In folk customs, the whole waxing moon is also known as the month of sacrifice, which is the month of worship of ancestors. Many vendors engaged in the funeral business will take this opportunity to make a lot of money, and the cemetery staff will also take this opportunity to wait for the families of the deceased in the cemetery.
The purpose of squatting on the family is because the "due tide" of 20 years of payment in the cemetery has arrived, and only through this method can the "missing" family members be found, once the family is found, the cemetery will know the reason, and persuade the family members to quickly renew the expenses for the deceased, perhaps many people will be unhappy in their hearts, and feel that the staff suddenly "jumped" out to ask for money when the family was sad and sad.
So, is this cemetery really reasonable? At first, I did not understand, because in our rural hometown in Hubei, every household is buried in the soil, and after the death of relatives, it is directly buried in their own crops, the land is their own, you can bury it for as long as you want, there is no one to manage, and there is no "cemetery management fee".
It wasn't until I saw the real situation in the cemetery that I understood that the cemetery is not older and more valuable, and as the cemetery exists for longer, the more responsibilities and obligations the families need to bear, the reasons behind it are helpless.
The lease of the "old tomb" expired but no one renewed it, and the reasons given by the family were heart-stopping.
Last week I accompanied my in-laws to the cemetery to visit the grave, the cemetery staff after checking the files of the deceased told us that the management of the cemetery of the husband and grandmother is about to expire for 1 year, in order not to affect the "life" of the deceased, it is recommended that we renew the contract in advance, and we can currently choose to renew the management fee for 5 years and 10 years.
So the old bus money to Grandma renewed the contract for another 10 years, when we handled related business in the cemetery office, we happened to see that in the open space outside the cemetery office, there were some broken urns and urns scattered, and 6 staff members took the registration form and directed the workers to find the corresponding tombstones one by one, and numbered accordingly.
Seeing the scene in front of us, we were all shocked, the ashes of the deceased were mixed together, it was impossible to distinguish who it was, the urn had been corroded and tattered because it had been buried for too long, and the father-in-law quickly asked the staff who helped us handle the business, what was the situation with these ashes discarded on the ground?
The staff glanced at the ashes outside and helplessly told us:
When we paid the money and prepared to leave, there was also a family that came to renew the cemetery management fee, the family has been overdue for 4 months, the cemetery has contacted the family many times to renew the contract, but the family can not come for various reasons, when the cemetery said to deal with the ashes according to the ownerless grave, the family rushed back from the field to pay the fee.
Cemetery staff told us that such a situation is very common, now there are many graves more than 10 years old in the cemetery, every year the Qingming Festival no family members come to worship, some tombstones have been weathered have been damaged, and even the cemetery of the last year looks very broken, want to contact the family to come and repair the cemetery to the deceased, 70% of the family members directly in the phone to refuse and do not care, the family members said that people have been dead for so many years, there is no need to waste money on this.
Afterwards, we asked the cemetery administrator, like our family, if the management of the deceased has expired, but the family members are in the field, for various reasons can not come to renew the contract, then the cemetery will also directly dig out the ashes and dispose of it at will?
The cemetery leaders told us that such a practice as "digging up ashes" is actually helpless, but now the land resources are limited, and the pits of the cemetery are also limited, the market demand is large, and the pits are getting less and less, so the cemetery will clean up some unowned graves every once in a while.
Generally speaking, from the social and moral level, they will not discard any ashes, because the cemetery also knows that there are many cases of no worship and no one renewing management, some may have no offspring in the family, some may have descendants or family members have gone abroad, or they may have gone to live in other places, and the Qingming Festival cannot come back to worship the ancestors.
Before dealing with the "ownerless cemetery", they will try all means to contact the families of the deceased, such as through the mobile phone number reserved at that time, if they cannot be contacted, they will finally report to the police station, through the police station to find the contact information of the family, it is really impossible to contact, and the cemetery will not immediately "dig the grave".
They will also leave a deadline for the family, wait a few months to see if there are relatives to come to claim, if they really can't wait, they will deal with it separately, after all, the contact information changes too quickly, and some people can change several numbers in half a year.
Isn't it permanent for cemeteries to spend money to buy them? Why a 20-year renewal?
Many people will have questions: when I first bought a cemetery for my family, the cemetery told us that it was permanent, so why pay a fee for 20 years since the cemetery is permanently inhabited?
answer:
In fact, the use period of the cemetery is the same as the use period of the land, just like the commercial housing is a 70-year property right.
Regarding the service life and renewal fee of mainland cemeteries, Articles 16 and 17 of Chapter II of the Interim Measures for the Administration of Cemeteries issued by the Ministry of Civil Affairs provide as follows:
1. Article 16 stipulates that the one-time collection of tomb management fees for commercial cemeteries shall not exceed 20 years at a time.
2. Article 17 stipulates that where ashes or remains are buried in a commercial cemetery, the bereaved owner shall pay the tomb rental fee, construction materials, burial fee and tomb protection management fee in accordance with the regulations.
To sum up, the cemetery belongs to the land of the state, its property rights belong to the state, and what we spend money to buy is only its right to use. Just like buying a house, after buying a house, it does not mean that the house will always belong to us, when the 70-year property rights of the property expire, if the state requires the recovery of the land, it also has the right to bulldoze all the properties on the land.
May be different in each area of the cemetery use rights period, if the city's resident population is relatively large, especially the elderly population is large, then the city's annual mortality rate will certainly be higher than other "younger" cities, so the utilization rate of the cemetery will be very high, so the city in order to improve the use of the cemetery generally set the "land use right" for about 20 years, after 20 years to pay the management fee, overdue will be treated as a masterless tomb.
If after 20 years, if the cemetery has not been able to contact the family to renew the management fee, how will the cemetery deal with it?
Taking Liaoning Province as an example, according to the regulations in the Measures for the Administration of Cemeteries in Liaoning Province issued in 1995:
For those whose families are late in paying the cemetery management fee and have no way to contact the family, the cemetery will generally solve the problem like this:
1. The original urn is numbered and buried deeply, and the vacated cemetery pit is re-"listed" and sold to the next family.
2. Transfer the urn to a suitable columbarium to avoid the sudden appearance of relatives after many years to find trouble.
Some cemeteries will still mark and register the urn after removing it, and one day when the family comes to claim the ashes, the cemetery will also go to the columbarium to look for ashes according to the registration information.
In fact, paying the cemetery management fee to the deceased on time is also a kind of respect for the deceased, just like the property fee we usually pay, if you do not pay the property fee, the street lights in the community are broken, there is no one to repair, the garbage in the community is not cleaned, if we encounter any trouble in the housing in our lives, the property will not be managed.
The nature of the cemetery is the same, it is also necessary to make money, if the family members do not pay the fee, who pays the workers of the cemetery? With no one paying, why should the cemetery caretakers maintain the cleanliness of the cemetery for you?
Many people think that the cemetery management fee is to make money for the dead, in fact, some moral kidnapping, if the cemetery management does not have any profit, it is estimated that few people are willing to engage in this job, after all, it is dealing with the dead, people have a sense of awe, unprofitable who wants to do it?
Will the family members of the cemetery have to pay a large fee again?
The reason why many people are reluctant to renew the contract of the deceased after the expiration of the 20-year cemetery management fee is that they are afraid that the second renewal will require a large amount of money.
After all, 20 years ago, the cemetery may only need a few thousand yuan to buy, now the cemetery needs 3-200,000 yuan per square meter, with the price getting higher and higher, the price level of 20 years ago and the current price affirmation standard is different, 20 years ago the management fee may be a few dollars or a dozen dollars, 20 years later what price can not be predicted.
At present, the current law does not clearly stipulate the treatment of the later stage of the cemetery, how to renew the cemetery after the expiration of the 20-year period, how much money to renew, and what price to pay the standard, etc., so it brings great problems to the cemetery and the family.
In March 2012, the National Development and Reform Commission and the Ministry of Civil Affairs issued the Guiding Opinions on Further Strengthening the Management of Funeral Service Fees, which clearly stated:
1. The standard for collecting cemetery maintenance and management service fees from Qingdao Ballantine Cemetery and Jiufeng Cemetery is 200 yuan per year, and the renewal period is 5 years in principle.
2. Taking Harbin Cemetery as an example, the price of the tomb is less than 10,000 yuan (including 10,000 yuan), the annual management fee is 120 yuan; the price is 10,000-30,000 yuan (including 30,000 yuan), the annual management fee is 190 yuan; the price is 30,000-70,000 yuan (including 70,000 yuan), the annual management fee is 300 yuan; the price is 70,000-100,000 yuan (including 100,000 yuan), the annual management fee is 400 yuan; the price is more than 100,000 yuan, and the annual management fee is 500 yuan.
3. Taking the Yuhanshan Sabbath Cemetery in Jinan City as an example, the ordinary cemetery that has been in place for 20 years (the original price is less than 10,000 yuan) shall not charge a maximum of 15 yuan / month for cemetery management fees, and the maximum management fee for medium and high-end cemeteries shall not exceed 25 yuan / month, and the implementation period shall be 5 years, and it will need to be re-submitted for approval after expiration.
4, to Shenyang ashes into the soil tree planting memorial forest as an example, more than 80% of the cemetery for "pure tree burial", tree burial has no tomb fee, only charge management fees, 20 years ago was about 300-400 yuan, according to the cemetery manager, the renewal of 20 years, the total price is still about 300-400 yuan.
5, take the ordinary traditional cemetery in Shenyang as an example, 20 years ago the price of the tomb is generally about 3,000 yuan, if according to the current year's selling price of 1% charging standard, the annual management fee is 30 yuan, if a one-time payment for 20 years, the management fee is 600 yuan, how to renew the contract in 20 years needs to be re-approved.
Is the cemetery free to buy? What do I need to be aware of when buying a cemetery?
Now many elderly people will prepare their own things in advance, such as preparing birthday clothes in advance, and the elderly in the countryside will build a coffin for themselves in advance and buy a good cemetery for themselves in advance.
The old people are prepared for the rain, the second is to reduce some burdens for their children, after all, the cemetery fee is more expensive every year, and now the cemetery fee is the cheapest 30,000 yuan a square meter, and no one dares to guarantee what the price of the cemetery will be in 10 years.
Buying a cemetery is like buying a house, although the occupants are different, but they can't be sloppy either. We all know that there are many routines for buying a house in the real estate industry now, if you don't know a few acquaintances, it is easy to step on the pit just by personal experience, and the same is true for buying a cemetery.
1, pay attention to the "second way dealer" when purchasing, according to the relevant laws and regulations of the mainland, the cemetery is not allowed to pre-sale and private transfer, so when purchasing the cemetery, we must pay attention to whether there is a private scalping behavior in the cemetery to prevent the purchase of second-hand cemeteries.
2, the construction industry pays attention to architectural feng shui, buying a cemetery is also called "buying a yin house", coupled with the funeral culture is broad and profound, there is a deep knowledge, when buying a cemetery, it is best to invite a person who knows a little feng shui to go together, you can refer to it. In general, there will be many such people near the cemetery, but there are also some who are impersonated by scammers or collude with the cemetery to extort, and we need to be cautious when looking for people.
3, buying a cemetery is the same as buying a house, there is a number of years. Before we buy, we had better find out the price, shop around, and be sure to personally go to the cemetery to investigate the environment, understand the situation of the cemetery, and then sign the contract. Before signing the contract, it is necessary to look forward to the service life of the cemetery, so as to avoid the situation of "being forced to move out before the time limit is reached".
4, the selection of cemetery cemetery must be combined with their own conditions, the general cemetery is built in the suburbs, do children in order to be able to honor filial piety, it is best to combine the actual situation, calculate the distance between the back and forth, the time to choose the closest to their home, so as not to miss the best time when worshiping in the future.
5, the best way to buy a cemetery is to choose some more famous, formal cemeteries. It is necessary to see whether the sales unit is legal, and to see if there are certificates issued by the industry and commerce, civil affairs and land departments, so as to avoid the relocation of graves caused by the purchase of illegal cemeteries.
epilogue.
At present, the mainland has been advocating and guiding people to choose ecological and environmentally friendly funeral methods, such as tree burial, sea burial, lawn burial and so on.
These ecological funerals are more cost-effective and labor-saving than traditional cremations, both in terms of cost and future worship methods. As children and descendants, we may not be able to do our best when our relatives are alive, at least after they die, we should create a good place for them to sleep.
Now many urban cemeteries have introduced new policies: if the family is not willing to continue to renew the lease after the cemetery management fee expires, they can sign up for some ecological burials, such as tree burials and sea burials. Like The Fushou Garden in Zhengzhou has launched public welfare cemeteries such as wall burials and flower burials, which are relatively cheap in price and can take care of many families with poor economies, and have been welcomed by the public in recent years.