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Life, like a cup of tea, will be very bitter at the beginning, but the more you go, the more nostalgic the taste will be.
Each of our growth is not based on the division of age, but after experiencing the trials of life, we are reborn.
In this life, it is not long to say that it is long, it is not short to say that it is short, and after experiencing the cold and warmth of the world, there will be no small difference in the cognition between people.
Some people will cocoon themselves in the difficulties of life, and some people will swim against the current when they encounter setbacks, which is why the world will produce all kinds of different voices.
Someone said, "Living is a beautiful thing." Since you have come to earth, you will love, to experience, to feel, to appreciate all the small joys. ”
Deeply believed that living is originally a kind of luck, the world is varied, only those who have survived the past can appreciate the beauty.
Born to be human, survive these three kinds of suffering, even if you win.
1. Survive the bitterness of learning in order to taste the sweetness of life
There is a saying that goes: "The only constant in the world is change." The only way to deal with change is to learn. Learning is not learning knowledge, but learning the construction of thinking. ”
It is true that everything in the world is changing, and every state we are in may become a "lesson learned" for our next "restart".
In response to changes in life, we may not be able to change the outside world, but we can maintain a state of learning, and when we are able, we can cope with the accidents of life.
Liu Yuanyuan, the champion of "Super Speaker", was born in the cold door, and it was she who changed her destiny with her studies.
She has three children, and Liu Yuanyuan is the youngest.
Even if the family's financial conditions are not good, her parents did not let the three children drop out of school, but provided for them to finish college.
Liu Yuanyuan said that when she arrived at the middle school in the county, she once felt inferior because of the difference with the children in the city.
After all, as long as there is competition, there will be people competing.
But, fortunately, there was no rebellion in her adolescence. Why is that?
She said that because the eldest brother always used the money he saved to buy books for himself, when he knew things, he had an obsession with books.
But whenever there are negative emotions, they will look for peaceful answers in the book. And now, the name Liu Yuanyuan has become an inspirational label, and she is also using her ability to transmit the power of books.
I have to say that this is the charm of learning.
If Liu Yuanyuan is tied up by the poverty of her family, then it is difficult for her to have a transparent heart.
In this world, there is never a shortage of people with strong wills, and what is valuable is that no matter when, they can keep themselves in an empty cup state and achieve lifelong learning.
I think it's really hard to learn this, but when you get used to it, you'll have fun with it. This process of persistence is also a process of brewing beauty.
2. Survive the suffering of loneliness in order to counterattack and be reborn
Previously, there was a picture circulating on the Internet of a list of loneliness levels, which divided loneliness into 10 levels, with one person eating at the first level and a person going to the hospital for surgery at the tenth level.
The common characteristic revealed by the two extreme hierarchies is loneliness.
But is loneliness terrible?
I guess it wasn't that scary.
Zhou Guoping wrote in "Scraps of Paper in the Wind": "I am relaxed when I am alone, because I do not feel bored. Even if it is boring, bear it yourself, do not affect others, and do not need to feel uneasy. ”
In the same way, those who enjoy loneliness will also conquer loneliness and thus shape a perfect soul.
Because, only when you are alone, you can recognize yourself and not be disturbed by the outside world.
Before, a student at the university chatted with me, and she said that her room friendliness was like having an opinion about herself, and every time she went out to a party in the dormitory, she didn't call herself.
Moreover, in addition to myself, the other people in the dormitory also pulled a small group, which made me feel excluded.
Obviously, this is a contradiction in the relationship between college dormitories, and this is actually very common. Because, college is a small society, you can't make everyone like you, the difference is not the same.
I told this student that their deliberate alienation from you does not mean that you have a problem, but only that you do not have a tacit understanding of being friends.
So, instead of gambling with your roommates, learn to be alone. When no one walks into your circle, you are your own queen.
Then, in the "solitary" campus life, this student sister obtained various certificates, and is now a school intern teacher.
I have to say that the lonely time is really difficult, but it is dark before the dawn, don't bow to life before the goodness arrives.
This is not only a pity, but also a sadness.
In the short decades of life, there is always some time reserved for yourself, right?
3, survive the pain of making money, in order to experience the excitement of life
There's a saying that goes, "Instead of lowering your expenses, try to increase your income." That's the reason for the effort. ”
I'm convinced of that.
At the moment, if you are asked: what is most lacking?
I think eighty percent of people would probably answer "lack of money."
In this society, no one will feel that there is too much money, people without money run for life every day, and people with money are busy like "gyroscopes".
Even if the backgrounds and situations between people are different, everyone has one thing in common, that is, making money.
In the public perception, it is very vulgar to hang money on the lips. However, there is nothing wrong with "customary".
In this society, it is necessary to admit that we are just an ordinary person.
After graduating from university, his friend Xiao Li did not enter the enterprise under the arrangement of his family, but resolutely chose to pursue his dream and insisted on writing novels.
At first, when the family learned of his decision, they were very dissatisfied and directly cut off the financial help given to him. He said that at that time, after paying the rent in his pocket, he only had a few hundred yuan left, and even three meals a day had to be calculated.
He, on the other hand, never stopped writing novels to sustain his life because of the harsh conditions.
Fortunately, he finished his first novel and achieved a stable monthly income.
He said that before, he only regarded writing as an interest, but now he regards writing novels as a belief and uses novels to make money.
Because, after surviving the most difficult time, he will experience all kinds of life in search of inspiration. Isn't that a surprise?
The same is true of us as ordinary people.
Only when we have enough economic strength can we have more possibilities to see the outside world.
Xiaoyuan's message: Suffering is also a life experience, perhaps, when we encounter difficulties, we once thought of escaping.
However, the process of our struggle with life is also the process of exercising ourselves.
No one can succeed casually, and instead of complaining about life, it is better to cultivate themselves. In this way, you will not fail yourself.
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