In fact, the people who are really emotionally slow are those who seem to be particularly active, but often people with this personality will not think that they are slow heat, and even they themselves will think that they are not slow heat.
Relatively speaking, people who act actively but have slow feelings are not easy to be understood by those around them, and it is more difficult to understand.
At the same time, you will also find that in real life, people who often act particularly active are the ones who are easily hurt in their feelings.
What kind of logic is this? Let's take a constellation as an example to deeply analyze the special secret in this logic.
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Sagittarius emotions have always been considered extroverted, that is, Sagittarius emotions are expressed through their own actions, and these embodied behaviors will also be affirmed by the people around them with a message that "Sagittarius is expressing his emotions." ”
If I say this understanding is wrong, you may disagree, but in fact this understanding of the shooter's emotions is really inaccurate.
In fact, the real emotions of the shooter are in the stomach, and it is difficult to express them.
The shooter is fraternal, which I believe many friends know, of course, the fraternity attribute we are talking about here is not double quotation marks, so its meaning refers to the positive meaning.
Let's not talk about the love and feelings of the shooter, let's first talk about the friendship of the shooter, after all, friendship is a feeling that the shooter likes and values.
The shooter will not be very repulsive to his friends around him, who can say a few words, and who can get along, especially on the surface, but in fact you ask the shooter, "Are these friends around you really your friends?" ”
No, the friendship of the shooter is actually very single, that is, two people in a two-way relationship, basically cannot be three or five people.
He had only one, or two friends, and the friend here was the one who was affirmed by the shooter's heart.
For other friends, the shooter shows fraternity, such as seeing that others are uncomfortable, always wanting to comfort and comfort, seeing that others need help, and those who can help will also help.
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In the circle of friendship, all you can see is the archer's fraternal attributes, very kind and generous, hip-hop, but you can't see the shooter's own attributes.
What does that mean? This point is a heavy point for the shooter, to put it simply, you can see the shooter comforting others, comforting others, helping others, but you can't see that the shooter needs or sends out signals that he needs comfort and help.
This type of behavior you can't see here in the shooter, the normal situation is like this, for example, you find a shooter is very sad, very sad, you ask him what's wrong, is there something wrong.
How will the shooter answer? The standard answer is "I'm okay, no problem." ”
Is this "normal"? Of course, it is not normal, and even strong people have sad times, and there are also irresistible negative emotions, why is the shooter like this?
On the one hand, too strong self-esteem does not allow themselves to see the bad and weak image, on the other hand, they do not want to pass on any negative energy to the people around them.
Following this logic, we can say that Sagittarius's self-healing ability is still strong, and some bad things rot in their stomachs, but the real question is, can these problems be solved?
Certainly not, so the shooter's self-healing is to "let go of himself", let himself not think about those bad things, let himself think, to contact people and things that can make him happy.
In short, it is not a problem, this is a transfer solution, which is somewhat similar to the solution of the wind sign Gemini.
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Then on the way of the shooter's experience, some emotional contusions, failures, or failures, will eventually accumulate in the shooter's stomach, and then you will find that the former very active, very talkative shooter seems to suddenly not like to talk much.
You may think that this is his maturity, but in fact he is like this because he has an unsolvable knot in his heart, so this knot is not opened, and the real emotions of the shooter are not normally output.
After saying this premise, let's talk about the love and feelings of the shooter, the shooter often takes the initiative when facing the people he likes and attracts him.
Note, however, that this initiative is not driven by heartfelt feelings, but by heartfelt curiosity and interest.
This cannot be related to feelings, at best it is a foreplay of feelings.
Then at this stage, the shooter does not need a run-in period, because they have not yet had time to how to run in, and they will not know much about a person in this short period of time.
Then there is a process that many friends are familiar with, when your relationship is confirmed, the shooter begins to rub, no longer so active, always gives you a feeling of "he seems to have lost interest in you".
What I would say is:
In fact, from here, from the time you find that the shooter is no longer active, it means that the shooter has just begun to be serious about you, serious about your relationship.
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Serious performance is "Do you like this person or not?" Will you think about how two people will get along, and what will happen if they continue to get along? ”
The answers to these questions, the logic behind the answers, is the special secret we're going to talk about today.
The shooter's no longer takes the initiative, this behavior is obviously because they have no motivation, and the loss of motivation is because there is nothing inside them that drives them anymore.
In this case, the shooter is weak, even confused and unprepared.
When he began to be serious, he found that the two people had arrived together, and found that he did not know each other very well, so what should he do?
The initiative before the shooter is actually a disguise, an instinctive behavior, not an emotional initiative.
At the same time, this does not understand that there are two layers of meaning, one layer is through contact, the shooter found some characteristics of the other party, and the personality point is unacceptable to himself.
The other layer is that the shooter finds that there are many advantages in the opponent, a lot of points to explore.
The first meaning is not necessary, it has been written before, we mainly say the second meaning, in the second case, the shooter will be driven again.
But he needs a reason not to embarrass himself and to make himself brave, and that is the other party's affirmation of him.
At this confused juncture, the opponent's affirmation of the shooter can drive the shooter.
So from this node, the shooter can really embark on the emotional road, which is a starting point.
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In fact, many people who take the initiative on the surface, the essence of slow heat of feelings is the same logic.
The initiative is because of likes and curiosity, but when these things have results, and at the same time face a person and relationship that they do not know much about, it is inevitable to be confused.
In this sensitive atmosphere, the encouragement and affirmation of the other party will have a strong impetus to the development of the relationship.
At the same time, the active personality of people is often optimistic, so it is easy to be too optimistic, so getting along with people who take the initiative to act in fact is slow and hot, can not always affirm, nor can it always be denied.
If he has been affirmative, then he will float, if he has been denying, then he will be more confused and will only escape.
When to affirm and when to deny, you should have a number in mind.
Finally, a practical piece of advice for friends who get along with shooters:
Get along with shooters, good or bad, and remember to get used to keeping a layer of window paper.
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