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Lao Tzu said, "Who knows the extremes of misfortunes and blessings, and the blessings and misfortunes?" ”
From an early age, our parents warned us not to cause trouble.
Reality tells us that it is a blessing rather than a curse, and that it is a curse that cannot be avoided.
How can everything be as good as you want in life? Always find ways to reduce the disaster and actively resolve the disaster.
A person who is far from evil has the following three abilities.
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First, improve control and not go to extremes.
There is a story in "Zhuangzi": In the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a man named Ziqi who raised eight sons.
He asked his friend Jiufang, which son is more blessed?
Jiu Fang said that Yu was the most blessed person, who could drink and eat with the king, and enjoy such treatment for the rest of his life.
Zi Qi cried and said why did Zi Qi fall to such a point. One person's credit is too great and dangerous.
Later, as an emissary, He went to the Yan Kingdom, but was stopped by robbers on the way and lost his hands and feet.
Man, too lucky, too high a position, too much responsibility, not a good thing. If you are not careful, you will fall into trouble. In ancient times, there was a saying that "accompanying the king is like accompanying the tiger", which is to warn us to correctly treat fame and fortune, and if we feel that we are incompetent and have a sense of crisis, we will take the initiative to give in.
Compared with The Rafters, the slaughter of sheep in the Chu State is much more rational, and he and the fallen King of Chu were born and died, but they did not want any rewards. After the king of Chu was revived, he retired and lived a carefree civilian life, relying on the sale of mutton to live.
As the old saying goes, "When the water is full, it overflows, and when the moon is full, it loses." ”
It is true that when a person becomes more and more conspicuous, it is a sign of perfection, and it is not necessarily a good thing to be alert in time.
When people reach the top of the mountain, they can "see the mountains and small mountains", but the truth that "one mountain does not allow two tigers" will be reflected immediately. The chance of being hurt by someone is greater, it is better to take the initiative to go downhill and drown yourself in the crowd.
Actor Xu Jinglei said: "The more beautiful things are, the more they will increasingly show their extreme polarization, how much they get is how heavy they lose, how much happiness there is how much sadness is waiting for you, this feeling makes people have an inexplicable anxiety." ”
The flowers bloom to the extreme, especially beautiful, but the next day they wither; life is extreme, particularly dazzling, but soon be attacked by people, and will also be lost because there is no way to go.
Control your desires, avoid going to extremes, and disasters will be far away. At any time, look at everything calmly, with the development of life, ups and downs, do not insist on staying in a wonderful place.
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Second, improve the judgment of the trend, and start and end well.
As the saying goes: "Planting melons gets melons, and planting beans gets beans." ”
Many disasters, there are foreshadowings at the beginning, and they can be adjusted in the middle, but we are all paralyzed, resulting in unsatisfactory results.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, the Duke of Jin wanted to attack the State of Yu and needed to pass through the State of Yu. In order to borrow the road, he gave Yu Guo many gifts to show friendship.
Yu Guo's minister Gong Zhiqi thought that this was something that hurt the "brother country" and could not be done. The monarch did not believe, took the gift, and rejoiced.
After Jin Xiangong defeated Yu Guo, on the way back, he defeated Yu Guo together, which was really a double eagle with one stone.
Since ancient times, those who have gained the path have much help, and those who have lost the way have little help.
Yu Guo, who did not talk about the morality of brotherhood, was ostensibly calculated by the Jin State, but in fact it was "self-inflicted".
Master Zhuang Yuan said, "Your mind is the source of karma, and you have to see through the causal mirror principle of the root of this cosmic phenomenon, so that you can attain ultimate freedom, you can stay away from suffering, and you can get true happiness." ”
Evil people, expecting a happy ending, are simply whimsical. Although, relying on petty theft, you can also support yourself, but it will not last long; blackmailing and calculating others can make profits, but others will be alert and then bite back.
The roof leaks in the overnight rain, not god punishes you, but you usually do not accumulate virtue and blessings, open the roof, and have no idea of preparing for the rain.
You have no way of knowing what will happen in the future, but you can judge, and based on judgment, make the right choice without waiting for the outcome of things.
Blessed people, usually pay attention to life cultivation, improve the living environment, even if they encounter wind and rain, they will be protected by neighbors left and right, and the loss is smaller.
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Third, improve resilience and reverse the situation.
No matter how good you are, you can't always win, and you will inevitably lose. Therefore, when you fail, you must have resilience, stabilize yourself, and then start.
Smart people will take the initiative to make a "failed plan". Thus, he has the possibility of counterattack.
Music master Wang Luobin, who has a sad experience of being imprisoned and separated from his wife, but he insists on being an optimist and creates songs such as "In That Distant Place", which arouse people's beautiful yearning.
Contemporary writers and painters, Mu Xin, have ups and downs in their lives, whether in prison or when they are poor, they do not cry, and they can still make fun of themselves in pain, collecting messy paper and using them for writing. In prison, a book was written.
In life, we must dare to "think in the opposite way", and when the disaster comes, think and act in the opposite direction, then the farther you go, the farther away you will be from the disaster. Or, go beyond the other end of the plague and shake off all the shackles that exist.
If you look at the flood, you will find that there are always some mainstay trees. Their roots are deeper than the average tree, and this is the "concentration" that we cannot see. After the flood, the speed of their recovery is very obvious.
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The Tao Te Ching lists four causes of disasters.
"It is better to hold on to it than to be profitable; it is not as sharp as it is, and it cannot be guaranteed for a long time." The hall is full of gold and jade, and Mo Zhi can keep it; rich and proud, he blames himself. Success and retreat, the way of heaven also. ”
Life is too perfect, just stop, allow life to have shortcomings; when the sharp edge is exposed, it will converge and let yourself slip like a pebble; when there is a lot of wealth, it will hide and actively give alms; when it is proud and complacent, it will immediately repent, be an ordinary person, and discard achievements and honors.
The law of the development of disasters is not a straight line, but a wavy line. Between ups and downs, you can neither go with the flow, nor can you stagnate, nor can you stand on a high place for a long time.
Most of the calamities are not in the matter itself, but in the heart of man.
People who can control the inner world can always stop the loss in time.
Blessings favor those who have peace of mind and live a simple and simple life.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
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