Do you always encounter a lot of unsolvable problems in your life?
In fact, many problems can be resolved very easily.
It's just that you don't know much about a lot of ways of thinking.
As a result, you lose the job you want and miss out on another partner you love.
This approach is "empathy.".
Maybe you've heard empathy in a lot of bloggers and big V,
But they're talking roughly about the benefits of empathy, but how do you do it?
If you can't really do it in your actual life,
There are many benefits to empathy that you can't really appreciate.
Growing Companion Books shares 3 steps to help fans and friends truly grasp the power of empathy.
1. Learn to accept different things.
If you can't accept different things,
Then what you think of empathy is false.
Limited by our own life experiences and ways of thinking,
Even if you try to stand in someone else's shoes because you know very little about the other person,
Nor can it really empathize.
For example, when you're chatting with your partner.
Do you often wonder why your girlfriend is always making unreasonable trouble?
Even if you apologize any more,
Next time you'll repeat this, and over time, you won't know why?
This is because you haven't really gotten into your girlfriend's life experience.
If you want to really empathize, you need to understand all the information of the other party.
From now on, learn more about the values, ways of thinking, and life experiences of the people close to you.
If you are more attentive, you can record it in your mobile phone.
This is the crucial first step in empathy.
2, will listen to more than can speak.
I believe that many people will encounter a problem in their work.
That's how you can really convince customers to buy a product or service.
Talk to the customer for half a day, all the products are good here, where good.
You speak very vigorously, but the customer has no interest in your half-day explanation.
Why is this happening?
That's because you're not really thinking about the product from the customer's point of view.
You are giving the customer what you think is good and forcing it.
The real empathy is to see what the other person's needs are? What's the focus? Why are you so concerned?
At the same time, you must also stand in the background of the other party to think.
This highlights the importance of listening,
What are the background conditions for a typical customer?
You can only think from the perspective, point of view and identity of the other party,
In order to truly read the customer's heart.
So that's why it's important to listen to what you're saying.
But just listening can not achieve true empathy,
You also need to have empathy, because that's the essence of empathy.
3. Why do husband and wife argue continuously?
That's because you can never really be the other person.
So when two people are together,
Even if you keep thinking from the other person's point of view,
There will also be many contradictions.
Can this contradiction never be resolved?
In fact, you have a secret weapon: empathy.
The so-called empathy is when the other party is happy and afraid.
You have to know what the other person is concerned about,
Feel your partner's emotional feelings, way of thinking, and state of life.
Sadly, however, most people do so in the name of doing good for others.
But in fact, it does not really enter the other person's heart.
summary
Empathy is actually not really mastered by most people,
And what we need to do is,
Keep your brain open and embrace different values and ways of thinking.
At the same time, be good at listening and talk less.
Most importantly, immerse yourself in each other's situations and perceive each other's emotions and emotions.
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