All losses will return in another way

01

Life is to have and lose at the same time.

Sanmao once said: "What heaven does not give me, no matter how tightly I clasp my ten fingers, it still leaks." What is given to me, no matter how I have lost my hand in the past, will have it. ”

To gain and lose is to be doomed.

Some things can't be forced.

In the TV series "The Legend of Wulin", a conversation between Bai Zhantang and Tong Xiangyu has impressed me so far.

Bai Zhantang: "You think life is hard now, right?" ”

Tong Xiangyu: "Bitter is not bitter, but quite happy." But how tired I am. ”

Bai Zhantang: "Tired, well, you go back now when your eldest lady goes." You're certainly not tired, go back. ”

Tong Xiangyu: "How bitter it is, there is no freedom at all." ”

Bai Zhantang: "XiangYu, life is like this, bitter or tired, you always have to pick the same." Whatever good things you have left alone. ”

If you think about it, life is not like this, what good things can make you occupy alone, everything goes well, and everything is owned.

Having it while losing it is the norm of life.

Just like the supreme treasure in "Journey to the West": how to save you without wearing a tight hoop? Put on the tight hoop, how to love you?

Like Edward scissors: you can't hug you when you pick up a knife, and you can't protect you when you put down a knife.

While gaining one thing, we also lose another thing.

Choosing one path means abandoning another.

I once read the saying: You can have everything, but not at the same time.

Just like the cycle of the four seasons, the sun and the moon alternate, and the bloom of spring flowers will lose the full load of autumn fruits.

Enjoy the sun and lose the sparkle of the stars.

Gain comes from loss, and gain must be lost.

It is enough to gain calmly and lose indifferently.

02

Loss, although there are regrets, but there are also growths.

There is such a classic line in the TV series "Journey to the West".

There was once a sincere love in front of me, I did not cherish, and when I lost it, I regretted it, and the most painful thing in the world was this. 

If Heaven could give me a chance to do it again, I would say three words to the girl: I love you. 

If I had to add a deadline to this love, I would have liked to be... Ten thousand years.

Many people and things in this world, when they are in front of you and accompany you, you love to answer and turn a blind eye.

Wait until it is really lost, only to find its importance, and regret it.

Surveys have shown that:

The sadness of losing something is always far greater than the joy of getting something.

In fact, the regrettable thing about loss is that it is impossible to lose and regain, and it is impossible to start again.

Loss is always regrettable, but it also allows us to learn to grow.

Losing the people we care about makes us learn to cherish.

Losing what we like, let us learn to love and care.

Loss allows you to remember and learn lessons. Aware of the shortcomings of the past, he began to improve; he discovered the negligence of the past and began to attract attention.

Don't be wrong, you can meet the right.

Adjust the wrong course in order to sail to the right shore.

Those who lose because of their negligence, those regrets caused by their indifference, little by little adjustment, little by little improvement, are growth.

03

All losses will return in another way.

Some time ago, Karen Mok announced that she would stop working for a year and concentrate on accompanying her husband.

As soon as the news came out, many people said that she was too stupid to lose such a good career in vain.

You know, not long ago, she brushed up the circle of friends with the hit song "Slowly Like You", and because of her self-disciplined good figure in the concert, she was on Weibo hot search.

In this era of small fresh meat, it is not easy for Mo Wenwei, who is nearly fifty years old, to achieve such results.

She could have taken advantage of the chase, but chose to stop working for a year.

In the eyes of others, she lost the perfect opportunity, but in her own view, she gained time to accompany her lover.

As the saying goes: "Lost east, harvested mulberry." ”

Life is a big game of chess, and if you take a detour here, you will gain something there.

In recent years, Sun Li's works have become less and less, and on average, only one film and television drama is filmed a year.

Compared with those female stars who shoot five or six plays a year, it can be said that there are very few.

Many fans feel that Sun Li has such good acting skills and resources, it is a pity not to shoot.

There are even netizens urging her on Weibo to quickly resume work and film.

However, Sun Li was not moved, and still focused on accompanying the child.

Open Weibo, you will find that Sun Li's daily life is to take the child to the picking garden, take the child to see the animals, and draw with the child...

Many people feel sorry for her to slow down her career, but she is happy to accompany her children to thrive.

Like a seesaw, only one side is low and the other side can be high.

Fish and bear paws are often not compatible.

Only by abandoning one side can we achieve the other.

What you lose is actually helping you gain another kind of gain.

If it backfires, please believe that there must be other arrangements.

When you regret losing, maybe around the corner, you can reap another gift.