The subtitle of the book is Living in the Truth of Life. The implication is that many people live in illusion, consciously or unconsciously deceiving themselves.
There is a particularly interesting saying on the Internet, "It's so cruel that even I cheated", which refers to the use of beauty functions when taking pictures. This kind of self-deception and self-deception in life abounds.
I often have a practice, if I don't get it, I just say it's not good and I don't like it. Later, I learned that "if you can't eat grapes, you can say that grapes are sour", which belongs to a "rationalized" psychological defense mechanism.
To face the truth of life is to bravely open your inner eyes and see clearly the hidden and unbearable things in your heart.
In the practice of reading a book and imitating at the same time, I have two experiences.
One. Develop the habit of self-vipassana
There are two kinds of evaluations of me by people around me, one is that I am very angry, this evaluation is mentioned by my family, and the other is that I have a low material desire, which is said by a friend.
The essence of both evaluations is the same, that is, I rarely shop and rarely give gifts. As a woman, I don't love shopping and don't go into the mall except to buy groceries. The same is true for online shopping, directly search for necessities and buy the offline line.
I know very little about many new products, and I don't have a preference for goods, so how can I give gifts to others?
I used to be proud of this, thinking that I had strong self-control, was not tempted by merchants, and entered the "minimalist" era ahead of schedule.
A friend said, "If you haven't enjoyed it, you're not entitled to say you don't like it." True "minimalism" is a return after excessive materialistic enjoyment.
Although fishermen and rich people bask in the sun, there is an essential difference behind them.
I began to keep asking myself, there are so many good things in the mall, do you really not want them? The answer is no.
The truth is that my parents kept on frugal education from childhood to adulthood, which destroyed my "superfluous" desires. I remembered a sentence I once read, "The sugar that you didn't want when you were a child, you don't want it when you grow up." "That's true.
In the future, I want to cultivate this kind of self-contemplation into a habit. Do everything as psychologically as deeply as possible.
Two. Cultivate the courage to face the truth
The "rationalized" psychological defense mechanism is to create "reasonable" reasons to explain and cover up self-harm. The essence of self-deception and concealment is that one's own heart is hurt, and of course it takes courage to heal.
Liking good things is normal psychology, and the reasons for not buying them will be possible, including not being able to afford them. When you can't afford it, you need to accept that you don't make enough money and lack of ability.
Unable to advance to a raise at work, you also need to accept that your ability is limited and not good enough.
Learning to see your shortcomings and flaws is an ability, and daring to admit your stupidity and ignorance is a kind of courage.
In the days to come, I want to cultivate this courage to face my imperfections, accept the parts that cannot be changed, and actively improve the parts that can be changed.
Scott, author of The Road Few, argues that "almost everyone has a psychological problem, but to a different degree; almost everyone has a different degree of mental illness, but the time of illness is different." ”
I want to be my own "unwinding" person, constantly know myself, and strive to live "as I am" instead of "as I wish".
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