Two days after chasing a new drama, I just watched two episodes and fell in love with the male second in it, and then immediately introduced my "new boyfriend" to my friends.
She replied perfunctorily: "How many boyfriends have you had this year?" "
Counting carefully, this year a total of four dramas have been chased, and almost every time I change a drama, I change a "boyfriend"
So by now, this is the fourth "boyfriend" of the year.
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I found that I was really a very "flowery" person, and it was easy to like someone, and I quickly didn't like that person.
Just like when chasing a drama, every time you watch a play, you will like a character in it, and then try to understand him in reality.
At first, the more I learned about it, the more I liked it, but then one day after I found out that he had a small flaw that I didn't like, I immediately didn't like it that much.
This kind of like, said deep is not deep, said shallow is not shallow, basically lasts for two or three months and then fades.
I remembered when I used to go to school and had a crush on my classmates, it seemed like this:
Because others brought me breakfast, I liked each other, and then I didn't like it because he brought food to other girls;
I liked a guy because he explained me a physics problem, but then he didn't like it right away because he laughed at me for being fat;
He was even deeply attracted to a boy because he was handsome and tall, but then accidentally saw him spitting on the ground, and he was instantly dead.
The top is fast, the bottom is faster.
So during school, I liked about a dozen people back and forth, but only two people actually talked about.
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Speaking of which, my view of love is actually quite complicated, neither do I like that kind of fast food love, nor do I have a lot of patience to like someone for a long time.
So those two relationships didn't last until a year.
When it comes to the reasons for the breakup, it seems to be almost the same, all because we have never really understood each other.
The first relationship was in junior high school, it can be said that the conversation was confused, just because the other party liked me, I naturally had a good feeling for him.
During their time together, he wrote me love letters, gave me gifts, picked me up and dropped me off at school, and helped me copy my homework.
But then suddenly one day, we had a misunderstanding because of a small thing that couldn't be any smaller—he called me I didn't hear it, so I left alone.
He felt that I didn't have him in my eyes, didn't care about him, and then broke up with me.
Even if I had explained it to him, he really didn't notice or hear it at that time, and he didn't believe it.
Thus, a young and ignorant first love came to an end.
Although that kind of youthful and childish love will feel simple and beautiful to this day, it is also really fragile, so fragile that a suspicion can end immediately.
After all, at that time, what we had between us was only a hormonal impulse, and did not form any deep trust and understanding.
So a small misunderstanding can destroy a love
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And the same mistake, I made a second time in a different form.
The second relationship is a long-distance relationship, because the frequent chat creates the illusion of encountering "true love", feeling that you have met a rare "confidant".
Because we have endless topics to talk about every day, from daily life to internet hot terriers.
But even then, we don't really get to know each other, because our chats never go deep into the level of values, they all stay on the surface of commonality.
So that after we really got together, we found that the three views of the two of us were fundamentally different.
I think that in my senior year, graduate school is more important than finding a job, whether you can get in or not, this experience will have a profound impact on my future self.
But he believes that it is better to work early in graduate school, and many times, experience is more important than academic qualifications.
In a sense, we are both right about our point of view, but what is wrong is that we can't agree with and accept each other's point of view.
So it was natural to break up later.
And after the breakup, we weren't too upset because we never had to be each other.
Those places that I liked each other at first were easily found in others.
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In fact, if you think about it, "it's easy to like a person" and "it's easy not to like a person" are, in essence, a meaning.
They have all made judgments before they have entered a deep understanding.
And the two are also often causal.
In other words, falling in love too quickly is more likely to lead to a breakup too quickly.
Because we have not found the real specialness of the other party, that is, his irreplaceability.
Then the breakup is to be expected.
If you are very replaceable in a company, it is difficult for you to stay in this company for a long time, because it is easy to find someone who is similar to you or more suitable than you to replace you.
So later, when I meet someone I like, I will ask myself: Do you see the irreplaceability of the other party?
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