Fluttering

"Once sorted out, it will not become chaotic", according to the standard of the heart to choose items, in accordance with the order of first throwing things, then storage, according to the category of items, one-time, short-term, perfect sorting, so that people can find life determination through sorting, find the initial dream, find the heart of the happy life.

1. The work done on the collation can be divided into two main categories. One is to determine the abandonment of the items in the room, and the other is to set the location of the items in the room. If you can do these two things well, then no matter who can do it, you can improve it.

2. The disadvantage of the storage method is that it misleads people into thinking that the problem of tidying up has been solved after it is stored.

3. The most important thing is not the memory of the past, but the experience of experiencing the past, and living in the present day of ourselves. Through the examination and sincere face of each souvenir, the collation makes us understand the above truth.

4. If you always let your family see them discarding items, it will make them feel guilty of "this is a pity", so that they will take away some of the discarded items, resulting in an increase in the number of items they own, which I think is the real evil.

With the increasing abundance of economic and material conditions, the goods we have show a state of redundancy, but too many items are not a good thing. According to statistics, 70% of our life is wasted on finding things, so how to manage and organize your resources and items is particularly important in today's society.

But many of us have not systematically studied the course of tidying up, and some even think that tidying is not a course that needs to be learned, it is the common sense that practice makes perfect in daily life, and they simply regard family tidying as a storage work, and this awareness cannot change their life status quo and troubles.

Tidying up is not a simple storage, a short period of tidying up can change the old appearance, never return to the original state. It is through the dialogue between us and objects that we learn to leave behind those things that are stirring, so that we can also find a truly comfortable state of life.

First, why do the traditional sorting methods have little effect, and the places that are sorted out today will become chaotic in a few days; the more they collect, the more they feel that there are more things?

When it comes to tidying up, many people will think that it is not like cooking class, yoga class need to learn, it is a simple practice to make skill, that is to say, as each of us gradually grows older, we will naturally know how to organize and organize. Because of each person's personality and way of doing things, some people may be born attentive and tidy, and they can really organize the items in the house and make everything look pleasing to the eye when in control.

And most of us are not so lucky to have this talent, our tidying up is not exquisite, we believe that tidying up needs to be carried out every day like any habit that needs to be formed, and firmly believe that by making a little effort every day, we can make the house clean and tidy, and reach the ideal level of the heart. This kind of thinking does not seem to be a problem at first, but it will make us have little effect on tidying up this matter, just clean up the room for a few days and then mess up in a few days; after the items are neatly arranged, in a few days we will fall into a vicious circle of finding things; even after tidying up the corners, we can't see the freshness after the tidying, and the space is occupied by more items.

The reason for this result is that it is difficult for us to change people's habits without changing consciousness. When "tidy up a little bit every day, our home can become an ideal state" this consciousness exists in our brain, it is difficult for us to see the results of the room becoming clean in a short period of time, over time our motivation will become less, so that the finishing work will never be done well, and when we try to sort out all the items in one breath at a time, we can see our finishing results in just a few hours, our confidence will be greatly enhanced, and as long as the next set the location of the items in the room, Then our finishing work will never bounce back.

In addition, we can divide the finishing into two aspects, one is the "daily tidying", the daily finishing refers to "putting the used items back in place", for example, you come home from work every day, you should put the coat back on the hanger, take out the items in the handbag one by one and put them in the position you set in advance, so that each item is like you, back home can also find a comfortable state, the other is that we also find a home for each item, the room will become clean and clean at the same time, You can also waste time every time you need something.

The second type of finishing is "festival sorting", the tidying up of the festival refers to "stipulating a certain day as the tidying day, and then thoroughly sorting out the items of this kind", the daily tidying only needs us to return the items step by step, and the really important thing is that we should arrange the tidying up of the festival as soon as possible. Many people have never had the awareness of holiday tidying up, so even if they seem to be busy "tidying up" every day, they still live in a messy home like a warehouse for ten years, but they are powerless to change this situation. That is to say, if we do not complete the "tidying up of the festival" as soon as possible, we absolutely cannot do a good job of "daily tidying up".

When sorting out, we should replace the awareness of "tidying up a little bit every day" with "finishing in one breath" in order to achieve the ideal effect of tidying up.

Second, tidying up is not simply to store or discard unwanted items, but to understand your own heart through dialogue with items, and find those items that make you feel excited and worth staying around.

In the daily process of tidying up, how do we find those items that are worth staying around us by talking to the items?

In our traditional concept of finishing, tidying is summarizing and cleaning work. In each tidying up, maybe we will turn the messy clothes in the closet back out and fold them and put them back, we will also rearrange the books in the mess of the bookcase and desk, and we will carefully wipe the floor and glass, but these are not a thorough and clean tidying work. Because what we do is still "daily tidying", there is no change in the old concept, and the method of tidying up is improper, so these sorting are easy to rebound, and it is easy for us to breed burnout because of no achievement in tidying up.

And the real thorough and clean tidying work only needs two, one is "discarded items", the other is "set the storage place", the correct order is always to adhere to the principle of discarding the operation first, and must be carried out according to different items, before the "discarding" operation is completed, that is, only those items that make you feel excited, you must not consider doing the "storage" operation.

Knowing the two most important things in the tidying up work, we also need to ask ourselves a question, that is, what is the ideal life we look forward to before losing things? This question can help us discard items that don't belong to us in the first place, and only keep the ones that make us happy. For example, the living environment you want is that when you return home, you will be greeted by a simple and clean "girl's life" environment: you want the sheets and floors to be as neat and dust-free as a hotel, and you can drink flower tea after bathing, light an oil lamp, and sleep peacefully.

After this question, we can also ask ourselves more deeply, "Why do you want to live like that?" "Why do you want to sleep in a tidy room, drinking flower tea, serenade in peace", ask yourself a few more questions, we can understand that everything we do is to make ourselves able to live in a more comfortable environment, to have more happiness." 」 Discarding "objects" is also a means of leading us to happiness, and we should be grateful for those things that have accompanied us but have never belonged to us, and may also allow them to find a more suitable place for them when we "let go".

But the original intention of tidying up is not to choose "what to lose", but to choose items that are worth staying and make us feel excited. So how should we make our choices? When judging whether an item should be left behind or discarded, of course, it should also be based on the criterion of "whether having it can bring us a feeling of happiness and happiness". For example, many friends who like to read will complain that there are too many places occupied by books at home, but they never examine the relationship between themselves and books, they really like and read very few books, most of the books are bought back are shelved or even forgotten, similarly, we usually buy items because of a momentary impulse or other reasons, if we usually do not think about it and rarely use it, then they have lost value around us.

And those things that we should throw away, can we kindly give them to the family around us? There are generally two cases here, if it is something more practical or really suitable for the family, or maybe it is something that he is willing to buy even if he spends money, then we can give these items away. But most of the time, the items that should have been discarded won't fit our families, and the reason for leaving them behind is because we think it's too wasteful to throw them away, and the idea that "we'll use it one day" will be difficult to realize.

Tidying up is not a simple task of storage and cleaning, it requires us to leave those things that make us feel excited for the sake of happiness.

Third, should the finishing be divided by place to start the collation, or should it be expanded according to the category of items?

When organizing, we should sort by category of items, not by place.

Many people in the finishing work, but also prone to a misunderstanding, that is, they are accustomed to the place and location to sort out, today to tidy up the bedroom, tomorrow to tidy up the living room, bathroom kitchen in a few days to tidy up, such a method of sorting, can not be the same kind of items are concentrated in the classification, one is to tidy up a circle down, you will find that similar items are still scattered in all corners of the room, is not conducive to finding them when you need, the second is not to put the same kind of items together, you will be more difficult to choose which items to leave, Which items are not suitable should be discarded. Therefore, sorting according to the category of items is the correct way to sort out, and we can carry out the sorting work in the following order, first of all, clothes, followed by books, documents, small items, and finally commemorative categories.

When sorting out clothes, we should find out all the clothes stored in the storage place in the home, including closets, bedroom wardrobes, storage boxes under the bed, whether it is seasonal or non-seasonal, find out all of them and stack them together, of course, except for the clothes being washed in the washing machine. When screening clothes that make your heart move, it is best to start from the clothes that are not in the season, if you start from the clothes of the season, then it is likely to find that although a piece of clothing does not have a heartbeat, but yesterday I still wore it, which will affect our judgment. When choosing the clothes that are touching your heart, you can take them one by one and touch them in your hands, feel the feeling of happiness and happiness when you wear this dress, and then make a judgment.

And even those clothes that are ready to be thrown away, we can't turn them into house clothes because we feel pity, although home clothes don't need to be worn for others to appreciate, but when we are at home alone, we need to face ourselves alone. Do we want to see a self at home wearing comfortable and beautiful lounge clothes, or a sloppy self?

After selecting those heartwarming clothes, we also need to learn how to arrange and fold and arrange clothes, the folding of clothes should be like the placement and arrangement of books, and it should be kept in an "upright" state, so that when we need a certain piece of clothing, we can quickly find it like the spine of a book without messing with other clothes. Most of the clothes can be folded and placed in the wardrobe, such as sweaters, underwear, socks, etc., which can greatly reduce the capacity of clothes, and the clothes that need to be hung can be arranged according to color and texture, such as color from dark to light, texture from fabric, cotton to chiffon, etc.

When sorting out clothes, we often encounter another problem, that is, in the spring and autumn of each year, we have to take great pains to take out all the seasonal clothes that were packed and stored last year and hang them in the closet, those clothes that have not been taken out for more than half a year, at this time it is likely that there is no longer the vitality and anger of the past, in fact, we can no longer use the way of changing seasons to collect clothes, but according to summer clothes, winter clothes, spring and autumn clothes or suitable for work, suitable for vacation to sort out clothes.

After sorting out the clothes, we can then organize other items according to the two principles mentioned above: books, documents, small items, souvenirs, etc. Why leave the souvenir at the end? Because souvenirs are the hardest things for people to choose, such as letters from friends, or precious gifts from exs, as well as photos and some holiday cards. If these souvenirs can still arouse our heartbeat, of course, to keep them well, and when encountering items that are difficult to choose, we should advise ourselves that we are living in the "present", rather than relying on the glory and sweetness of the "past" to support our entire life, everything we do is to make our present self happy and full, the use of space should not be for the past self, but for the future self, think carefully, and then make trade-offs for the item.

Fourth, why is it that through tidying up, we can find what is really important in life and find a happy lifestyle?

Why tidying up can help us make dramatic changes in our lives and thus find a happy lifestyle.

In today's materialistic society, whether spiritual or material, our desires are constantly expanding, in order to meet the various needs of our hearts, in order to adapt to the fierce competition in society, we have been doing all kinds of additions: seeing all kinds of paid skills training courses, we want to sign up for them all; seeing all kinds of bright clothes displayed in the window, we always can't help but buy home; even in the matter of educating children, we are also scrambling to give them various tutoring training, talent courses. We think that the more resources, the faster the vision and speed is the condition for success and success, but we never seriously examine our own hearts, what do we really need, what is the best for us?

Tidying up seems like a simple little thing. But everyone can find a more authentic version of themselves from a short-term system sorting process to find something that really suits them. The discarded items in the tidying process are actually a manifestation of helping us to judge things according to our own values, and we can cultivate and exercise our decision-making ability by discarding items. In the process of tidying up, we only need to keep those that are really worth having, so that we only have "exciting items".

In fact, all aspects of our lives should also be like sorting out items, do more subtraction, do less addition, and find a way of life that can really make us happy and happy. For example, maybe we're going through a job that makes you unhappy and worthless; a laborious, unpleasant relationship between the sexes; or maybe we want to get out of the original family that we want to get rid of and be independent of, these are all important things that we should think about rationally and make decisions.

What we should understand is that by learning how to organize and organize, our purpose is to make ourselves live a comfortable and happy life, and those objects or lifestyles that we discard are obstacles to our own growth. And when we can bravely take that step and have the courage to make various choices, the real life will begin, and a happier life will beckon to us.

By sorting out this little thing, you can know yourself more truly and find the way to happiness.

To summarize the main points, the really thorough and clean tidying method is not like the traditional tidying method. We must recognize the misunderstandings of "tidying up a little bit every day" and "not having to pursue perfection", and the purpose of tidying up should be "if you do a tidying up, you will never return to the original state of the method".

The principle of collation is to find and retain those items that can make us "excited", in the process of screening, the interpretation of the word "moving" of the heartbeat finishing method is through the heartbeat, flow, and touch, so as to learn to choose, locate, discard, and those items that are about to be discarded by us, we should not give it to family and friends because we feel sorry.

The correct sorting is not by the place of sorting, but according to the type of items to sort, and the order of sorting out all kinds of items should be, clothes, books, documents, small items, souvenirs, etc. The reason why the souvenir is left to the end is because the souvenir retains a lot of the owner's past memories and sweetness, and is the most difficult item to choose.

By learning to organize items, we can also apply the essence of it to all aspects of life, do more subtraction in life, do less addition, only keep the items that make us feel excited, only choose the environment, people and things that match ourselves, and let ourselves live a heartwarming life!