Let's be honest first, as long as a person is willing to be cruel to himself, and can also use the fierceness in the positive aspect, then sooner or later this person will have to rise up.
Positive cruelty to oneself is a rather terrifying force, let's say a very realistic example, before a friend was abandoned by her boyfriend, the reason is that people think she is not good-looking, smelly personality, and has no feelings.
Of course, she was sad, but after the sadness she was different, she insisted on exercising, every day did not fall, now more than two years, look at her current figure dress, this time chasing her a lot of people ...
Exercise and fitness, count it as a simple thing, at least don't bother your brain, but how many people can stick to it? Most people stick to it for three or five days and then stop cooking.
This behavior is, of course, not cruel to oneself, but indulging one's own laziness and corroding one's own potential.
So if you want to be strong, it is necessary to be cruel to yourself, and today we will take a constellation as an example to talk about this concept.
On the other hand, it is very undesirable to be cruel to others, because this will definitely trigger cause and effect.
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Capricorn people have many labels, positive labels generally appear in life, work and work, reverse labels generally appear in emotional relationships, this contrast of opposing nature is extremely obvious to the characteristics of Capricorn itself.
Let's start with the most important, and hardcore, point, which is that Capricorn doesn't need anyone to understand him.
Normal people mostly have to be confused when they hear this kind of words, how can there be anyone who does not need to be understood? In addition, this point can also lead to another detail point: "Capricorn is good, Capricorn is not accepted." ”
In fact, from these two points, you can already think of something, only people with strong self-awareness will have the above kind of thinking and performance, Capricorn's self-awareness is very strong.
There are two development directions for self-awareness, one is to focus on protecting yourself, the other is to focus on achieving yourself, and the others are not important.
This logic is very, very important for understanding Capricorn, and now let's dissect it carefully.
Many friends always say to me, "Why does my Capricorn object have no emotions, is it because the relationship is not important, so he will not have emotions?" ”
This question is actually very simple, as long as you understand the above logic, the answer is that once someone or a relationship makes Capricorn have emotions, let Capricorn start to think wildly because of emotions.
So that If Capricorn feels troubled, feels that his life state and rhythm are affected, then Capricorn will think that this is a bad signal.
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Once Capricorns are aware of this, the instinct to protect themselves is activated, and after activation they will find a way to deal with these bad signals.
This series of thoughts and behaviors may not be able to understand, but in fact, this problem is very easy to understand, the essence is that those bad signals make them feel uneasy, so that Capricorn is insecure.
Capricorn's sense of security is to live and work according to his own way, ideas, habits, which is the basis of security, and anyone and anything that interferes with him will be dealt with.
Capricorn's emotional logic and emotional expression are really very different from normal people, for example, Capricorn Jaylen has a lyric "I never loved you, how can I miss you?" ”
Can you understand exactly what this lyric means? Capricorn's emotional expression is similar to this.
In the same way, in an emotional relationship, if Capricorn always has emotions with you (except for those emotions that come with the stinky temper), then there are generally two signals that you need to understand in advance.
One is that he likes you very much, he wants to be spoiled, but he can't do it for the sake of face, and the other is that he is already thinking about when to leave.
Capricorn will think a lot before getting along with people, including what will happen in the future, and what kind of results, he will think, if the results can be changed in the relationship, still within his control, then the relationship will continue.
If it is not within your control, the relationship will sooner or later be disposed of by Capricorn.
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This logic will also give us the answer to another question, why is it good for Capricorn but not acceptable for Capricorn?
The reason is that Capricorns are skeptical of the external goodness until they have the mental work of actively showing favor or accepting it.
At the same time, this kind of goodness can also put a lot of pressure on Capricorns, because they really don't know how to deal with it.
The reason why I don't know is because I have never thought about it, and what I have never thought about is not within my control.
Not within their control, this is the core point of insecurity, so Capricorn will have pressure and will escape.
There is no way to do it, Capricorn thinks too much, one point can think of five or six points, or even seven or eight points, and then the more he thinks about it, the more tired he is, until he finds that this matter has affected his normal state again, then it will be dealt with.
Having said all this, you should also have an understanding of the core points of Capricorn, and the few examples we mentioned above actually reflect only one thing: "Capricorn is controlling itself all the time and is trying to maintain its normal state." ”
So you think, capricorn needs people to understand? Most Capricorns don't explain, and when they don't express it, they actually have such a thought of "you should understand", but in the eyes of others, "you don't say anything, who can know what you are thinking?" ”
It's very contradictory, Capricorn is like this, so I'll be blunt about this, and by the way, I will also give friends who like Capricorn an early wake-up call.
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In Capricorn's heart, deep inside, there is a core idea that will never change: "Your life, future and planning are the most important, and no one can compare or compare." ”
People and things that interfere with him doing these things will be dealt with, and the meaning is obvious, that is, for themselves.
So if you're with Capricorn and you can go down the same path, the relationship can go on.
If you are not on the same path, you should first think of a way out for yourself, because you will not overlap with the path of Capricorn.
In fact, in the process of getting along, Capricorn will also observe, accustomed to observation and analysis, Capricorn is especially good at or is used to observe and analyze the defects and shortcomings of the people around them, what logic is this?
In fact, it is also very simple, self-preservation logic, they are like this to themselves, to others, because defects and shortcomings will hinder people's development, so they are always used to staring at these things.
But they stare at these things not to pursue perfection, or to pursue any extremes, but to prevent falling, to move forward better.
Capricorns are really themselves, and I've seen a dozen Capricorns who are particularly themselves, including the one we said at the beginning.
For their own future and future, for their own planning and normal life, they have to think a lot all the time and are trying to maintain their normal state.
Anyone who interferes with him will be dealt with, and this hatred is indeed a rather terrifying force for Capricorn.
Their cruelty is not the same as what you understand, this kind of cruelty does not care for hatred and hatred, only related to the real actual life and the future.
This logic will make them a little conservative, and this conservatism will block the factors that affect them.
For Capricorn, actual life is the most important, stable and steady, everything is more important in the plan, and the rest must be ranked last, even if it is feelings.
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