people, is afraid to communicate with people, and does not do anything except study.
Family conflicts finally broke out
After surviving college, Fan Chengjin believed that contact with society could improve her mentality and symptoms, and with her own efforts, she found a job in futures sales.
Fan Chengjin originally thought that the sales work could allow him to contact more people, and more communication could change his personality, but what Fan Chengjin did not expect was that his symptoms were not alleviated, but more serious, and almost destroyed the company's big order.
The helpless Fan Chengjin can only resign and go home, and the family does not understand Fan Chengjin's behavior, accusing her of not communicating with people every day. In this regard, Fan Chengjin was also very angry, and directly nestled at home to eat the old man, and did not go out at all.
What Fan Chengjin's parents did not expect was that after ten years of such a stay, thirty-three-year-old Fan Chengjin was still nibbling at home, and his parents were nearly seventy years old.
There was nothing they could do about their daughter, and in their impression, the daughter did not think of making progress, did not struggle, and broke the hearts of the two old men. In Fan Chengjin's heart, his own situation is caused by the deformed treatment of his parents in childhood, and now he has no social ability, which is the responsibility of his parents.
The family conflict broke out completely after the arrival of CCTV, and under the reporter's interview, the family who had not talked well for a long time was finally willing to sit down and have a good talk.
However, this conversation did not bring any turnaround for the family, and a good spiritual exchange eventually turned into an outburst of quarrels.
Today, although it has been many years since this incident, its influence in society is still very large.
A person's childhood determines his future, a person's family determines his character, so criticizing education to cultivate his children, will only make children lose more and more confidence in themselves, lose the ability to survive in society, and eventually fall into the abyss of disaster.