Wen 丨 West Wing has feelings
Time is not long, may you be in my words, see you not too late!
The most important thing in pursuing a woman is not to stimulate and be vigorous, but to master the way of getting along with her, so as to truly enter her heart.
In real life, the vast majority of men subconsciously believe that getting along with women is one of the three major problems in the world, and even some men want to give up before they start.
But in fact, the reason why you have repeatedly lost battles is not because the woman is too demanding or eccentric, but simply you have not found a way to get along with her.
Some readers have asked me questions, he does not understand why women are always duplicitous, nor do they understand why women are always angry, in his opinion, women's minds are too difficult to guess.
In fact, women are far less complicated than men think, and her mouth is nothing more than trying to get your attention, test or test your sincerity; her anger is just to express dissatisfaction to you, hoping that you will be more attentive to her.
In the world of love, a man who can make a woman happy and sincere, he does not have to have a good appearance, but he must have a full inside.
Therefore, you have to remember that in the relationship between the sexes, the skill of getting along with women is not to rush forward with your head covered, but to learn to combine fast and slow.
First, the mouth is expressed quickly, and the action is slow to prove
Ms. Yang is a consultant at a marriage counseling center, and her view of feelings is that men must know how to conform to women, and do not contradict when they should go along with their hair.
Ms. Yang and her husband have been married for five years, but there has never been much contradiction between them.
Because, every time she made a request, her husband would quickly agree to it, instead of pushing and blocking. Then, in the process of getting along with the two, he will take it step by step to fulfill his promise.
In fact, what women want is not your lightning-fast action, but your real change.
Many men are always unwilling to give promises when faced with women's requests or pampering, even if they agree, they are also under the soft and hard bubbles of women.
You must understand that at this moment, they have long since lost their initial expectations.
Therefore, the promise in the mouth must be fast, and when it comes to the point, let the woman perceive that everything has a response.
And you don't have to act so quickly, because too quickly it will make women feel that you are not serious enough, that you are perfunctory.
You have to understand that with women, if you choose to slowly fulfill your commitments in the later relationship, women will be more moved.
In her mind, you will see that you are really working hard for the relationship and really want to change for her.
In short, as long as you know how to commit quickly and achieve it step by step, women naturally cannot resist your charm.
Second, when you tell about love, you should be fast, but when you cultivate feelings, you should be slow
Most men are too anxious when they get along with women, you think the time is ripe, but women will feel that you have other plans and dare not give themselves to you.
The most correct step to capture a woman's heart is to first quickly and enthusiastically let her feel your love, and then slowly occupy her atrium.
For example, when pursuing her, if the time is ripe and you have reached the peak of ambiguity, then you must express your love quickly.
Don't hesitate at this time, once you start to hesitate, your love may slip away.
If the woman agrees to your pursuit, then when developing feelings, you have to slow down and don't think about one step.
Many men just associate with women, they can't help but want to put their hands up and down, always want to have a little physical contact, in fact, most women are very resistant.
Because, at this time, you are in a state of cultivating feelings, too much urgency will make women feel disrespectful and greasy.
Therefore, in the action must be slow, step by step, first let the woman open her heart to you, the next behavior will be natural, the woman will be more accepting.
Third, admit mistakes quickly, coax her to be slow
There is a problem among most couples, that men are so macho that women gradually become discouraged.
For example, one day you suddenly quarrel, women start to count your mistakes, and many men's first reaction is to argue and excuse their mistakes first, instead of apologizing first.
When a man with high emotional intelligence faces the accusations of women, he will first admit his mistakes, take the initiative to bow his head and confess his mistakes, and then apologize softly.
Men must understand a truth: if you want to have a future with this woman, then it is not a shameful thing to bow your head in front of her.
But remember, don't be too quick when coaxing her, it will make women think that you are not careful enough.
Remember, when coaxing her, you can take it slow, first use words to please her, and then buy a small gift or two to make her happy. Under your double offensive, women generally can't resist and want to completely give your heart to you.
epilogue:
Hopefully, you'll understand that women aren't hard creatures to get along with, they just want someone who can be true to themselves.
Therefore, when getting along with her, you can try to adopt the "combination of fast and slow" method, so that women can quickly see your true heart, and then slowly, let her completely inseparable from you in the future relationship.
Why? Because this way of speeding and slowing will make women's hearts stir up and want to be closer to you.
In fact, the two sexes get along, and it is not as complicated as we think. Just as every signature pen will have its own cap, and so will men and women, there will always be a way to get along that suits you.