Whoever you know, you will become

People often say that "things are clustered in groups, people are divided into groups", and if you want to understand a person, you must observe his friends, because what kind of people his friends are, then what kind of people he may be.

Dalena is a girl from the United Kingdom who traveled to Omaha, the United States, and found a job there. Darrena, who had just arrived in the United States, did not know anyone, so she rarely participated in social activities and spent most of her time alone at home. Later, she became acquainted with her colleagues, slowly became friends, and interacted with people more. On weekends when she's fine, she gets together with her friends and casually talks about life and work. Gradually, Darlena also gained a preliminary understanding of local customs and business environment.

Darlena's original idea was to open a clothing store, so she made some friends in this regard. One of them was a man named Nasha, who had a good relationship with her. With Nasha's help, Darrena first went to a clothing company to do design, ready to become more familiar with the business.

Nasha and Ren co-opened a bakery, which was small but booming. After a long time, she couldn't get a little busy, so she wanted Darlena to come and help. At this time, Dalena did not have enough funds to open a clothing store, so she wanted to do this for a while, which not only helped her friends but also exercised herself, so she gladly agreed. After Darlena joined, she used some of the marketing methods she had learned in england, and it was very effective, and the business of the bakery was getting better and better.

Finally, one day, Darlena decided to give up the idea of opening a clothing store and concentrate on making a cake shop. She told Nasha what she thought, and Nasha was very happy, so the two of them teamed up to buy all the shares of the cake shop and renamed it "Sweetheart Darlena". After several years of hard work, their bakeries opened throughout Nebraska. Darlena also went from being an employee of a clothing store to the owner of a successful bakery.

As the saying goes, "To see what a person looks like, you should first go and see what his friends are like." In the entertainment industry, there is a similar saying: whether you are successful or not does not depend on how talented you are, but more on who you know. This statement is a fallacy to test with traditional values, because we have always been educated that "internal factors are the root of everything", how can we be changed because we know such "external factors" as someone? But when we consider this statement in the context of society, we will find that it makes sense. People often say, "Your income is the average of the income of ten friends around you," which is actually the truth. Because if your friends are high-income people, then your financial path will naturally not be bad.

There is a widely circulated inspirational movie "When Happiness Knocks", which is the representative work of the famous black film star Will Smith. The protagonist of the film, Chris, was originally just an ordinary medical device salesman, living a poor and difficult life every day. The failure of his career caused his family to suffer a fate of fragmentation, and he finally had to go his own way with his wife and take his son to wander the city.

After encountering a life crisis, Chris began to think about his own life. He thought he wasn't getting a great opportunity to grow because of the work environment he was in, so he decided to change himself. In order to become an employee of a well-known stock investment company, Chris experienced unimaginable difficulties for ordinary people — when he was an intern at the company, he had to spend the night in the shelter because he had no salary.

Why can Chris put up with this? It is precisely because he understands a truth: if you want to become a successful stockbroker and a well-fed high-society figure, you must first be with such a person.

In order to reach successful people in the industry, Chris had to use his own tight income to support his communication. He went to see horse racing with the rich man, dealt with the rich man's friends, etc. But when it was time to leave work, he had to take his son to the toilet on the subway for the night.

There is a very touching plot in the film: No matter how difficult Chris's life is, he will protect his only suit, because he has to wear this suit to deal with well-dressed high society people, win the favor of others, and become their friends. When he met and gained the trust of big people and rich people, his career slowly opened up.

At the end of the film, Chris stands out from the fierce competition and wins the last place to become a regular employee of the company. Later, he became an excellent stock investor with his own efforts, owned his own company, and gradually went to success.

If Chris had just focused on selling his medical devices instead of dealing with successful people, even if he tried harder, he probably wouldn't have achieved so much.

The fact that your environment can have such a huge impact on you is probably a problem that many people have not thought about. But when we think about it carefully, we will find that when you spend a long time with a person, you will affect each other mentally and mentally. Maybe it's funding, maybe it's experience, maybe it's advice, and you can get what you need the most the fastest out of it, and it's safe and secure. When the business reaches this stage, you will find that the fuse of career success has been ignited.

Many people have ambitions to do something big, but in many cases, we do not put it into practice, partly because of personality, and partly because of the environment in which we live. Imagine if your friends were successful people, would they be an incentive for you? Can their communication resources be a part of you? Wouldn't your success be easier? The answer is beyond doubt. Conversely, if your friends are accomplishing nothing and have no ambitions, will your ambitions be affected? The answer is yes.

Mr. Yu Minhong, the founder of New Oriental, once said such a sentence: "You want to know how much you are worth, look at your friends around you!" Pick 5 people from them and the average of their values is yours! ”

The meaning of the words is very clear, so people who are interested in success must try to integrate themselves into the successful environment and make excellent friends as much as possible.

Xu Fei, general manager of Punico Investment Consulting Co., Ltd., went from being penniless when he first came to Beijing to becoming famous now, in just a few years. It's because he's good at making friends. In his own words, in fact, he has done two things in the past few years: first, he made a friend named Dong Gongwen; second, he made another friend named Xu Jian.

Dong Gongwen is the vice president of China at Citigroup's investment bank, and Xu Fei was an obscure college student when he first came to Beijing, and the two became friends only because of a chance that Xu Fei had rented Dong Gongwen's house, and Dong Gongwen's wife was Xu Fei's hometown.

After several contacts, Xu Fei and Dong Gongwen became friends. Dong Gongwen admired Xu Fei's persistence and thought he was a person who could do things. Therefore, as soon as he had the opportunity, he introduced Xu Fei to his friends in the circle and accumulated rich industry resources for him.

Later, Xu Fei began to start his own business, and Dong Gongwen raised funds for him. It can be said that without Dong Gongwen, Xu Fei would not have been able to succeed in entrepreneurship.

On the other hand, Dong Gongwen is also Xu Fei's mentor in his work — he often reminds Xu Fei what should be done and what should not be done, and these suggestions have benefited Xu Fei a lot.

Xu Jian was the second friend Xu Fei made in Beijing. At that time, Xu Jian was the secretary general of the MBA (Master of Business Administration) association of a famous university. Xu Fei had asked him some questions in person, and the two of them became acquainted with each other. Due to their shared hobbies and similar personalities, the two soon became iron brothers. Xu Jian is an expert in banking and knows many people in the banking system, which has built another bridge for his industry resources. In this way, with the help of these two friends, Xu Fei went to success step by step.

Life is like this, friends' diligence and laziness, positive and negative, smart and stupid, tolerance and jealousy may affect you, and key interpersonal resources will have a profound impact on you, because successful friends always have a large number of high-quality industry resources.

This article is from the Parchment Roll