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"I only have one friend, am I a failure?" The other day, reader Xiao Wei asked such a question.
In fact, there have not been many friends, but in jing, a true friend, is enough to be better than several wine and meat friends.
True friends, one is enough.
Just like Guan Zhong and Bao Shuya, after Bao Shuya died, Guan Zhong cried: The parents of those who gave birth to me, and Bao Ziye, who knew me;
Also like boya and bell period, alpine flowing water to find Zhiyin, after the death of the bell period, Boya does not play drums and pianos for life;
They all said: "A thousand gold is easy to get, but it is difficult to find a confidant." ”
Some people, you can't say where he is good, but as soon as you get along, it makes you very comfortable to see each other and hate late.
And some people, you can't say where he is bad, as soon as you contact, it makes you very disgusted and avoids it.
Actually, it's easy to understand this feeling.
Because the former is a sincere person, the person who really gets along with you will naturally make you very comfortable and comfortable.
And the latter is a hypocritical person, always hypocritical to get along with you, naturally will make you feel all kinds of uncomfortable.
In reality, people often ask me: "What is a true friend like?"?
Actually, true friends, this is it.
The person who often resolves the embarrassment for you and breaks the siege for you is a true friend.
When you face the harsh rebuke of others and are in an embarrassing position, the person who can break the siege for you is a true friend.
Because for others to break the siege, often risk offending another person, if a person always for you to break the siege, then it means that this person, for you to offend others, he is really for your good, must be a true friend worth cherishing.
A person who often relieves people of the siege is usually delicate in mind and has a strong ability to empathize, and it is naturally impossible to see without eyesight.
They help a person not a whim of justice, but the result of careful consideration, and only those they approve of will help in this way.
I once saw the question: "When you are in danger of injury, will you choose to leave your friends behind, or will you choose to stay and fight with your friends?" ”
There is an answer below, which I deeply believe.
The answer goes like this: "If I were really friends with him, I would stay and help him without hesitation, and if I was just a wine and meat friend with him, then I would run first without looking back." ”
People are selfish, others are willing to help you, it is enough love between you, and others are not willing to help you, it is also their duty, because the relationship between you is not enough.
A person who can not flee on his own in times of crisis and fight side by side with you to take risks must be a real friend.
True friends have always been people who can stand in front of you, shield you from the wind and rain, and solve your problems.
In the face of crisis, the true friend thinks of you, and the false friend thinks only of himself, and then flees without turning his head, and will not share half of it for you.
The person who often reveals his heart to you is a true friend.
The thing that people are most afraid of is that their weaknesses and flaws are known to others.
There are usually only two objects for the average person to reveal their hearts.
One is someone who is completely trustworthy, and the other is a stranger who has nothing to do with each other.
The former is trusting enough to be able to speak anywhere in one's heart and to express oneself thoroughly.
And the latter, because they are strangers, everyone does not know each other, even if it is all out, it will not affect their own points.
This is also why everyone loves to hide their identities and speak their hearts in the tree hole.
This is not only an outlet, but also a manifestation of one's true self.
In reality, if your friend often confides in you about his unknown side, then he treats you seriously.
He is only for you, he does not care and hide, in front of you he can show the most real everything, happy and happy, remorseful and remorseful, completely indifferent to whether you will laugh at him, or even harm him.
For a person, usually only if you trust a person enough will you say all the words in your heart.
When you meet such a friend, I hope you can cherish it, keep his trust in you, and repay the favor.
When you trust a person unreservedly, there will only be two outcomes in the end, either the person in life or a lesson in life.
When you are at a low point, the person who can still pull you is a true friend.
They all said: "It is easy to add flowers to the cake, but it is difficult to send charcoal in the snow." ”
A true friend is not someone who can add icing on the cake to you, but someone who can avoid you when you are in trouble, and he can still reach out and pull you.
When you are at a low point, the person who can still pull you must be your true friend.
True friends can often send charcoal in the snow, because they do not ask for returns, while false friends can only share the blessings, because there are only interests in their eyes.
As the saying goes: "The hustle and bustle of the world is for profit, and the hustle and bustle of the world is for the benefit of the future."
For those who help us regardless of gains and losses, we should repay the peach, the grace of the dripping water, and repay the spring.
Even if the relationship is good, don't ignore gratitude, because others have no obligation to help you, everything is someone else's affection, we should understand and repay.
Human feelings should come and go, rather than always let one party pay unilaterally, and then completely chill the heart.
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